Beginning of a powerfull strong life!

Hi guys,
34yo. working with IT, so I am in front of the pc many hours a day.

After been peeping here a couple of times, wishing to quit.. but never did I create that profile. I just ended up doing the same ol'..
jumped in to the endless scrolling, looking for that 'perfect scene' or perfect girl to watch.

wow.. if i had spent just 1% of those hours, approaching real life girls out in the city.. I wouldn't have this lonely life!
I kept leaning to the oh so comfortable, quick release... and always ends up regretting that decision. every single time.

-- But NOT anymore!.. I've had it! --
Its a weak behavior..  Letting in to my screen-desires.. The quick fix.  I have decided that its done!.. No more!..


for 2015 and beyond.. No more PMO to fake-ass porn.. Its not real. I feel so weak and "used" after releasing the tension.
Its so not worth it.. throwing your manly-energy down the drain.
I want to use that energy and going out.. making mistakes with women, and eventually get some dates instead.

ps. i have had +30/40 partners so far.. but the last 3-4 years its been really low.. mostly 2-3 girls.
so I really want to go out and get social.

I have a feeling that the last years, have not helped me with PMO'ing.. Ive become more anti-social and not going that much out. I think its because of the 'quick-fix' and not caring afterwards .. not having the lust for women. Just made me go straight home from work, and do nothing..

Deep inside, I really want a women to be with, smell her, caress her and all of that. Just like the good old times. 
I know I have it in me!..  I just have to quit porn 100% so that wont interfear any more.

I have not PMO'd for 14 days now and whenever I see women on the net, I switch my mind and quickly say "No.. its not worth it.. dont keep watching any of it".. then I go away from the facebook or whatever it is.
I have not even been into a porn site or anything. .. for that, i am kind of proud of my selfe =) ..

I have seen how bad this addiction can damage... I lost my relationship with my fiancee because i'd rather want to watch porn, instead of having sex with her. I was obsessed with skinny blondes,, and she was not skinny and barbie looking..  (she was initially).. but it just chrashed from there.

anyways..  I dont know what more to write. I was kind of anxious to introduce myselfe. Dont know why.. I guess it was because i didnt know where to start with all of this.  I just know that PMO is not good for me.. not good for my brain.

I do feel some changes after the 14 days btw!.. Its hard every morning I wake up. I look much more sensually in womens eyes when out shopping.. They look back =)... Ive begun working out more..  so so far, its going really good actually.

I have been out gaming a bit as well. Not that much results though (mostly because I was shocked of how many women, actually likes me!).. so I bailed out before proceeding hehe. But its just stepping stones. I'll get better.. Just gotta keep at it.


alright, its 3am guys..  I hope to come back soon and keep you updated. It would actually be cool to get a quick hello back here.
That would help me even more in my journey to my life of *no more pmo + more women in my life*


over and out guys - thanks for reading this

@ ImInControl

What's up man.. Welcome to the Nation.

if i had spent just 1% of those hours, approaching real life girls out in the city.. I wouldn't have this lonely life!

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haha I think we've all had this thought at some level... I spent so much time on video games as well that I could have myself a few degrees and some skills lol. Artificial stimulation has a way hijacking our desires that's for sure. The good news is now you know the brain piece behind "why" this happens and how to correct it... reboot!

No more PMO to fake-ass porn.. Its not real. I feel so weak and "used" after releasing the tension.
Its so not worth it.. throwing your manly-energy down the drain.
I want to use that energy and going out.. making mistakes with women, and eventually get some dates instead.

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You already know that porn will not provide you with the pleasure and joy your heart desires, so I'd say your plan to stay away from pixels and start spending time with real people is one of the best decisions you can possibly make. Understand, at a really deep level, that porn is against your pleasure, not for it. This was one of the fundamental mindsets I had during my reboot and to this day that give me no desire whatsoever to watch pixels on a screen.

I have not PMO'd for 14 days

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Such a great start bro! Keep truckin' and keep reading up and posting when needed. You're doing awesome and just gotta stay strong and patient, this process can take a long time and be hell but it is always worth it if you stick to it.

But its just stepping stones. I'll get better.. Just gotta keep at it.

