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Who bloody knows eh? I think it's ok and I def wouldn't restart your counter over this. In my early days my gf would send me sexy pics n stuff but I wouldn't m to them... I don't know where the line is so I generally just stick to the no pmo rule. Though I would personally try avoid anything that sparks that dopamine craving type feeling in your head. Yea it's complicated isn't it and no one really knows for sure but as you progress you'll care less about the odd bit of precum as you get them pmo free days under your belt, I imagine anyway.

Did you improve despite pre-cum?

Yes. I think any sex is ok as long as it's with a human and doesn't involve an electronic device. I didn't come for 3 months.... And that's because I couldn't, not because I didn't want to.

Success Stories / Re: Succes finally after 3 years of struggle!
« on: June 15, 2017, 11:24:18 AM »
I feel like these statements contradict each other... If you have to wait a week or two before having sex again... Your libido can't be that great. A normal libido would allow you to have sex the next day.

Yes I know what you mean. However, hopefully he can clarify this as his earlier point was something like "shorter refractory period... Libido each day".

I'm praying this "normal libido" will return (I'm currently having 3 week on, 1 week off with my libido, which is so bloody frustrating. It's been like this for so long now). Until I can have sex every day or my dick works everytime my brain wants it to I won't be posting a success as it wouldn't be legit. I hope one day the day will come.

I'm worse case scenario btw.

Really interesting this. I'm convinced my dick isn't the same as it was when I was a teenager. It seemed at 20 years old it got more veins and darker. I've seen so many docs and urologists about it and ALL of them say it's perfectly​ normal and recommended psychological help... (Jeez). So I'm just accepting it now. I'm happy with the size so I ain't that fussed anymore (now it bloody works anyway) but I'm still convinced I damaged it through over masturbation, and thinking about it... Yea girth wise it may be a little less. Would be interested to hear the conclusion of your doctor's findings. Good luck. 

Ages 30-39 / Re: Reboot Restart -- 100+ days and counting!
« on: June 12, 2017, 04:59:13 AM »
Hey guys. Just about flat lines, they are a nightmare. I'm at 500 days and only just seeing the end of recurring flat lines. I think I've had about 20 flat lines since starting the reboot and have only orgasmed through sex and occasional mutual M or oral (but at least 95% vaginal intercourse). I've had a lot of sex over the 500 days which may attribute to the flatlines, or the flatlines may have been there without me even knowing (if I wasn't having sex). It's a total minefield out there. My suggestion is try to relax, and absolutely do not return to PMO, it's the only way you can continuously monitor and be sure of your progress. Progress will still be non linear in the best of circumstances so adding occasional P into the mix will just mess up your understanding of your reboot. However, don't beat yourself up as there's no way all progress can be lost after a relapse but it's an emotional rollercoaster even with zero P,  but just keep trying and persevering and you'll eventually get there. Like I say, I'm only just beginning to have no flatlines at all now... But I was severe worst case scenario, young PMO for 15 years with very little organic sexual experience. It can be done. Don't give up.

Ages 40 and up / Re: Hello 55 yrs old and PIED
« on: June 09, 2017, 10:43:26 AM »
Yes definitely. Only you can know when you're truly rebooted, and if you can stay hard everytime for sex when it's required you're sorted!! It shows how quickly people with a wealth of experience can reboot compared to younger guys with less experience, despite age! This is encouraging to someone like myself who is 31 and only just engaging in real sex due to this PMO crap... So I'm constantly worrying that my sexual prime is gone. The fact that you're still going strong at 50+ is great news to us all. Keep "it" up!

Well as it turned out we did try and it failed in my part so I told her. Didn't ask her obviously what does she think about porn but explained why "it" may not work for a while because overdoing masturbation in the past and told her she has the right to know. I was very surprised and relieved how undisturbed and understanding she was about it and said she could wait. Thank god I met a person like this :) This failed sex attempt strongly reminded me again how I must finally and absolutely kill this addiction to death and rewire my sexual responses.

Buy a cock and strap it on, go down on her, use a magic wand/vibrator on her, so many ways to give her an orgasm without a hard dick.

Not sure if this is poking fun but no.

I think he was actually being sincere lol. Yes there's lots you can do to... But we all really want to satisfy with our own dicks so I understand your predicament. Time, determination, patience, willpower and positivity are the only things you need to fix this problem... And a really understanding gf if u have one.

Ages 30-39 / Re: 2 weeks and counting
« on: June 06, 2017, 11:27:03 AM »
Everything you're doing is such a positive step to beating this once and for all. Don't be so hard on yourself, you're over 330 days, THAT is a statement of who you are and how determined you have become, not whether or not you expressed your feelings at a given moment. You're doing great pal.

Progress is slow but totally achievable. I'd say I occasionally feel this "burning" libido that you call it. Other times I don't feel anything worth noting, but my dick will still work when it's needed to.

Hi Fred. Sounds like you're on the right track and congrats on spotting the issue and rectifying it relatively early. As you have real experience previously I think things will iron out for you quicker than others (I am a worse case scenario). If this is a long term relationship I would be honest about it. Even if one day you have great erections the next day you could feel libidoless and struggle, so it's unlikely to be a linear recovery, which will be noticeable in a new relationship when you're gonna be intimate frequently. Don't worry though, this won't be forever. Good luck.

Ages 20-29 / Re: Way's Journal (24,PIED)
« on: May 31, 2017, 05:20:43 AM »
Great work dude. Taking control of your own issues and changing it into something positive will ensure you never need to return to PMO when you're ready. You've got decades of amazing sex and intimacy ahead of you! Celebrate it.

