Masturbation on thoughts of girlfriend overseas

Hi,

I usually masturbate once a week only, and it's usually on pictures of my girlfriend which lives overseas.

I need to know if it's healthier if I stop masturbating altogether physically and mentally and if it's mentally unhealthy to even masturbate on my gf's pics.

Thank you.

I would say to abstain to any fantasies and pictures even if its of your gf. Sensations are ok if you really want to mo

Hello,

Thank you for your reply, What do you mean by sensations? thinking about her ?

Why does the forum recommend abstaining completely from masturbation if it's not related to porn or someone other than your girlfriend/fiance/wife.

Thank you.

Hello my friend,

If your girlfriend would not approve of you jerking over a piece of paper, then I would not condone such behaviour!

Overcomer80

Hello,

Lol This is the 21st century, what pieces of paper. Of course she approves, we interchange pics.

But is masturbation by itself not healthy ? Like would it affect me mentally if I keep this behavior to once a week.

Thanks

No i meant masturbating to the sensations alone no fantasizing or looking at images.

What I think we're all trying to collectively say is that masturbation is not wrong. Most people here have an addiction to using porn to get off. For us, that includes ALL simulated sexual stimuli. It doesn't matter if it's a pic of your gf or a video of a porn star or erotic books or even a Victoria's Secret catalog - if you are jacking it to some sort of sexual media (or even your imagination and fantasy) then it's not good for you.

The problem with most people here is that we can only get off if we have these stimuli and that's what we're trying to fix. Some guys are even as young as 14 and 15 and have erectile disfunction because of porn.

Many people will agree that masturbation where you are totally in the now and not using your imagination or using pixels to get off is totally fine because it is based on just the feeling.

For some of us, we abstain from all masturbation during our reboot to be able to fix the issues with our brains, then once we've rebooted, will only masturbate to the feeling alone, or will only engage in sex with other people. Pixels and imagery is no longer an option for us.

So if that sounds like you - you can only get off when using a pic of your gf - then you might want to try to stop doing that.

Hope that helps.

Thank you, yes I guess I see your point now, so what kind of health benefits would it have if I am to stop masturbation altogether although she's not here so I can't have sex either.

I would recommend checking out yourbrainonporn.com to see if you actually have a porn problem. Some people don't, so the benefits would be different than someone who has a full-blown addiction destroying their lives.

You'll have to see where you are in the spectrum of addiction, if at all, and then decide what you want to do about it. If you don't actually have a problem, then the benefits won't be as noticeable as someone who has a true addiction.

I see your point, Thank you. I don't have an addiction, it just that in my mind I always thought that if I don't masturbate at least once a week I am kind of suppressing this natural behavior which if it doesnt happen, it might make me stressed out more. That's what I thought at least, but after reading for a while some people are saying if I stop masturbating altogether I start feeling much better.