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^^Never forget this^^ You said it best

Hope the best for you man. Stick around and help others. You will find that sharing your story and experiences and also encouraging others will in turn help yourself and give you purpose in a community of people who can relate. Much Love

Excellent start my scandinavian brother!
You will only feel better from here! A new (and sexy) life awaits!

Hello ImInControl, Welcome to the Nation, it's so great that you are here with us. We can do it! I can't tell you how GOOD I feel with my progress and with my new mindset that I will never watch P again intentionally. I'm sure you do get more attractive for other people if you reboot. So good luck on your journey and please keep us updated.

Hey.
I configured my settings to receive e-mail when someone replied this post.. 

Strangely enough, since I posted.. I was waiting for a reply from anyone. I was out and thinking why no one replied my post. I never got any e-mails.
Kind of saddened me,, because I know I would do much better with some support.

So I just logged in,, saw the response from Gabe and I became thrilled!.. yah,, someone actually read my post - and even responded whohoo =D ..    (I must have done the e-mail thing wrong)
Thank you Gabe for such encouraging response! It truly helps to hear, that others are benefitting from rebooting.

Because some times I am doubting my selfe,, ("will this ever change" etc)..
But hey,, with encouraging words and support from you guys, I am sure I can be much stronger - no doubt!..

So my commitment to all of you, I will become a better version of my selfe and leave the pixels!..
One day, I hope to inspire and help others as well.

Thank you Fappy for saying its going to be a new and sexy life ahead .. I am excited as well.
Thank you Patrick for showing me, that you are happy with your progress and mindset..  and telling me this is much better.

Hi Everyone..
17 days in with no PMO at all.
--- 2015 will be an awesome year for all of us!!  ---

I am strong in my mind. I dont want P anymore and I am committed to this from now on. >> I will succeed 100% with your support  <<
I have created an daily todo thing on my wall for 2015

LINK >>> https://www.dropbox.com/s/gxgrzysgiqjx4nd/2015_Daily.png?dl=0


Its for me to be constantly reminded, the daily stuff i MUST do..  some stuff you dont feel like doing, but if you do,, in the long term it will benefit you.
Its for me to Change.. my old programming.. for something new. Now I know I will not accomplish all of the stuff each day, and that is OK. I wont beat myselfe up when I miss some of it.

The main reason is to be reminded.. about the small progress you can do each day.

If I can just be 1% better today, than I was yesterday.. I've progressed. I have grown.. I am becoming better. Just 1 single %.

That goes for PMO as well. If I can just keep back today.. it will benefit me in future.  and guys,, shit is crazy!.. I feel testostoron rising.. not sure if its placebo, but I wake up with a boner.. Right now I feel weird down there, like im a teenager again hehe.. (and im 34 now).  So its definetly doing some Stuff..

Now, I just gotta hit the streets, chat up pretty women and get some lays ..



Signing of with with a corny song haha; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=StTqXEQ2l-Y
Stay fresh guys - Stay strong in your minds!.. I know you can do it!..

Definitely a sign of recovery. Good for you! Hopefully you can use this newfound confidence and rock hard stiffy and get out and use it on some girls! Theyll love it!!

ImInControl, I can totally relate to where you are, as I've been in the PUA community (although I'm way more of a naturalist when it comes to my style as I don't use routines and all that, just be myself), and I have to tell you that doing a reboot can really help with your game.  As you already discovered, your confidence is boosted by a ton (I noticed this too), but just be careful not to go out and let your mind start going down its normal pathway, and then have to come home if you can't pull her and be alone.  Think of it as a journey (rebooting), and pulling girls as just part of it, make it rewarding for both of you guys.  Women really pickup on it when you're not trying to get laid too, I've found that women are naturally drawn to you when you're just not trying so hard with them.  Starting up a conversation and just screening them (I"m sure you know what I'm talking about) is often enough to get them really interested.  PM me anytime man, if you have any questions, I've got a lot of resources in this whole area.  Best of luck bro, and welcome!

