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@ Slavy brazy

So glad you found our videos helpful! And Congrats on one month free my man. Hope the best for you and hope this community and forum can help you along the way to recovery and a better life. Much love

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Porn Addiction / Your Brain On Porn the book AVAILABLE in Arabic!!
« on: December 13, 2017, 02:46:01 PM »
What's up Nation,

My number one goal with Reboot Nation is to help people. And my strategy for achieving that was to focus on raising awareness. I have good news. The book Your Brain On Porn is now available in arabic! I've received several messages over the last couple of years asking for translations of helpful material into arabic, and the YBOP book is the most informative piece of work on the subject in my opinion. Would you please share this link/information with anyone you may know that could benefit or help get the word out. Here is a direct link - http://commonwealth-publishing.com/shop/your-brain-on-porn-arabic/


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Porn Addiction / Re: Interesting Talks About Addiction
« on: November 01, 2017, 08:44:37 AM »
There are several problems with the statements made in this talk. Read this critique of it here: https://yourbrainonporn.com/commentary-everything-we-think-we-know-about-addiction-wrong-nutshell

In short, not all addicts lack connection.

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After watching the "Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong" video, read this. There are a lot of problems with the statements made in it.

In short, not all addicts lack connection.

https://yourbrainonporn.com/commentary-everything-we-think-we-know-about-addiction-wrong-nutshell

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@Tom123 my goal is to raise awareness so people can find help. So I'm glad you're here and I hope the best for you! Much Love

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Hey Nation,

I was interviewed for this piece on RollingStone.com raising awareness on porn-induced ED. Noah Church and myself were fortunate enough to share a little bit about our story. While I have my issues with it (1: The warning on Gary's TEDx talk is bullshit, as his talk isn't even about masturbation. 2: Left out the fact that guys with PIED cannot masturbate without porn, ruling out "performance anxiety. 3: Left out all research correlating porn use to sexual problems/case studies documenting young guys recovering from pied/de by rebooting etc...) It will hopefully raise awareness and start more discussion about what we're experiencing in communities such as this. Give it a read..big win for awareness of porn-induced dysfunction and potential negative effects.

http://www.rollingstone.com/culture/features/is-internet-porn-making-young-men-impotent-w503299

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Hey boneymaroney,

I've had people let me know they've uploaded them on other platforms. Here are 3 vids on Vimeo and I believe I've seen others on Vimeo as well. Hope this helps. Much Love

https://vimeo.com/user58600733

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Porn Addiction / Re: Why Are Threads Disappearing?
« on: August 30, 2017, 10:41:21 AM »
For starters, "Don't be offensive" is not a rule. http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=6.msg7#msg7 People can be offended by anything. We do not allow personal attacks. Engage the opinions of others with logic/facts/your own opinion without name calling and you'll be abiding by the rules and posts will stay up.

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Alright mate so which is it, did op break them rules or is it "not beneficial"? It'd be a bit of a waste of my time to post without knowing I'm contributing to something that'll be tossed in the trash "just cause". Think I'll tick with yourbrainrebalanced.com for now.

Cheers Mate, good luck with this way of doing things :-\

Both. OP broke the rules and the following posts were not beneficial, and broke the rules. Thanks for the well wishes.

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Porn Addiction / Re: Why Are Threads Disappearing?
« on: August 30, 2017, 10:17:47 AM »
Different opinions are welcome here. As long as the posters follow the rules.

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Porn Addiction / Re: Why Are Threads Disappearing?
« on: August 30, 2017, 10:11:30 AM »
We will remove any discussion that we do not believe is beneficial to rebooters and/or their partners. Sometimes the removal of threads is because the op breaks the rules of the forum through our private messaging system.

This is a recovery forum, that is our priority. If a conversation that you would like to see continue is removed, simply start a new thread on it. As long as it abides by our forum rules, and the creators of the post abide by those rules as well, both publicly and privately, then we are happy to see conversation and dialogue.

Thank you.

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Bump. Key point is this is anonymous... please consider helping!

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Teens / Re: My Journal
« on: March 08, 2017, 01:21:55 PM »
Welcome to the Nation Psychobloche!

First off congrats on starting possibly the most important process of your life. Know it will be difficult, but the positives will far out way the negatives. It is great you are already seeing improvements, such as a slight increase in libido and morning erections. Be careful if you decide to masturbate and avoid fantasizing about porn.

One day at a time... one step at a time. You got this! Hope the best for you!

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Flatline
« on: March 07, 2017, 08:06:53 PM »
Edited to take out all the brag talk...

As Floing said, good days are followed by bad days sometimes. Many rebooters have reported going into flatlines after orgasm even when with a partner. Not sure why this happens, but don't worry about it as wiring yourself to a real partner and avoiding porn is the goal, and is what you are doing. Keep truckin.

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@William Thanks for posting over on your thread! Although it disappoints me I'm not your type, thanks for the kind words. It is true that people have a preconceived image of what a porn addict looks like... they don't realize it could be anyone.

@loleekins Thanks! And Noah did get recorded and you can view it here: https://vimeo.com/202568908 He will upload it to his YT channel soon I believe.

Much love.

