jthomas
Member
Hi Folks, I'm 50+ years old, married with grown children. I've been using porn with increasing frequency since I was young. I've used it I think as much for pleasure as distraction from life stresses. In the last few years, I have lost the ability to make love to my wife and had increasing anxiety problems to the point I missed a few weeks of work last month.
In a desperate attempt to restore my strength and stop the self-harm, I stopped using porn 38 days ago tonight. It has been one of the most difficult addictions to break in part I think because it is so personal/private and I have decided to do this by myself.
I've beat other addictions: I quit smoking pot back in the 90's when I was starting a new career and my wife and I were discussing having children. I quit a 14 year cigarette smoking habit around the same time because I was turning 30 which seemed like a good age to give it up for long term health reasons.
I stopped drinking alcohol two years ago as a result of a heart attack that very nearly took my life - left main. I'm much healthier now thru exercise and responsible diet.
Despite all these successes, quitting porn is still a daily struggle. I love my wife very much and want our passion back. I believe quitting porn will ultimately lead to this.
I have returned to work and seen subtle improvements in my sexual energy for my wife. Not sure how many months ahead before the passion is back, but considering almost 40 years of porn use, I'm trying to be open minded.
I appreciate anyone's thoughts especially if you feel your journey to life after porn is at all similar to mine.
Strength Together,
J.
In a desperate attempt to restore my strength and stop the self-harm, I stopped using porn 38 days ago tonight. It has been one of the most difficult addictions to break in part I think because it is so personal/private and I have decided to do this by myself.
I've beat other addictions: I quit smoking pot back in the 90's when I was starting a new career and my wife and I were discussing having children. I quit a 14 year cigarette smoking habit around the same time because I was turning 30 which seemed like a good age to give it up for long term health reasons.
I stopped drinking alcohol two years ago as a result of a heart attack that very nearly took my life - left main. I'm much healthier now thru exercise and responsible diet.
Despite all these successes, quitting porn is still a daily struggle. I love my wife very much and want our passion back. I believe quitting porn will ultimately lead to this.
I have returned to work and seen subtle improvements in my sexual energy for my wife. Not sure how many months ahead before the passion is back, but considering almost 40 years of porn use, I'm trying to be open minded.
I appreciate anyone's thoughts especially if you feel your journey to life after porn is at all similar to mine.
Strength Together,
J.