testesterone level normal. but no libido.

Hi

Got my testesterone levels checked.

Normal levels 241-827

My levels are - 473.

Still I have zero libido. Today is day 53 of my reboot.

@ johnperkins

Got my testesterone levels checked. Normal levels 241-827 My levels are - 473. Still I have zero libido. Today is day 53 of my reboot.

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It is clear that T levels are not behind the symptoms guys with porn induced sexual dysfunctions report. All evidence points to brain changes being the cause of our problems and why rebooting works for many guys.

I had no libido for several months yet my T levels were 900+ and I was in great shape as a 23 year old. My doctor almost laughed when I asked if I might have low T.

I suggest reading this post and following the links if you want further info on the topic: Testosterone research versus testosterone Myths

Are you putting yourself in positions to be with girls? Like be around them, talk to them, etc? The idea of your libido coming back doesn't mean you're going to immediately going to turn into a sex machine. Your brain hasn't been used to having to go out and find sex for a while. So just stopping PMO may not be enough. Go out and experience girls. When that moment is right, you may find out your libido is just fine.

No man. There is no urge to just got out and meet a girl.
Im ao shattered from inside.
Though some times when I visit the mall..I do look at them..only the hot ones though.

My morning erecrions also have been non lineaer.

Life is so confusing!

John,
I can totally relate.


Although dc's advice is on point, we need motivation to put ourselves in
a position for a woman's affection. The stage you are at, there is no motivation.
Even the most attractive female can drop her pants and it wouldn't do much.
In your mind, you recognize her beauty and you probably do think she has
nice tits and ass. But it doesn't escalate from there. Because you've programmed
your brain to escalate only to pornographic images.

As far as the mall goes (LoL), trust me, you don't want to get caught up
with that. Here's the thing about the mall;
We like to notice eye candy and women doll themselves up to get noticed.
Now that doesn't mean that we should gawk at them but no woman wants
to be invisible. And the hot ones know they are hot. So I myself had to
somehow, someway just look at them as another human being.
Because all my life, I just looked at women in terms of sexual
compatibility. Would I do her or not. I would see someone and
think, she's cute and I would do her. Or wow, nice body
but her face needs work.
Yes, I know it's shallow and immature but I'm trying
to be real with you. You'll have to work on being more discipline
with the reboot because it's going to take some time before you
get that motivation again. But you will get it back!
Just not overnight.
Again, I empathize totally as I am going through the same thing
exactly as you described.
Normal t levels and 0 libido.
All my doctors and one therapist balk at the idea that my issue
is porn induced.
It's well documented in my journal as well as some others.

You may also be deprogramming your brain to not just value women as sexual objects.  You see a woman and you feel no libido which in my view is completely normal.  The only place libido has to show up is right before sex or when getting close to a woman you are in to.  A lot of the ideas about libido comes from a culture/media/porn that tells you that chasing every skirt that walks by is normal and it isn't.  Is it normal to notice beautiful women? absolutely, but you don't feel an urge to fuck every single one of them or get raging boners from seeing them. 

Bibbity said:

You may also be deprogramming your brain to not just value women as sexual objects.  You see a woman and you feel no libido which in my view is completely normal.  The only place libido has to show up is right before sex or when getting close to a woman you are in to.  A lot of the ideas about libido comes from a culture/media/porn that tells you that chasing every skirt that walks by is normal and it isn't.  Is it normal to notice beautiful women? absolutely, but you don't feel an urge to fuck every single one of them or get raging boners from seeing them.

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;D

LoL @ raging boners.

Bibbity said:

You may also be deprogramming your brain to not just value women as sexual objects.  You see a woman and you feel no libido which in my view is completely normal.  The only place libido has to show up is right before sex or when getting close to a woman you are in to.  A lot of the ideas about libido comes from a culture/media/porn that tells you that chasing every skirt that walks by is normal and it isn't.  Is it normal to notice beautiful women? absolutely, but you don't feel an urge to fuck every single one of them or get raging boners from seeing them.

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In my opinion it is important to realise this in the "no-fap" culture. Many guys actually have that as a goal and feel like they aren't recovered, if they don't get the uncontrollable sex drive of an adolescent rabbit. And then they call it superpowers, when it is in fact just an unmatured sexdrive.

Bibbity said:

The only place libido has to show up is right before sex or when getting close to a woman you are in to.

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I think this is exactly right. There is no value in having an erection or being mentally aroused unless you are with your partner. In fact, I might even go one step further to say that, under ideal conditions, we would all reach a point where we can only become aroused by our partner.