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Hey Nation!

Just posted a new vid to the Reboot Nation YouTube channel. It is my full presentation from a couple months ago at the Coalition To End Sexual Exploitation summit in Houston, Tx. I spoke on why porn is a public health issue that needs to be taken seriously, and shared my story. Noah Church also spoke alongside me, as well as a wonderful friend Haley Halverson. Noah dug into the science and Haley covered the dark side of porn that can get abusive and aggressive and how that can lead to violence in some cases. Overall it was an AWESOME conference that was one of the most powerful, influential, and memorable weeks of my life. Please SHARE this video on social media, and share it personally with anyone who may benefit from it. I love you guys. Y'all have a great day and keep truckin!

https://youtu.be/J2KrTBicyrQ

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Porn Addiction / BBC 5 LIVE Radio - Thank you
« on: January 13, 2017, 06:43:31 AM »
Morning Nation,

Just did a interview with BBC 5 Live radio (probably the first time I woke up at 430am in my life haha) and wanted to say a big thank you to Steve and to Simon for going on the show and sharing your experiences. It is so encouraging to see you guys improving and sharing your story to help others.

To anyone who is lurking this page or "new", make sure you check out our YouTube channel as it has a lot of basic info to get you started. Here is a interview I did sharing my story - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r8kJ387-rzg&t=3s

and here is a video about the good ol basics! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4yx4ouxGbQ&t=2s

And the scientific info I talked about that helped me tremendously can by found at YourBrainOnPorn.com (It is linked at the top of this page  8) )

If you're a partner of someone struggling/addicted/recovering, you can find support and wisdom in this section - http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?board=7.0

For articles specific to women and rebooting, stake a gander on this page - http://yourbrainonporn.com/articles-special-interest-women

Much Love Nation and I hope the best for everyone.

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Porn Addiction / Re: ANY UK based Rebooter Willing to Share Your Story?
« on: October 14, 2016, 03:26:24 PM »
Note: You can remain anonymous for the radio interview.

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Porn Addiction / ANY UK based Rebooter Willing to Share Your Story?
« on: October 12, 2016, 01:55:16 PM »
EDIT: You can remain anonymous for the radio interview.

Hey Nation, I've been contacted several times in the last week from BBC Radio and other producers/journalists looking for anyone in/near the UK who would be willing to speak with them and or share their story of porn addiction/porn-induced erectile dysfunction. Please comment here, or message me, if you would be willing to speak up and raise awareness of the problem.

Our voices and stories can help others avoid the pain we've experienced. Helping others can also help you have a purpose bigger than ourselves behind rebooting. Speaking up about PIED was one of the toughest but most rewarding things I've done in my life, and I encourage everyone to at least consider it, but of course I completely understand choosing not to. In any case, thanks for being here and I hope the best for you all.

Much Love

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Partners of Rebooters and Addicts / MOVED: Sex toys
« on: September 26, 2016, 10:47:00 PM »

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Success Stories / Re: Need Motivation? Hear Me Out! Short and Sweet
« on: September 24, 2016, 11:58:51 AM »
@RAMI,

Sorry for the delay. I let this topic get away from me and hadn't checked it.

First off I'm glad you're here, and I'm extremely sorry to hear about the relationship ending. I'm a believer that everything negative can, over time, be turned into a positive, even if we can't see or understand how for a while. So I hope the experiences you had with her and the relationship ending can be turned into a positive.

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My question is, how can I keep with the process of rewiring since I no longer have a loving partner?

In my opinion you shouldn't worry about "rewiring" unless you have a partner... so my advice would be to continue to avoid artificial stimulation and reboot, and then, when the time comes and you have a partner again then rewire. Some guys have said that realistic fantasy helps them rewire. Thinking about real people and realistic situations that are not porn scripted. However, in my opinion that isn't the best path to recovery, I say "if it ain't real, no deal."

Here is a post where Gary and I share some thoughts: http://yourbrainonporn.com/do-i-have-have-sex-order-rewire

Hope it is helpful. And your english is fine  :D

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@ reboottrapp,

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It's good that they're looking into this, hopefully it'll keep some of our sailor's marriages better and more military children having mom and dad happily married.

I agree. I've heard from many friends that guys are showing up to the army/navy addicted to the internet and can't function without it and freak out and have anxiety attacks at rates higher than ever before... and they do not want unstable, depressed, stressed out guys with poorly functioning brains to be in battle defending our country. These guys are supposed to be sharp and ready, not anxious with cloudy thinking. This isn't just about dicks.. when our servicemen are unhappy, stressed and poorly functioning it will certainly be taken seriously. This is a start.

@ willtochange,

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Thank you so much for bringing this huge topic to light once again to a large audience.


Thanks for the kind words. Doing what I can when I can my man. Much Love!

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Please share this if able. Covers some of the recent research and case studies reporting porn-induced dysfunctions. Also documents the sharp increase in ED rates:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/gabe-deem/us-navy-reports-porn-is-s_b_11968942.html?

Much Love

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Partners of Rebooters and Addicts / Re: Feminist Anger
« on: September 12, 2016, 11:32:28 AM »
This thread is no longer helpful to partners in recovery.

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