Hey NTG and people..
shiatt,, 24 days and not relapse or anything.. Im actually proud of myselfe.  =D
There has been very small mind thoughts like "just watch P for a sec".. but my mind caught it quickly and said "Helll NO!!" .. So the force is with me haha. I keep thinking of something I read here,, "your mind will play tricks on you.. trying to justify that you should do it just once etc".. So ive learned off that. I am actually beginning to believe that I can do this.. all year.. all, forever?.. ..

Now, I just need to work on my social game. That part is reeally hard.. but I gotta start some where. I have a wing-man, but havent met him that often.. So I better meet up with him next week to start day-gaming and getting some chicks phone-no. Its time to be a man!.. Time to Step up and say Fuck this shit.. Im 34yo with no sex-life.. I am handsome and have all of my stuff totally taken care of!.. I should share it with a woman,, I deserve a good woman. I have just not had the confidence.. (thinking lower of myselfe).. But I wasnt raised to be a pussy...  Its time to take action and mess it up, so I can learn and progress.

some times I just seem going back to old habits.. staying inside the house and finding stuff to do.. could be whatever, laundry, cleaning, computer, .. stuff that will not help my social game. Its like im avoiding it..
Its not cool, because when I am with friends I talk too much about it.. Im like "yea i am daygaming, and doing something about my situation".. but actually,, Im not..  not as much as I really want.
I am kind of scared I guess...  but the crazy thing is,, what am I scared of?.. I stopped 30-40 women last quarter, and 99% positive outcomes (either I got numbers / they smiled and said thank u so much / they had a bf but thanked me / they praised me for doing it / they said I had balls for doing it)...  out of all girls, just 1 said "no i dont have time go away".. and I began laughing because I thought that was funny.

so whats stopping me?.. hmm..  I think its was mainly because I was with my wing-man I could do it. I havent done any approaches when im out alone or with my usual friends.


I have to work my social game.. its a must. I need all the coaching I can get.. Actually I got a response from a guy as well. My ego is trying to hold me back from contacting him (because he is younger than me).. but fuck it.. I have to improve my game. All help is needed right now.  Anyways, ill keep you updated if anything happens with my girl-gaming.

Actually have a date from tinder tomorrow.. I hope all turns out good =) I can feel my testostorone is like crazy haha.. So I will be taking action and trying to kiss her / do something!.. I'd rather risk rejection haha.. what is there to loose?.. Im not getting anything now, so better to risk it all right!..

so, another thing.. one thing is that I can abstract from P.. but something I get aroused, and start touch myselfe on chest.. just to get a hard on and get aroused.. Its usually if I browse tinder girls, and I see a really hot one. I dont touch down there.. Havent O either in the 24 days as well.    Is it a bad thing?.. like, sometimes arousing myselfe.. ?..  I mean, when I do it my mindset is "shiit, this is why you need to take more action and get girls".. So I guess its ok hehehe =)


Actually Gabe gave me a good idea.. That helping others in here, would give me so much back... So I tried it, replied a post.. and I felt really good. I will be doing more of that!


Thank you all for your support - I deeply appreciate it.

This is great man!  Just get out there and do it.  I go out on my own all the time.  At first, it sucked, but then I got better and better.  Now I can go out on my own and easily talk to just about anyone.  A wing sometimes really holds you back, so it's better to go out on your own IMO.

I've got a coach I'm working with that I can tell you about, if you're interested.  He really can step up your skills quite quickly, by telling you what works and what doesn't.

Thanks guys!..
I got home after a few interaction with some women.. its a hell cold and windy today, but I managed to do some supermarket and tank-station game.
but unfortunatly no results,,but that doesnt matter.. just approaching the two girls made my day.. then the girl working in tankstation as well.
I spoke with her for like 10-15min which is quite a record for me.. so that is success as well .. so ill keep it up. Will be at it again tomorrow.

my wing is down to go out Tuesday,, but ntg, good suggestion man.. got to be able to go alone as well.

I got my style handled as well, so I look like a Man with his shit tight! .. (blue navy blazer, black shirts, pants and shoes). I am shining and glowing with this clothes on.. My posture is alpha and got sticky eyes for girls .. shame there werent that many out today due to sucky weather. Im flirting with girls and I am becoming 1% better each time.
I hit the gym and went crazy today as well.. my body is being suped up so lots of good things happening for me. 

