Time to start again.....

Well, firstly I'd like to reintroduce myself. I'm Ben and I was on this site around two years ago when my wife found out about me still using porn and how I truly wanted to break this habit of a lifetime. Two years have passed and my wife and I are no longer together (nothing to do with my addiction), we split up in around October last year (2016) and being a single guy again I have slipped back into old, bad habits. Mainly thinking "Well what single guy doesn't use porn??" But, I am coming to the realisation that it is becoming a problem again, and one that I really want to get out of. The first thing I did was clear all my browser history and take myself off of a couple of "Hook up" sites and then I downloaded an app for my phone called NF Companion, which basically tells me how long since my last relapse, has motivational quotes and videos to help you keep going and you can also keep a journal on there of any thoughts or feelings during your recovery. So far it has only been two days, but I thought along with the app, coming back on here for guidance and general support would be the best way forward. Thanks for taking the time to read my introduction and I hope to get a lot of support from fellow rebooters, as well as offering help where I can to those who need a bit of motivation, Ben.

Welcome back!!!!!

Mainly thinking "Well what single guy doesn't use porn??" ]

Yeah that's definitely the wrong attitude. "Everyone does it'. It doesn't make it beneficial to you

I reached 3 months and got my erections back. I went onto a dating website to 'hook up' and unknowingly relapsed due to scanning through images of women with dopamine boosts saying ''I might be able to sag her!''. If anyone after they have recovered does go on a dating site... my suggestion is to not spend much time flicking through images/swiping... i mean if you want... dont even look just spam right and when you get a match check quickly who it is... pretty? Ok... i will chat to her but no nudes. It's better to avoid them really but in this day in age it seems to be what everyone is using.

My aim is definitely to stop watching P and MO by myself. I am at present chatting with a girl on Whatsapp, but everything is non-sexual (yes there's flirting, but I am aware of my triggers and my limits). If I get to the stage of becoming sexual with her then I believe that's healthy as it's involving another person. By myself, on my laptop, watching porn is not healthy at all. Thanks for the advice guys. As mentioned I'm using the NF Companion which is really helpful and when I look at the number of days I've done (only 4 so far) I don't want to see that figure back at zero, so thats a big incentive