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Death Trap

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Re: My recovery. PIED and lack of motiviation
« Reply #25 on: March 19, 2017, 12:43:37 PM »
Hey man. First of all, I want to tell you how happy I am that you are dealing with this problem while still a teenager. It makes me feel great that you will not waste your 20's with this nonsense the way that I did.

I'm also really glad that you are adamant in not looking at porn. You must be careful, however, because relapse can be quite sneaky. Something as mundane as reading about Thai massages can lead to some innocent touching; which can lead to taking a peak at some sexy pics; which can lead to some less than innocent touching; which can lead to...I tell you this, because I've done it many times.

Now, let me tell you what has helped me in dealing with urges more than anything else (this is the idea contained in le_petit_moster's hack book, based on Allan Carr's method for quitting smoking, which I also used). So, since I've read that man's book I have not even come close to relapsing, but I've definitely had faint cravings from time to time. For example, I'll get the image of one of my favorite porn scenes (garbage) in my head. What le_petit_moster says you do when this happens is say to yourself "Thank God (or whatever) I don't have to give in to this urge." I say that out loud to myself, and then just continue doing whatever I'm doing. And then the urge just vanishes.

The idea is to get your conscious mind on the side of not looking at the porn, and not to get sucked into an internal battle, whereby one part of your brain wants to fap, and the other part doesn't want to fap. This creates internal tension, which only makes you want to fap to relieve it. So, you need to get your conscious and unconscious aspects on the same side, which is what saying to yourself "Thank God I don't have to look at porn anymore in my life" is supposed to do. You are re-programming your unconscious mind to want to have nothing to do with fapping, which is an incredibly powerful tool.

What are you planning on studying at university, may I ask?

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Re: My recovery. PIED and lack of motiviation
« Reply #26 on: March 20, 2017, 04:17:27 PM »
I already kinda wasted my last 3-4 years, but yeah, thats definitly better than shipping this problem into my late 20s..

Yes, this was an exception, I'm not planning on doing this again :D

Thats a good trick, thank you! will definitly try this next time! I'm not saying it loud right now, but thats pretty much what i think. I think: Oh nice try, but thank you i will not watch that. (If there are some hot girls in a music video for example)

I will study Economy-Enginee :)

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Re: My recovery. PIED and lack of motiviation
« Reply #27 on: March 20, 2017, 04:34:07 PM »
I already kinda wasted my last 3-4 years, but yeah, thats definitly better than shipping this problem into my late 20s..

Yes, this was an exception, I'm not planning on doing this again :D

Thats a good trick, thank you! will definitly try this next time! I'm not saying it loud right now, but thats pretty much what i think. I think: Oh nice try, but thank you i will not watch that. (If there are some hot girls in a music video for example)

I will study Economy-Enginee :)
Typical German!

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Re: My recovery. PIED and lack of motiviation
« Reply #28 on: March 20, 2017, 04:45:16 PM »
19 year old here, after 73 days of no porn of any kind all I can say is it gets easier and easier and then you just forget about it. In fact, the reason I logged in was to see how long its been because for me it feels like a lifetime ago. So many positive changes happened to me, including great motivation, that the pmo lifestyle just seems idiotic it seems as dumb as smoking honestly. Just stick to it and after a while it will become natural to fill your time with other things you wont even think about porn. Good look to you

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Re: My recovery. PIED and lack of motiviation
« Reply #29 on: March 21, 2017, 03:48:57 PM »
haha True. I hope i will work at Mercedes sometime^^

Thank you mrreeboot19!

I think i will stop reading the whole forum for now , I'm spending too much time on this site, which i could use otherwise. Will probably Post 1 time per week from now on, and if i need to due to strong urges or what else can happen ;).