I dont want to have sex!

blackDragon95

New Member
I'm weeks into my recovery now and i have lost sexual desire for women and for porn too(i have zero desire to watch porn). I feel asexual, sex is boring and not interesting any more. What should i do to speed up my recovery and "rewire" to real women. Can you give me some good tips and advices please, thank you and sorry for my English.

 

malando

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It's a textbook "flatline". Happens to a lot of guys after quitting. Wait 90 days (minimum) and then see how it's going. You are hoping for too much too soon. This problem takes time to repair.
 

WoundedSparrow

Active Member
Like the other person said, what you're going through right now is a textbook flatline. Your brain is used to getting regular overflows of dopamine and now it's beginning to notice the sudden lack of it. You'll feel lousy and drained for a while and yes, even asexual. This is your brain attempting to rewire itself to its normal state and adjust to a normal dopamine output. Be happy since this means your reboot is working!
 

blackDragon95

New Member
I have another question i would like to ask. Whenever i had sex with women i noticed my penis is desensitized(numb), how long does it take for this to return to normal(sensitive penis).
 

doneatlast

Well-Known Member
Exact timelines vary, but I can say from watching these threads and hearing guys' reports, a watched pot never boils.

Here's what people don't often realize about flatlines: you don't lose interest in sex when you quit porn, you lost interest when you became addicted to porn, and your brain thought porn WAS sex.  I think this is important to realize, not just to show how much porn damages us, but also that a flatline isn't a "low" during a reboot, it is just the start of healing.
 
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