What are some things I can do to do to avoid relapse?

Jbouchan

Member
Does anyone know or have a method I can use to avoid having the temptation to watch porn? I mean, I know there are strategies like, KEEP YOUR PHONE AWAY AT YOUR MOST VULNERABLE TIME or GO WORKOUT. I guess what I'm asking is, does anyone have any unique ways  or a list to avoid relapse or simply the cravings? If anyone has found a way for them to be successful, can you please tell me?
 

Tempted

Member
Unfortunately I think some ways will only be discovered by you yourself when you relapse. I personally realized that my most vulnerable times are the morning and when I go to bed. So what I do now is watch a stream everytime when I go to bed so my thoughts are distracted and I do not think of sexy stuff, and just today I asked my mother to give me a call every morning to make sure that I shower. The stream watching helps my bedtime urges drastically, and I will see how the motherly control will work out.

These are my two personal things which are probably not unique to me tho.
 

Jbouchan

Member
Thanks!! I think you are right about each person finding new ways after a relapse. For example, now I know that after 9pm I shouldn't be on social media because that can trigger me.

I'm not putting any parenting control anymore because I need to develop a habit of being able to trust myself with temptations

I hope your methods continue to work. I'm going to try the Streaming method.
 

Fappy

Respected Member
Hi,
Heres something I posted on another thread, but I think it suits your question.
heres a few techniques that worked for me:

Reflect on that feeling of disgust which drowns you after you PMO. Sitting there staring at the screen, lobotomy-eyed and drunk on dopamine. Then its all over. And what did you get out of it? Absolutely nothing. You feel like a pathetic sack of shit, right? Escpecially doing it in a public place - your head must be pretty fucked up. It was this sense of self-loathing that comes with PMO (in public,too, which I have done many times), that motivated me to never ever want to feel like that again.

Another technique I used was to write down all the things which PMO has fucked up in my life. Then a second list which details all of the things in my life that are bound to improve as a result of rebooting. The first list gave me tangible proof of the extent to which PMO has assaulted my life. The second list gave me the assurance that those things will never happen again. Keep both lists somewhere where you can see them constantly.

And finally, just the simple realization that there is absolutely nothing good that can come from PMO. Youve got nothing to lose and everything to gain.

 

Tempted

Member
Talking about lists, it can be very beinficial to write down all situations in which you relapse so you know about the beforehand and can think of a workaround. For me the list is, hungover, tired, feeling sick, feeling depressed for example.
 

Fappy

Respected Member
YEa, lists are very good. It's even better to write them by hand, writing things by hand you need to make sure to write them correctly, you don't have the luxury of the delete button so you take more care. Plus it gives you something tangible and increases your self-accountability.
Just remember to keep the list in an easy to see place, on the fridge or at the front door, fuck even in your wallet! Don't let it out of your sight and mind, ingrain it in your subconscious.
I know it might sound lame, making lists and such, but you need all the weapons you can get to beat this fucker.
 

Jbouchan

Member
Having a list is a magnificent way of attacking the problem.  I have a memo on my phone because I can always go back and alter the list by adding or changing goals. For example, I  listed my short-term and long- term (for my porn addiction) goals recently. Once I accomplish a goal I go back and add a new goal and so on.
 
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