Not sure if its the no-fap / no-porn thing doing it.. but faack,, something is definitely happening for the better of it! .. Now, I just need the punani hahah.



I just arrived home,, started reading a post on 'good looking looser' and I some hot pics of women on the side,, my first thought was "shiat wanna see some P"..  but I caught that thought,, and jumped in here immediately to write this post. I am not jumping in that shit anymore!.. no P for me - I want to use my energy on something better instead.  But I catch myselfe wathing some fly honeys on Instagram these days.. I watch 20 or so pics.. then I shut it down. I get aroused.. but then I begin thinking "wtf am i doing... Im not getting any thing like this"..

but man, some times its hard approaching girls..    then again, what do I have to loose?.. nothing.. because I have no sex-life right now. 


anyways. dont want to mixup too much daygame in a reboot forum hehe =) .. sorry guys.
My reboot is doing great and I am sticking to it 100%... I am becoming more of a Man by not falling back to old bad habits. I am making new ones now..

NTG man, I dont like saying no to that kind of offers,, but my friend.. I think ive analyzed game so much i've gone crazy =D .. Now its just time for ACTION and learning off that.
I've seen too much footage, too many videos, ordered books..    A wingman has given me the best boost for sure.. so in 2015 i will go more out with him, and eventually go alone.
I want to adapt the lifestyle, so I will be cool with this on my own.  It just needs practice.

but if your wing is in denmark, id be interested =) .. anyways your welcome to pm me man and thank you btw.

Ive noticed i've been obsessing over my d*ick the last 10 days as well... wanting to buy merchandise to enhance and enlarge etc.
But after read some posts..  I read that this is pretty common when rebooting.

Lyon03 wrote following : "build a better man, not a better boner. During my first 30 days, I too obsessed about my c*ck which was absurd because this was the wrong approach. My obsessions and self-centredness only fed my addiction. We must change our lives to be better people and the wood takes care of itself. Be well my brother. Porn is not an option"

Very very interesting...  After reading that,, I quit that obsession of my D*ick.. its perfect as is. What I need to fix is my social charisma.. everything else in my life is done-deal!..



I am father for a 7yo kid.. unfortunatly me and the mom never could work it out. But we are still friends today and our relationship is good. We see each other alot for the sake of our child.
I am a good rolemodel for my child... I am about to quit my job... I want to pursue something else in my life. Create an online-business.. and not work for others. I have to try it.

Even if my salary is good, a good job etc.. I am absolutely not furfilled there... Its a soul-sucking 6 hours being there.. absolut waste of precios time.
I'd rather do something I enjoy doing, and get paid less...  I want my child to learn this as well. Teach him business and not working for others.

2015 will be hard for me in terms of entrepreneurship, quitting a daytime job i've had for almost 6 years.. meeting and dating women which is also a bit frightening for me because i tried to make it work with ex last many years.


but f*ck it.. I can do it!.. 

Excellent work mate!
Yeah i think you are a good role model for your child. What a transformation isnt it! Just a short time like this you can feel those great changes!

Fapstar

Yessirreee.. its actually really an awesome transformation!!
I will not let in to P or neither O. The next thing my D* will touch, is a girls P,, laying on my couch

I've had sex with two girls the last 3-4 months (tinder)... but after starting this reboot,, I have a great feeling I will enjoy sex and the touch, the smell, everything MUCH MUCH more!.. and not just D*ck in, come quickly and forget about her.    No no.. this time I have a feeling I will enjoy and be more thankfull of that punani haha

Yea man.. Now I feel much more passionate. Longing to give all of me to women..I feel much more Alive.. Much more a MAN. 

but hey, there are negative stuff also:  I GET URGES for that dopamine rush. but, when I get urges, I quickly re-focus and tell my self "NO!.. not going back to old habits"..
Some times I swich my mind to quickly take some heavy weights (while home) if urges come... and go at it till I can take anymore. Kill them muscles hehe.

it usually comes if I surf instagram / tinder girls / read pua blogs (they have pics of girls). But I can abstract.. I havent done anything so far. So why should I not continue doing that?..
actually there was a day I even considered paid sex (because I didnt want to M myselfe).. I just surfed an escort site for 20min or so, then just went out of it.
But then I realised,,, NAaaahhh ,, I want to stick to my commitment 100%... Dont want to mess up anything. >> I want this revamped energy to help me with getting women in 2015. <<

paying for sex is too easy. I dont want easy... I want it hard!!.. easy stuff is never sustainable. Doing the hard thing in your life makes you the Man.
This is not easy for me. I have never done a 'reboot' before.. This is my first time. But I've read many posts, and I can see how good people feel after doing this.

