Social awkwardness Staying or Fading??? Self talk too much???

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Jz15

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Okay so whats your experience with social awkwardness e.g.

looking on a blackscreen on your smartphone to avoid eye contact
saying silly stuff you think of later like "why the fk did I say that makes no sense"

did reboot help eliminate it or its something else that's causing it?

Personally on days I'm cut from social life say Sundays, staying at home, the first time I meet a male or female
I'll most probably fk up seem like a silly guy but later on I adjust to reality

Thats why I leave my shopping in Saturday to have some contact with real people otherwise 24h alone I'm starting losing it.

Also whats your experience with self talk? Ive seen im talking to myself too much about matters sometimes serious sometimes funny
if you see me you will think wtf the guy is crazy - its a signal Im about to start fking my life up, binging, wrong decisions, all the nasty stuff.
 
doneatlast

doneatlast

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I definitely had more social anxieties and awkwardness during porn days, and moreso when I was binging or generally going heavier.  It was sort of tied in with the "brain fog", I had a really hard time interacting with people.  The further away from porn I get, the better I am socially.

Though, social skills are an acquired skill, so it won't be an overnight thing if you have social problems.
 
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misc person 86

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It's helped mine tremendously. I think it comes down to libido.

For 15 years I was a socially awkward outcast with women, men, family, colleagues, managers, strangers. When I was a kid I was full of charisma and social charm... I just thought that the latter me was how I always was meant to be, but looking back I realise something pivotal went seriously wrong.

Now my libido is back, all that social interactivity and charisma is showing it's face again. It's like that part of my brain was in sleep mode for so, so long.

I gotta say, it's libido for me. For 15 years I'd drained my libido due to excessive porn consumption and dopamine overload. It caused my human instinct to deteriorate as my brain was "satisfied" with how much I was "procreating" (brain doesn't know the difference between porn and reality) so there was no reason for me to have any social drive to get me through life, interact with real people and start a real relationship and family.

Long story short, I'm a much less socially awkward person now thanks to quitting pmo 2 years ago.
 
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Jz15

Member
doneatlast said:
I definitely had more social anxieties and awkwardness during porn days, and moreso when I was binging or generally going heavier.  It was sort of tied in with the "brain fog", I had a really hard time interacting with people.  The further away from porn I get, the better I am socially.

Though, social skills are an acquired skill, so it won't be an overnight thing if you have social problems.
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Brain fog ruined me at my work you cannot imagine how much, at the time I was completely clueless of the source of it and was asking friends If they experienced the same thing even if they did things I did not like excessive daily caffeine intake, no exercising etc....
 
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Jz15

Member
Si said:
It's helped mine tremendously. I think it comes down to libido.

For 15 years I was a socially awkward outcast with women, men, family, colleagues, managers, strangers. When I was a kid I was full of charisma and social charm... I just thought that the latter me was how I always was meant to be, but looking back I realise something pivotal went seriously wrong.

Now my libido is back, all that social interactivity and charisma is showing it's face again. It's like that part of my brain was in sleep mode for so, so long.

I gotta say, it's libido for me. For 15 years I'd drained my libido due to excessive porn consumption and dopamine overload. It caused my human instinct to deteriorate as my brain was "satisfied" with how much I was "procreating" (brain doesn't know the difference between porn and reality) so there was no reason for me to have any social drive to get me through life, interact with real people and start a real relationship and family.

Long story short, I'm a much less socially awkward person now thanks to quitting pmo 2 years ago.
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I can relate 999 % I drained myself  just as you described very well above my friend and went to sleep mode.

WOW 2 years congrats this is a very long time I relapsed day 41 / binged and I'm back to day 4... Cant wait to reach at least a high number
 
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yesyes1234

Active Member
Yeah the brain literaly rewires during the reboot. The new pathway structure doesn't only effect the sexual system, but many other parts of our brain - the dopamine system, hypofrontal cortex, grey matter etc.

This thing is fucked.
 
jimthejones

jimthejones

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when i'm deep i firstly cant make eye contact ergo less intimate with people. i cant have a real and fulfilling laugh, i'm assuming because of the chemical imbalance its a little bit like ur less passionate about stuff in general. so this filters through conversations and some people can pick this up which makes me even more anxious. my anxiety has been better now because i have learned  positive and real self talk not flattering myself with false self talk but really learning to deal with bad emotions, even in my worst days.
 
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Jz15

Member
Yeah I will post update that it definately was because of porn. Somedays I will still do it but not in the same intensity.

If you don't look at girls while on reboot it cannot be a bad thing only because after all if she wants just sex and you need to wait, better ignore her in the first place
 
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malando

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I never noticed any change in the way I relate to people when I was using P. I'm pretty capable socially and P didn't affect that. P mainly affected my drive to get out and do things and also how I felt about myself and my relationship. I do think it kept me single for a lot longer in my 30's than I would have been otherwise. It was a lazy option.
 
Maximus76

Maximus76

Member
Yes I have had massive issues with social anxiety in my life. For me, I'd say rebooting helps to reduce my social anxiety to...about 30-40% To get the rest of the % down,  I have to use anxiety supplements (natural) and other tools and tricks.

http://naturalhealthevolution.com/best-supplement-for-social-anxiety-disorder/

http://naturalhealthevolution.com/2018/03/24/social-anxiety-is-ruining-my-life/

I have written a few blog posts about that on my blog, if you are interested the links above will take you there.

I guess the point being: we should look at many factors and, even thouogh nofap is great, we can't afford to think that just stopping porn and masturbating will magically cure 100% of our problems. My philosophy is, get a lot of tools and found out which of them works the best and use them!
 
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Jz15

Member
Thanks for the reply Maximus,

What I've noticed with myself, is that when I am around people more or when I am working, I develop zero anxiety, I become a different person, I don't stay inside my head for very long...

Now when I went on holidays I didn't go out very much and It got very bad

I hope you get better my friend, show courage

Although I wouldn't give any money on supplements to fight a psychological thing
 
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