Who bloody knows eh? I think it's ok and I def wouldn't restart your counter over this. In my early days my gf would send me sexy pics n stuff but I wouldn't m to them... I don't know where the line is so I generally just stick to the no pmo rule. Though I would personally try avoid anything that sparks that dopamine craving type feeling in your head. Yea it's complicated isn't it and no one really knows for sure but as you progress you'll care less about the odd bit of precum as you get them pmo free days under your belt, I imagine anyway.

Mate that sucks. Hopefully it won't take you too long to reverse the damage. I've opted for no p or m, and only ejaculation through real sex/intimacy. I like it like this as whilst it can be frustrating if I'm desperate to blow my load, it restores my dignity, manhood and sense of achievement as it forces me to work at getting laid, rather than being lazy. Good luck and let's hope you caught this before it got out of hand (like me who PMOd with a limp dick for years).

So yes, be honest but be prepared for a tough ride.

Do you mean by "be prepared for a tough ride" that the recovery might take a while or being prepared for the relationship to be severely damaged?

I mean recovery can take a while. It's more noticeable in a relationship where you want sex more than once a week. Everyone's different though. I'm a worse case scenario of pied, you're hopefully not so recovery may be easier/quicker.

Regarding the relationships, it may not affect your relationship at all, or it may rock it a bit. I know my gf gets really upset that the reason shit doesn't always work is because of all the porn I've watched. If she's the right girl for you there's no reason you can't get through it. Good luck.

When you say you don't need it... is your sex life good now?

I mean, it doesn't work unless your aroused... But if you're aroused you'll get a hard on, so you don't need it. Sex life is pretty good, still improving.

Andy have you tried cialis?

Yes I have. Got loads at home. Didn't really work for me/don't need it.

You have to be honest with her. Unless you can guarantee how quick you'll be cured and try and hide it there's no other option other than lying, and who wants to lie to the woman you love? When I got with my GF I told her everything and she stood by me. I said I'd be cured in 3 months... Ha ha, I was so wrong. She is still with me, but I'm not going to lie, all the confusion regarding sex between us and "will it work or will it not" has taken toll on us I think to the point where I'm generally quite ready for sex more than she is, but she's probably sick of all the times I've "lost my libido" half way through. It's like she's not as arsed to try any more and I don't really blame her. So yes, be honest but be prepared for a tough ride.

Sorry, thought you meant "night fall" as in you relapsed. I take it you mean a wet dream then?

Supposed herbal libido enhancers exist but I find only time will restore your libido. Go see a doctor first of all to express concerns over libido, then at least you can be put forward for hormone tests etc to rule those out. Other than abstaining and being patient I'm not sure what else you could do... Try not to think too much about it, focus on cuddling and non penetrative aspects of sex and improving your health in general. Good luck.

Quit the porn. Stop using a couple of times a month. STOP completely and never look back. Try Viagra if u want but you need to be aroused for it to really work so... Just quit the PMO and be patient.

Success Stories / Re: Successful Reboot completely changed my life
« on: May 24, 2017, 07:22:10 AM »
Great work!! How bad was your reboot? How long did it take? And does your erection ever fail you at all? How frequently are you having sex and does it work everytime?

Thanks for your time and cheers for sharing.

Ages 40 and up / Re: Hello 55 yrs old and PIED
« on: May 22, 2017, 10:26:18 AM »
Yes mate! Great weekend. Lots of MW for me. Can't believe I went so long without it!! So angry at myself. Libido high right now for me but I know in a couple a week I'll prob be down again. Great that you're dedicated to this reboot at your age and improving your self worth. Keep this up!

I take it you've told him that? When I got with my GF and she felt the same way you did I was devastated that I'd let a selfish act hurt someone so much. That was enough to give it up for good... That and when I realised what was the cause of my ED. I'm sure he feels terrible about it. Great that you are supporting him through this as I'm sure it's difficult for him not being able to satisfy you the way you want. Good luck. But yes, he HAS to talk about this with you to make sure he doesn't push you away.

That really sucks. Yea it can take a while for libido to return. I suppose you need to decide if you have the patience to stick it out. Maybe say if you don't wanna talk about it, at least agree to discuss it at 90 days. To see how things are progressing?

Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction/Delayed Ejaculation / Re: Help!!
« on: May 21, 2017, 01:37:29 AM »
Real intimacy/seeing your GF naked shouldn't hinder recovery, as long as you don't PMO as a result of it.

After everything I think I found out Porn is not the main cause of my ED. I had my testosterone checked few months ago. As many people, I've been told it was "normal". I asked foe the actual numbers this week and turns out I have the level of a 70 year old. 12.0 nmol/L or 346 ng/dl. I'm 26 non smoker and been going to the gym 4 times a week for the last 4 years. There is no reason for my t level to be so low. It all started with the pain in my left testicle. 6 months ago. Guys you should all get your T checked to make sure your problem is not physical, may save your mental health lok

Hey, you may find that 12nmol/l is within normal range (8.0-30). Testosterone is difficult to measure as it fluctuates through the day A LOT! It's supposed to be higher in the morning and lower in the evening, but so many factors affect it which is why you really need a few measurements to determine a more realistic level. Generally though, as long as you aren't losing muscle, losing body hair or feeling weak your testosterone is likely fine! You work out a lot, which uses a lot of testosterone, but also promotes the production of it, so the one reading you have I wouldn't worry about, especially since it's within a "normal" range. Do the reboot for  ever and if you see no improvement after a year maybe check back with the doc.

Just noticed your counter, have you not orgasmed since Jan 2016???

I've orgasmed lots, mainly through sex, some mutual M and oral. No P.

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