Porn is cheating. You need to accept that before you do anything else. Addicts make a lot of justifications but they don't stand up scrutiny. I threatened my husband that I was going to hook up with someone, told him I know where all the sex addicts hang out and could find one tomorrow if I wanted to. I didn't mean it is just wanted him to feel some of the same pain he had caused me. http://themattwalshblog.com/2013/11/25/married-men-your-porn-habit-is-an-adultery-habit/http://www.abattleplan.com/2011/01/emotional-affair-cheating-pornography/http://fightthenewdrug.org/is-watching-porn-cheating-on-your-partner/http://www.covenanteyes.com/2015/01/19/using-porn-is-cheating/Try buying the book love you hate the porn or check out Mark Chamberlains.blogspot.com
Thanks aquarius25. As of now shes thrown me out of her life. i tried to hide my addiction with lies and understandedly she wont put up with that. I have told her its not her fault but she wont accept that. to be honest its been hard for me to give her space as i just want to explain that even tho i have this addiction, it doesnt mean i dont love her. Which i do dearly. she means the world to me. yesterday she retaliated by joining a dating site, saing- "you did it why so im gonna do it" that hurt. when i went on dating sites i never put myself out there just did the classic addiction thing and looked at the women. she has set up a profile and paid money to get "premium". she today said it was because she was upset and had too much wine. she tried to cancel but couldnt so she says "i might as well go on it" she is absolutley gorgeous and so i KNOW guys are gonna msg her and what not. i told her how much it hurts me but with her anger, i dont think she cares, saying "ive moved on" ive poured my heart out to her so much and like i said its hard to give her space ESPECIALLY since i live across the street from her. the instant i see her, i want to go talk to her and be with her. before this we were inseperable. ive never cheated but she keeps insisting i did which also hurts. i get being upset but she doesnt need to fuel the fire with faqlse accusations. its hard with this reboot too as id love to have intamcy with her and grow on that. rite now i have nothing....sucks.
she has (i believe) started talking to someone or more on a dating site which is killing me. i know shes lonely and sad but that is the last place she should look for comfort.
i know shes lonely and sad but that is the last place she should look for comfort.
Thank you so much for the insight and opinions. They are taken to heart. I see now more than ever how watching porn IS cheating. i am new to this side of the battle but WILL win with support. This subgect is so taboo. i recently confessed to all my facebook friends about my addiction which was so freeing. NEVER AGAIN will i watch that crap. Ruined the best relation ship I've ever had.