M with my wife? Suggestions?

57yrold

Active Member
25 days without porn.  So far so good, except this terrific flatline.  No desire to look at porn what so ever though...

I've had two nights where my wife and I fooled around.  One at about a week after stopping porn, and the second at a little past three weeks.

I can't get an erection, so we didn't have intercourse, but we did a lot of other stuff.  She had a great time and had two orgasms both nights.

I was not able to orgasm from her at all.  DE and lots of difficulty.  However, I was very excited, and after all her work, it only took me a few seconds with my hand to cum.

I was not fantasizing, nor even thinking of anything else.  Just the intimacy with her, and how much I was enjoying being with her.  I love her so, so much!

Would like others thoughts and suggestions on this. 

On one hand, maybe it might be good to go no P, no M, and no O, but on the other hand, I feel like I was really emotionally close with her both nights, and it really felt like I was rewired to her.

Do you think this is a setback?  Or is it a good thing to cum with her, even though I had to finish the last little bit with my hand?

Thanks for everything.  These forums are fantastic!

 

57yrold

Active Member
Well, since I didn't get any replies, I figured I'd reply to myself.

I think I need to go no M at all, not even with my wife.  I'm at 34 days with no porn, but making ZERO progress on even getting an erection.

My wife and I fooled around last night.  Lots of kissing, cuddling, tickling.  It was wonderful and I made her cum twice.

Afterwards she tried to make me cum, but I was limp as a sock.  She tried for a while and nothing, so I masturbated myself with her help and came in about 20 seconds. 

But it was still M.  I think I need to stop that. 

Thoughts?  Replies?  Anything?
 

r_ryan85

Member
From reading other posts I would suggest that you never ejaculate unless you have a decent erection. I've read quite a few people who ejaculated without being hard and they have attributed that to their inability to recover. Some said "I have trained my dick to ejaculate without being hard". I read quite a few of those stories. I'm not sure if this is correct as there isn't any science that I know of around this, but just a lot of anecdotal posts I've read about it. But to be safe, I'd say don't unless you have a full erection.
 

gtl923

Active Member
From the sound of it I'd strongly suggest no M at all. Ever. If you can only get erect and O from your hand you have a ways to go. It's great that you have a wife to rewire with, that will definitely help speed the process. But MO is not helping you. Go hard mode, enjoy intimacy with your wife and don't worry about getting off. You'll get there and it will be so very worth it. Best of luck.
 

57yrold

Active Member
Thanks so much.  I appreciate the suggestions.

In that case, I'm on day 35 of no porn, and day 2 of no MO.

 
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