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Yea the Success thread is diluted by minor success posts (which are very successful to those individuals personally)... But it does make it hard to find a real 100% success story. Also, for most it's difficult to really gauge if you are 100% because, unless you're having sex every day without fail you'll never know. So, people tend to post their success after 1 or 2 successful erections and O in sex. But most long term rebooters know that this is potentially only part of the journey completed.

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Mines been half mast for a while now... Have put it down to going on a big diet a few month ago and lower t levels... But I'm eating loads now and it's still not 100%, which it was before my diet.

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Guys, you might "feel" numb, and put that down to damaging your penis due to over masturbation. But, it's likely that your brain just isn't excited at that point and doesn't send the necessary signals to your penis to enjoy the sensation, and likewise your penis doesn't send the pleasure signals back to your brain... So it basically feels like the sensation on your penis is no different to the sensation felt when touching any other non erroneous zone on your body. But, the perceived sensitivity should come back with disciplined reboots. The sensation is all brain controlled. The highly sensitive nerves in your penis are capable of sending the information to the brain, but if the brain is not requesting the information from your penis, it's not going to work as it should.


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I think I've understood what exactly is the problem with DS.
You look at many girls in the period of time. It's constant novelty: several seconds for each image. Your brain gets more and more of them. Even not fapping, you get high. Thus when you get in bed with a real woman, you may even get aroused, but then your dick faints. Your brain needs more and more new images in the short time.

It would not be harmful if you find a girl at DS and write to her. It would be harmful if you list their profiles for HOURS (like I did).

Absolutely what I did! I'd rebooted progressively with good results... Got single, swiped for hours on the DS, had loads of conversions going. Eventually one girl was sending me videos and whilst I never fapped, looking back I felt the same surge of dopamine flood my brain. I get so horny to meet her, but I met her and nothing happened!!! Devastated. On absolute hard mode now for as long as it takes.

Oh man. When did this occur? If you don't mind me asking.

About 3 month ago. I'm starting to care a little bit less about recovery now I'm single, it's a big pressure off and I'm actually just not thinking about it. It'll take as long as it takes. How are you getting on scorpion?

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I think I've understood what exactly is the problem with DS.
You look at many girls in the period of time. It's constant novelty: several seconds for each image. Your brain gets more and more of them. Even not fapping, you get high. Thus when you get in bed with a real woman, you may even get aroused, but then your dick faints. Your brain needs more and more new images in the short time.

It would not be harmful if you find a girl at DS and write to her. It would be harmful if you list their profiles for HOURS (like I did).

Absolutely what I did! I'd rebooted progressively with good results... Got single, swiped for hours on the DS, had loads of conversions going. Eventually one girl was sending me videos and whilst I never fapped, looking back I felt the same surge of dopamine flood my brain. I get so horny to meet her, but I met her and nothing happened!!! Devastated. On absolute hard mode now for as long as it takes.

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Dating sites set me back. Definitely! Sparked similar reward behaviours in the brain. Met a few girls, successful with 1, unsuccessful with 2 others. Knocked out on the head after that.

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Lol I think you're talking about someone else. I don't have a success story. .....yet. I've been relapsing for like 2 months straight now  :( . I'm back on the wagon now though. About 20+ days in.

Oh, this isn't you? You have exact same avatar! Haha.
http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=3328.0

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Might be.I'm in the flatline but I get morning wood almost everyday....so it might not be the flatline for you, idk. How long has it been absent?

Jones! You're in a flat line? I thought you were recovered? You had an epic success story? What happend? One relapse can't have undone everything surely? Enlighten me please.

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Only time I've had that feeling to empty bladder when I actually don't need to is after drinking a fair amount and then orgasm. It's annoying but passes. Very rare it happens.

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Can't comment as don't know the symptoms of this. What are your experience? Leakage?

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I fucked pretty hard.
This COULD be why you're in pain. I have hard flaccid....it's similar to the shrinkage of the penis as you're experiencing but without the pain.I noticed whenever I pmo I shrinks and get hard,but if I abstain from pmoing I becomes more elastic...so avoid all stimulation for a few months and see what happens. Also try to notice any changes during that period.

Jones, what happend? I'm sure i read your success story recently? You back off the wagon?

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Finding a partner to "rewire to" is a bad idea.

Finding a partner is always good.

But don't look for one to rewire to.

What a bad start!  - hey iam damaged from porn - but I think I should go out with you to help fix me - are you in?

I don't think so.

Ah yea it doesn't sound great to me either but least you can do is be honest. If the girl is up for the challenge then so be it! I would say though, that you need to be honest with yourself and her about what happens once you "are" rebooted. I mean, if you're likely to want to go away and make up for lost time with other girls, she needs to know. I broke up with my last gf for some major reasons but I gotta admit that one "little" reason was the fact I was getting hornier than I'd ever been and felt I couldn't just be with her for the rest of our lives (she wanted marriage and kids etc and hardly wanted sex). Tbh she turned out to be assole anyway but if your woman wants you forever and you still ain't sure what "you want" after reboot, it's probably best to say so.

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Some flatline symptoms, but if I was getting pain anywhere I'd definitely consult a doctor.

