OK, so I'm starting to realize that this website is like the WebMD of "I was losing my virginity and I couldn't get it up", looking over some other people's journals. WebMD meaning you have a little cold so you google it and then think you have some serious illness. A lot of guys don't get it up on their first times, it's natural. Nerves are so high, and if you watch any porn it can look like a super easy and effortless thing to get hard in a second and pound away for like 15 minutes. It's kind of similar to if you've never played basketball and you only watch NBA games and then are told to play with them. I can tell you that you would be nervous as shit and probably wouldn't be able to play well. Except with sex it's different because if you are nervous it has a direct relation to your dick and if your dick isn't up you're not even playing.
So I personally believe the solution to that problem is to just not be so god damn nervous. Easier said than done though lol. Find a girl that you can be with for awhile and try to avoid sex for a bit. Feel her, embrace her, just be with her. I don't believe this current hookup culture we are in is a good thing, especially for guys with nervousness problems. Don't identify with PIED. Admitting you have a problem should not be the first step, at least for younger guys. Saying you have a problem will only make you more nervous for next time you attempt to have sex. Avoid porn, as it promotes unrealistic standards for both men and women which will only further your issues.
So I personally believe the solution to that problem is to just not be so god damn nervous. Easier said than done though lol. Find a girl that you can be with for awhile and try to avoid sex for a bit. Feel her, embrace her, just be with her. I don't believe this current hookup culture we are in is a good thing, especially for guys with nervousness problems. Don't identify with PIED. Admitting you have a problem should not be the first step, at least for younger guys. Saying you have a problem will only make you more nervous for next time you attempt to have sex. Avoid porn, as it promotes unrealistic standards for both men and women which will only further your issues.