I full reboot success

Well, it's been over a year and a half since I've started this reboot/ refocus. I can truly say it's been a remarkable one. My journal explains it all and I wont go into the details on this page. One thing I can't stress enough or at least helped me is that to quit P and the dopamine rush you get from it, you must replace that time spend with something else. In my case I focused on bettering myself in many aspects; meditating, eating better, working out, reading, playing the guitar, getting myself out into the public, being with friends and family, adopting a dog and living life to its fullest. You'd be surprised how much this helps redirect your thoughts into doing something more meaningful with your life.

So my success story is a well rounded one. I not only have quit P and M, I have bettered my life completely. My therapist once said in order to get somewhere in life you must see it and feel it. I did this through meditation and it worked. I meditated on the things I wanted in my life. I meditated on how I would get there and the feeling I thought I'd feel when I reached that goal. Well I'm here to tell you this reboot/ refocus worked. It really worked.

I have met someone and have been dating over a month and a half now. I am on a whole different level with this girl compared to other people I've dated in the past. I have feelings for her. I want to be with her. When I am with her I feel free and calm. I am also able to now make love to her!!!!!!! If you read my journal you will see the progress I've made to reach what I am feeling now. The first few times I was with my girlfriend I could feel myself getting aroused. Each time I was with her it would get stronger and stronger. She came up this past weekend and we went out to dinner with some friends. I couldn't wait to see her, but also felt my arousal was down for some reason. It wasn't until we got back that my arousal and want for her skyrocketed. (I APOLOGIZE BUT THIS MAY BE A TRIGGER TO SOME) We made out in my truck before going inside and one thing lead to another. We decided to make love. EVERYTHING WORKED EVEN WITH A CONDOM!!!!!!!! I was able to maintain an erection for what I thought was a long time. And I was able to last until the end without an orgasm. We made love almost 10 times over the course of the weekend. I have not felt like this since I was in my teens nor have I been able to perform like this since then. Even better, I was able to focus on her and the feeling of making love. I never once thought of anything else. This is a huge breakthrough. I would bounce in and out of arousal through the weekend, but as soon as the moment came I was fully erect and ready. There were even a couple times I could not orgasm, but the thought and feeling of pleasing my girl was enough for her and I. If I had a moment during sex where I went soft, we waited a minute, made out, touched each other and boom, I was right back into it. There was even a moment where we tried again, but after what we had done over the weekend I needed a little break from the love making.  ;D......we laughed it off and cuddled instead. (I have not been able to say this in a very longgggg time.)

I HAVE NOT MADE LOVE TO ANYONE FOR YEARS. I AM BEYOND EXCITED TO SAY THIS REBOOT WORKED. You need to believe the process will work. There will be doubts..... I've had plenty, but you need to stick with it.

Follow my journal and see the steps it took me to get here. I still have a lot to learn and experience. I feel my brain and body refocusing on the real thing and have no recollection of P.

I am in a great place right not and couldn't be happier. This forum has changed my life and I am truly grateful.

I will continue to journal my progress so stay tuned.

Keep it up all,

ImOnMyWay

Congrats man, inspiring stuff!!!

Can we get info on your update and what all you did during it and how long it took?

Redfire,

I am here to tell you this reboot/ refocus really works. After a year an a few months I was pretty upset that I didn't see changes in my reactions below. But I kept with the process and am really seeing the benefits now going into almost a year and a half of rebooting.

So where to begin.... I started dating someone about three months ago and I feel this is where I started to see my successes. I was beyond nervous at first because I hadn't had successful sex in a very long. I was afraid I was going to be in the same boat as I was when I first started this whole reboot. But as I became more and more comfortable with my now GF, I started to see that I really didn't have a problem anymore. I am attracted to her and my body responds to it. It's pretty amazing. There are times where I didn't think I could get hard and boom out of nowhere I was able to perform with no issue what so ever. Communication with your partner is also key. I told my GF when we first started to get intimate, that I get over anxious sometimes causing me to go soft and needed a little time to relax. She was super understanding! Her understanding allowed me to calm down and that's when I started to realize I was beating this curse.

I really feel our minds are what put us into a feeling of failure. I can relate to this because when I doubted myself....I felt worse. When I believed in myself and allowed myself to relax and enjoy the experience, I was successful. Meditation and learning to calm my mind helped tremendously.

Also, staying away from P and not MO'ing has allowed me to be successful. IT WORKS. So stop doing both if you have not already. Also, being around women and having a GF has honestly helped me. I learned to be attracted to the real thing again and not some picture on a screen.

Ill write more in the upcoming weeks.

My Best,

ImOnMyWay

iPhone is what messed me up.  I love the features, for example an app which controls my hearing aids, and stock ticker, etc.  But way too much internet freedom on that thing for me.  Sort of wish, if I MUST have a personal phone (thanks to wife), that I could have my original Nokia back.  No screens other than for messages, with buttons.  Could make calls home while driving by feel without ever taking my eyes of the road.

I am around day 80 on my reboot. The past month inhave had several......wet dreams and occasionally morning wood. Currently going through a divorce because of this issue. I have had it for 6 years and took pills to make my marriage work till she found the pills and i came clean. But i did stop watching porn awhile back but i still masterbated regularly. So that didnt help. I hope in a year to be recovered. But porn and masterbation are out of my life. I just want my penis to be normal and have a normal sex life again. Is there hope any more advice?

Hi man,

Thanks for great emotion sharing.
I think you are enjoying your success, I am also a rebooter - and success is what I am trying to get.

Could I get some of your advice in reboot, I will very glad hearing you. If you agree, my skype ID is rocky_ocean.

Thank you!