hello guys kinda new here so I?m need an advice about my addiction so my story I?m remembering that?s I?m saw gay porn in 13 and got off to that but then switched to only straight porn every category I?m saw then switched to tranny for period time and then agin to gay porn I?m basically was in home for 3 years without job or any social life due to depression saw lots of porn while was in home and I?m now know for sure I?m addict because it?s so hard for me to stop watch gay porn even during my time in home I?m sexting with guys anal play and then recently started to think am I gay/bi and I?m guess I?m bi because what I did and when I?m look into my past I?m only had crushes on girls first wet dream was about womans I?m just remember gay porn basically was a turn on but never thought about it and never had gay feelings in real life untill now that I?m kinda have ocd around it I?m feel like I?m probably bi because it?s gets me off faster I?m started my no porn journey few days ago I?m wanna be straight because when I?m see a cute girl I?m know I?m want her and have crushes on girls idk guys I?m don?t know who I?m anymore any advice guys am I gay or it?s all porn induced even when gay porn was a turn as long as? It?s so complicated damn
Am I gay?
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First of all, that was one hell of a run-on sentence.
Secondly, stop freaking out and read Your Brain on Porn IMMEDIATELY.
This is a book that should be required reading in schools. And for anyone dealing with issues like this it's an absolute non-negotiable. It will answer all of your questions via scientific evidence and also anecdotal reports from many guys.
If you liked women before you got into gay porn it's likely that you're straight, but you won't really know until you remove porn, masturbation, and orgasm (PMO) from the equation for a period of time (at least 90 days if not more) and see how your tastes change. When people get into porn they typically escalate - they need more extreme, more taboo porn to get off. That means the stuff that used to turn them on no longer does. So going from straight to gay porn, for example, is very common. So is SO-OCD (sexual orientation obsessive compulsive disorder). I'm not saying you have SO-OCD necessarily, but at the very least you're questioning your sexuality which is, from my understanding, extremely common with porn use.
Do yourself the biggest favor possible - read the book and get educated.
Secondly, stop freaking out and read Your Brain on Porn IMMEDIATELY.
This is a book that should be required reading in schools. And for anyone dealing with issues like this it's an absolute non-negotiable. It will answer all of your questions via scientific evidence and also anecdotal reports from many guys.
If you liked women before you got into gay porn it's likely that you're straight, but you won't really know until you remove porn, masturbation, and orgasm (PMO) from the equation for a period of time (at least 90 days if not more) and see how your tastes change. When people get into porn they typically escalate - they need more extreme, more taboo porn to get off. That means the stuff that used to turn them on no longer does. So going from straight to gay porn, for example, is very common. So is SO-OCD (sexual orientation obsessive compulsive disorder). I'm not saying you have SO-OCD necessarily, but at the very least you're questioning your sexuality which is, from my understanding, extremely common with porn use.
Do yourself the biggest favor possible - read the book and get educated.
Hello.
As someone who has been through and is going through a similar thing I can only empathise and tell you how I?m coping. Firstly, and this harder said than done, try to stop beating yourself up. Sexuality is not something so easy to label and nothing you?ve done is wrong/bad etc.
Porn does tend to warp our sexuality though, try taking a break for at least a month and see where your own brain takes you. I am finding that my own fantasies/noticing on the street are almost exclusively women but I have viewed gay porn. I?m not going to rush to judgement on who I am just yet, I?m only 5 days off porn so nothing is clear but this the way to find out. My biggest issue is relaxing about it, try to reduce the size of this problem as much as you can. Of course it produces anxiety etc but it does not define you. It?s possible you have a sexual interest in men which is absolutely fine, but also that it is a result of porn and you have no attraction in real life. Also fine. The important thing is getting back to the real world, sex is a wonderful thing but it is not everything. I think we who have watched so much porn have moulded our mines to see everything as sexual. That needs to heal before we can do anything else.
Look after yourself and good luck.
As someone who has been through and is going through a similar thing I can only empathise and tell you how I?m coping. Firstly, and this harder said than done, try to stop beating yourself up. Sexuality is not something so easy to label and nothing you?ve done is wrong/bad etc.
Porn does tend to warp our sexuality though, try taking a break for at least a month and see where your own brain takes you. I am finding that my own fantasies/noticing on the street are almost exclusively women but I have viewed gay porn. I?m not going to rush to judgement on who I am just yet, I?m only 5 days off porn so nothing is clear but this the way to find out. My biggest issue is relaxing about it, try to reduce the size of this problem as much as you can. Of course it produces anxiety etc but it does not define you. It?s possible you have a sexual interest in men which is absolutely fine, but also that it is a result of porn and you have no attraction in real life. Also fine. The important thing is getting back to the real world, sex is a wonderful thing but it is not everything. I think we who have watched so much porn have moulded our mines to see everything as sexual. That needs to heal before we can do anything else.
Look after yourself and good luck.
Sorry to post twice in a row but just another tip I got given.
Try to boil it down to exactly what you are aroused by with the porn you use. Are you attracted particular body parts or is it just a kinky thrill? Not always easy to distinguish but if it is the latter it?s probably that you?re not gay.
Try to boil it down to exactly what you are aroused by with the porn you use. Are you attracted particular body parts or is it just a kinky thrill? Not always easy to distinguish but if it is the latter it?s probably that you?re not gay.