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My opinion. It's ok. Great for rewiring... But don't start pressuring yourself too soon to have amazing sex. Figure out how long you've been PMOing, how long your dick hasn't been feeling right, how much sex you had before PIED etc etc, and have a good, realistic estimate of how long it could take you to recover. If it's in the "months" category, do the 90 days and get rewiring. If it's in the "years" category, I'd hang for a bit and go hard mode as long as possible. I'm in the "years" category and started rewiring after a couple of months. It was very, very frustrating and yes I had some great sex, but continually dropped in and out of flat lines. It made the relationship very rocky and embarrassing. TBH mate no one really knows, but I'm just saying in my situation, in hindsight I wish I went hard mode for 6-12 months. I'm now single, and tried a few sexual encounters which, more often than not failed, so I have work to do, so I'm going at least 90 hard mode from a few week ago. Everyone is different and if you have the perfect partner then rewiring can be really helpful.

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Ages 30-39 / Re: 33 Years old and severely burntout
« on: September 07, 2017, 01:15:09 AM »
Everything you say echoes on a big level with me and is so similar to my situation. Good luck with the journey my friend, you know what you need to do.

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Cheers. And it sounds very familiar to me. Except I had no sex prior to my addiction. I'm well aware of how stressful it is whilst in a relationship constantly thinking of your partner's expectations and the possible results of any actions made in the bedroom on your erections. I'd get really frustrated when I'd be getting hard but then she'd cool off... It wasn't ever her fault but I always selfishly thought "well it's not my fault if it doesn't come back". But in hindsight that was a ridiculous thought, because the best BJ's and sex I've had since were where my erection was up and down and being teased. Yea it's a rocky road in a relationship with PIED, but now I'm single I also realise it's just as tough too. Well, it's easier to rack up some hard mode I must admit.

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Yea mate. You'll be ok in the long run. Use it as a reason to kick this habit for good. Get that counter up to 90 and beyond. No turning back now.

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Success Stories / Re: Fighting for a long time, here are my findings
« on: August 30, 2017, 01:23:01 PM »
Thank you for posting your recovery story and giving us hope.  Good for you man.

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Success Stories / Re: I'M CURED!!! - NO PMO - 5 MONTHS
« on: August 30, 2017, 01:22:20 PM »
Thanks for sharing dude and congratulations.

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A glimpse here and there of nudity(not intentional,since nudity nowadays seems to be everywhere) can't possibily make me relapse everytime,right? Because then I will never heal.

Not at all, but I can trace pretty much every relapse I have had to a trigger like that. You just have to limit it as much as possible and absolutely do not indulge yourself. It might not even get you straight away, I've relapsed days later because I haven't been able to get an image or an idea out of my head!

Seconded. I can relate directly to this. I started reading up about fantasy for the first time specifically because my last PMO relapse started with an innocent-enough TV drama scene, and it didn't happen until the next day.

I mean, the sexting it eventually led to sent me in to a flat line. No MO but I'm sure it's messed my dopamine sensitivity up. It's the whole swiping thing and judging girl's on looks may have resembled a similar routine I used to do whilst searching for the perfect porn.

So just swiping through profiles on Tinder sent/kept you in the flatline? Or was it more of the sexting ? Either way, wow...

I'm in and out of flatline all the time mate so I can't know for sure. But it seemed like it didn't help matters. Honestly I'm like the horniest guy for a couple of weeks and then (like now) I feel completely asexual. Sometimes it's down to too many orgasm, other times it's random but I think on this occasion the sexting and novelty if it put me in to it

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A glimpse here and there of nudity(not intentional,since nudity nowadays seems to be everywhere) can't possibily make me relapse everytime,right? Because then I will never heal.

Not at all, but I can trace pretty much every relapse I have had to a trigger like that. You just have to limit it as much as possible and absolutely do not indulge yourself. It might not even get you straight away, I've relapsed days later because I haven't been able to get an image or an idea out of my head!

Seconded. I can relate directly to this. I started reading up about fantasy for the first time specifically because my last PMO relapse started with an innocent-enough TV drama scene, and it didn't happen until the next day.

I mean, the sexting it eventually led to sent me in to a flat line. No MO but I'm sure it's messed my dopamine sensitivity up. It's the whole swiping thing and judging girl's on looks may have resembled a similar routine I used to do whilst searching for the perfect porn.

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The only thing that i think afected me is tinder since i used it but with no succes. Instead seing pics of those girls gave me boners.

Damn, tinder sent me in to a flat line I'm sure of it. Not so much the swiping but a girl started sending me nudes and videos of herself and I was so horny I couldn't resist but watch (no mo), thinking that as I was going to be seeing her the next day it would be ok... But I saw her and flopped completely. Was in a flat for a good week and half, very depressed at one point too.

3 years is a long time without P to not be cured, but I think it's possible. I'm worried because my situation is very similar to yours. I suppose that is OK to accept if you're gradually making improvements over time... For example, I know improvements are non linear, but can you definitely see improvement on a year by year basis? If so, maybe it will take us this long

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I think you'll recover faster than just as you can still get erect from BJ's etc. You've caught this early, before it gets out of hand! Good for you mate and good luck. Take this seriously and don't expect results instantly, but congratulations on saving your sex life!

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I second the above. However, you are in your forties and I think it's fair to say that men in their forties may experience it.

I hear what you're saying, though there's no reason a fit, healthy man in his 40s should have erection issues. If they are fit and healthy their T levels should still be at an acceptable level to achieve an erection. What may be true is that the desire for sex is a little less, but still it's not normal for a guy in the 40s to just have erection problems without an actual reason other than age. I'm banking on this being correct because I'm in my early 30s and have a LOT of making up to do, so I'm planning on being sexually active as hell for as long as I can once I'm through with this for good lol.

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All very familiar. Good luck with the reboot.

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