So I decided. I am doing this for me. and eventually helping others in here. I know I can.
I've have taken the plunge into the cold water.  There is no turning back now. I am facing some demons along the way (my mind playing tricks on me).. I will cope with the thoughts and gently push them aside and refocus. I am STRONG in my mind. and pushing the weights helps my body to be strong as well.

I feel awesome in my body.. I started eating my protein powders daily, take my vitamins, eat only brown rice/ wholeweat pasta etc. with chicken mostly..
I am becoming big in mucles and lowering fat..  yea man, so much happening


Thank you for ur msg

Sounds like you're doing awesome man!

I have realized in my own life, that, in the beginning I was trying to avoid P and M and O so much, that I was just filling the time with other activities.  I realized this is the wrong approach, that I needed to just face the things that made we want to self-medicate by using P to begin with.  I see the same pattern of thinking in you, and want you to make sure you're not using sex to fill the time or urges that P leaves; if you do that, sex has become your new P, and you don't deal with the real root cause for your desire to use P to begin with.  Sometimes you just have to sit with whatever it is that makes you want to avoid it, and yes, it's painful and yes it sucks, but in the end, it will no longer control you.  I have sometimes cried 15 mins straight, sobbing so much because of allowing myself to admit things to myself that really hurt; but I'll tell you what man, that shit does not control me anymore, I can totally feel the shift.  This is what I want for you too, if you're in the same place.  Maybe I'm reading this wrong, and you're not where I am, if so, and this doesn't apply to you, just ignore it.  If it does, just think about it and deal with the cause, not the symptoms.

Stay strong brother, doing great!

Hey... Read ur reply half through and broke to tears,, ughh,, Mann you touched a soft spot for sure.
I never saw it from that perspective. I have deep social issues I never worked out in my younger days, they still lie inside,, like I've never grower up in that perspective. Yet everything else I'm a boss at. My way of tackling this is just trying to go out and meet women, I will be better eventually - but something that could skyrocket this,,, Would be to do some soul searching. Sitting with my self and taking the hard questions head on... I've never really don't that. But yes, sometimes I am avoiding the root cause (going out in the real world).. And doing other stuff instead. I think it's time to stop the avoidance and facing my issues head on.

I've written a ton of affirmations, Recorded my self to hear adfirmations, I've written pages of "why I am doing this" and still I get unsure of my selfe. I haven't really accepted something inside of me, not sure what.. But I know I have issues being social with women, and it has been bothered me my whole life.  It's not just women but primarily. I guess the root cause for me is to be more of ME.. More outgoing, social and talkative to everyone. I've done it before.. So I can do it.

I think sitting down, doing some meditation whilst asking my selfe questions like why am I scared, why... . Man I don't know ,,, Ill try it. Your right I need to fix my inner issues as well.
. I think I need a daily session of meditation and soul searching. I'm sure it will help.


Thank you for your honesty and being unfiltered.. It really helps me the words you write.
I am so glad this made a shift in you. This will make me want to do it as well.

That's awesome man.  You and I are similar in a lot of ways, as we both turned to PUA stuff to fix ourselves.  I know for me, P is not a huge deal, I looked at it maybe once per month, but like I said, what I realized is that I was using other things to run away from life and not deal with stuff.  I can tell you from personal experience that sex is not going to make you feel any better than P does; that going out and being social will still leave you feeling alone; these are things that are within you, not out there - so you have to deal with them inwardly, not outwardly.  Take some courage from this man:  I think once we start this journey, we're as alpha as you can get, because no one else hardly does this.  Like I was talking about to a guy at the bar last night, once we face fear, what else is there that can control us!?  Not a damn thing.  So, here's to improving ourselves and becoming better MEN.

