Pretty standard story. I started watching my father's massive VHS collection of porn when I was about 10, and had been exposed to it even younger. I was obsessed to the point where I masturbating 4-5 times in a row at night. This would mutate over time to wanting to bring this magical world I had discovered to real life - looking down shirts, up skirts, and pretty much knowing no one was suspecting an 11 year old boy of having all this going on.
It did get me a reputation as a good lover in my teens - having *experience*, but by the time I hit my 20s I was a sex tourist. It was a good way to maintain the addiction, and not get people I considered *innocent* involved in my obsession. Things got started to get weird, well weird for me... rather than go out and have a fun night out with my fantasy and all the willing folks I'd encounter, I wanted to stay in my hotel room and jerk off. At that stage, it was like - why be here? Change my flight, and head home.
I took quite a few years off from dating due to massive weight gain, and sloth. After getting my body back in shape, I re-entered the dating market as a very high-sexual being. Meet ladies online, craft my perfect fantasy with them, swap dirty pictures, and meet.... The first lady I met back in 2013 commented that I seemed like two different people - the person she texted me, and the me that was in front of her.
After swearing off dating for awhile, I entered maintenance mode. Get the through the day, and jerk it to some porn before bed. This would go on for years, and not only did a look forward to my nightly routine, I was enjoying the adventure of finding new and interesting porn from the new generations of models that would emerge every few years or so.
...then I fell in love, really in love. I moved my life to be with her, and the whole time I kept wondering how the hell I was going to deal with this addiction. First it was jerking off at work using the power of 21st century technology to watch, and if I couldn't do it at work, I even got to the point of masturbating to porn while taking a #2.
Somedays I wake up without feeling the need to watch porn, but that only lasts a day or so. Others I wake up like I am on a mission, and need to "get this demon out of me", so I can move on with my day. Today I was cleaning our house with my lady, and while listening to an audiobook, I had a trigger - a brief passage in a novel that described some sexual acts. I said - "Ok, I'll finish up here, and while I wash up, jerk one out quickly before she is any of the wiser". After almost getting caught, but I am certain there is still part of her that is like - yeah he was masturbating - even though I had this very reasonable excuse for taking so long in the bathroom with evidence - I am like WTF am I doing?
I had this great day with this great lady, and I pretty much ruined it because I got that itch I couldn't rid of. Then I lied to the woman I love, because I am so powerless to my addiction. At work I even avoid leaving my office out of fear of seeing someone in the hallway I might desire as an object, and go masturbate to later.
So yeah, this has to end. I can't really call myself a man with this behavior. So I am here, writing about my addiction, and how determined I am to beat this. What happened today can never happen again - lying to the love of my life.
How can I start to really deal with this 32 year addiction? I feel like it owns me.
It did get me a reputation as a good lover in my teens - having *experience*, but by the time I hit my 20s I was a sex tourist. It was a good way to maintain the addiction, and not get people I considered *innocent* involved in my obsession. Things got started to get weird, well weird for me... rather than go out and have a fun night out with my fantasy and all the willing folks I'd encounter, I wanted to stay in my hotel room and jerk off. At that stage, it was like - why be here? Change my flight, and head home.
I took quite a few years off from dating due to massive weight gain, and sloth. After getting my body back in shape, I re-entered the dating market as a very high-sexual being. Meet ladies online, craft my perfect fantasy with them, swap dirty pictures, and meet.... The first lady I met back in 2013 commented that I seemed like two different people - the person she texted me, and the me that was in front of her.
After swearing off dating for awhile, I entered maintenance mode. Get the through the day, and jerk it to some porn before bed. This would go on for years, and not only did a look forward to my nightly routine, I was enjoying the adventure of finding new and interesting porn from the new generations of models that would emerge every few years or so.
...then I fell in love, really in love. I moved my life to be with her, and the whole time I kept wondering how the hell I was going to deal with this addiction. First it was jerking off at work using the power of 21st century technology to watch, and if I couldn't do it at work, I even got to the point of masturbating to porn while taking a #2.
Somedays I wake up without feeling the need to watch porn, but that only lasts a day or so. Others I wake up like I am on a mission, and need to "get this demon out of me", so I can move on with my day. Today I was cleaning our house with my lady, and while listening to an audiobook, I had a trigger - a brief passage in a novel that described some sexual acts. I said - "Ok, I'll finish up here, and while I wash up, jerk one out quickly before she is any of the wiser". After almost getting caught, but I am certain there is still part of her that is like - yeah he was masturbating - even though I had this very reasonable excuse for taking so long in the bathroom with evidence - I am like WTF am I doing?
I had this great day with this great lady, and I pretty much ruined it because I got that itch I couldn't rid of. Then I lied to the woman I love, because I am so powerless to my addiction. At work I even avoid leaving my office out of fear of seeing someone in the hallway I might desire as an object, and go masturbate to later.
So yeah, this has to end. I can't really call myself a man with this behavior. So I am here, writing about my addiction, and how determined I am to beat this. What happened today can never happen again - lying to the love of my life.
How can I start to really deal with this 32 year addiction? I feel like it owns me.