If you need support man, let me know, I'm here for ya.  I think we are on a similar path to wholeness.  Stay strong and wise.  When the painful emotions come, just sit with them, don't judge them, just let them come upon you, feel them, and then try to understand what has caused them, then once they're over, think about how you can better your life in that area, so that you don't have to go through what caused them again - break the cycle.

When I saw this:

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i am kind of proud of my selfe =) ..

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I actually read "I'm kind of proud of my selfie" and thought, does this dude think he's a dead ringer for Vin Diesel? Made me lol!

hahahahaha.. ok ok i admit it - actually its vin diesel speaking ;-D ..  Vin diesel have life issues too hehe
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today, going really good. I've been drinking 1l of juices (carrots and rootberr in a slow-juicer).. ive been to the gym, drinked my proteins.. went home and had some low-carb high protein food..
cleaned the house.. meditated (thanks for that ntg) worked out some more.. and now just checking reboot nation ..

the weather was too bad for going out ... but i think i am making excuses. Gotta meet with wingman tommorow and hit the streets.
Actually I am a bit nervous thinking of it. .. but when I get started, it usually goes good from there. 

ntg.. I think about what you are writing. that going out being social will leave me feeling alone. I feel that is what I need now.. I feel fulfilled when doing it.. taking the small risks each time. So I will try to keep it at that.
Yea that is it,,, I am facing my fears!.. and each time I do that,, and dont let my mind take over - but I take control and do the damn thing.. I feel hell good afterwards.

You are right. Some times I do think like this; "will I ever get a good woman.. someone I will adore, someone I want to marry, will I ever get married?, Will I be lonely, Will I be sitting home at 60 all alone... like my dad is.. " stuff like that. That are some things going through my mind. I keep reminding my self that I need to break the cycle some how... and the universe only bends for the action-takers.. so this is what I must do.
Taking Action.. facing my fears.

my fear right now are stopping women..  this is where i want to improve. I am doing awesome in other areas. So this my root-cause I believe, is to take more action towards talking to women. I know it will fulfill me.
Its not for the Sex of it.. Its just,, it makes me happy.. happy that I can break my old habits and face my fears. 

Anyways, I hope I can write a small progress for tomorrow after being out with my wing. If I can just get 1% better than I am today - ive succeeded. then > repeat.

Thank you for offering your support,, the words your write means much more than you can imagine. Yes I believe we are on similar pathway to becoming better men.

Shiaattt 30 days in and still going strong!! This is effing awesome ..
I shared the site with my very close friend, and I think he signed up as well hehe.

I took action today towards my fears... and it felt great!
Saw an woman I really liked, and was waiting for her to come out the shop.

My mind was trying to decieve me and tell me I wasnt good enough for her. She was too beutyful etc.... but then I started to lean into my body instead. I remembered that you cannot talk your mind  out of fear.. Your must involve your body . So I took some big-ass breaths whilst affirming that I could do it, and it would be easy...

and she came out,, walking towards me.. shit is about to happen.. but ever so confidently I went in front of her and took it from there. Mannn she was hott,, and the crazy thing was she LOVED it..
telling me she found me attractive as well, That I was bold and couragous for doing it.. and that other guys didnt have the balls be so direct and upfront. I told her that you have to go after what you want.. even if its uncertain and not knowing the outcome.

all in all its was a fantastic moment in my life. I took the bull head-on hahha..  faced my fears and did it anyway (there is a book called "feel the fear and do it anyway" btw). I felt Alive doing that.


Porn is still not an option. I signed up for 2015 pornfreeyear. I will win, there is no other option. I chose this new pathway. I will not be deceived by my brain to revert to old habits.
I am very aware that my mind will play tricks on my.. it will come. I am prepared....  Its welcome to try its luck.. I will find a solution to swipe the urges aside.

the rewards iI get by keeping this us.. is million times better than to give in to P..  not just 1 time!


cheers for a powerfull strong life all of you!.. I envision my counter to be 365days with no relapse.
I will make it happen!