Remington.22
Member
Hi Everyone,
Today marks exactly one & a half years (April 8, 2018) since I've looked at porn. I've always meant to be a more regular poster & participant here but life happens, time runs out,..yadda. Sorry about that. But I thought I'd post some thoughts on this my 18-month anniversary to try and encourage those still struggling. Main thought being - IT CAN BE DONE. You don't have to be a slave to this demon.
I'm a 54 y/o, married 25 years, 3 kids male. Like many others I began dabbling in porn at 13 or 14 when we figured out where certain kids in the neighborhood's dads kept their magazine stash. On to renting VHS tapes (and tape players!), into the wed/information age, cycle of PMO > I hate this, I quit > fail again. This went on for 40 years. 4/8/2018 I said, "That's it, I'm done. This is not stronger than me, I can do this." I'd read "Whack", got into the science of it and believed in the power of getting to 90-days clean. Un-burning those neuropathways and starving the beast of its dopamine.
It worked. 30 days became 90, 90 became 120. 120 became 365. Here I am.
It has lost its grip on me. I'm on the web all day every day + travel periodically for business. I have no monitoring or filtering software on any of my computers or connected devices, I check into and out of hotels completely and totally by myself. This is truly not to boast and I hope its not coming off that way, I'm just saying -- IT CAN BE DONE. I am living proof. I wasn't just a 'sort of' addict, I was full blown. There is an escape. I've lurked the forum from time-to-time for another reason, tho its perhaps a bit assbackwards.
Just as I, thru success, hope to inspire those who are failing; those of you who fail are inspiring to me! When I read your accounts of relapse they invariably describe how crappy, depressed and like dog meat you feel when you break the string --be it at 10 days, 50 days or whatev-- and I tell myself, "I don't want to experience that!" If that makes sense. Anytime an urge comes up to view porn I tell myself just what loser/failure/piece of crap I'll feel like if after 548 days I blow it. So, without knowing it, those of you still trapped in the " x days sober > PMO > damn it!! " circle have helped propel ME to success.
Hope this is rec'd as intended. Brothers (& sisters) ---> THIS CAN BE DONE
Today marks exactly one & a half years (April 8, 2018) since I've looked at porn. I've always meant to be a more regular poster & participant here but life happens, time runs out,..yadda. Sorry about that. But I thought I'd post some thoughts on this my 18-month anniversary to try and encourage those still struggling. Main thought being - IT CAN BE DONE. You don't have to be a slave to this demon.
I'm a 54 y/o, married 25 years, 3 kids male. Like many others I began dabbling in porn at 13 or 14 when we figured out where certain kids in the neighborhood's dads kept their magazine stash. On to renting VHS tapes (and tape players!), into the wed/information age, cycle of PMO > I hate this, I quit > fail again. This went on for 40 years. 4/8/2018 I said, "That's it, I'm done. This is not stronger than me, I can do this." I'd read "Whack", got into the science of it and believed in the power of getting to 90-days clean. Un-burning those neuropathways and starving the beast of its dopamine.
It worked. 30 days became 90, 90 became 120. 120 became 365. Here I am.
It has lost its grip on me. I'm on the web all day every day + travel periodically for business. I have no monitoring or filtering software on any of my computers or connected devices, I check into and out of hotels completely and totally by myself. This is truly not to boast and I hope its not coming off that way, I'm just saying -- IT CAN BE DONE. I am living proof. I wasn't just a 'sort of' addict, I was full blown. There is an escape. I've lurked the forum from time-to-time for another reason, tho its perhaps a bit assbackwards.
Just as I, thru success, hope to inspire those who are failing; those of you who fail are inspiring to me! When I read your accounts of relapse they invariably describe how crappy, depressed and like dog meat you feel when you break the string --be it at 10 days, 50 days or whatev-- and I tell myself, "I don't want to experience that!" If that makes sense. Anytime an urge comes up to view porn I tell myself just what loser/failure/piece of crap I'll feel like if after 548 days I blow it. So, without knowing it, those of you still trapped in the " x days sober > PMO > damn it!! " circle have helped propel ME to success.
Hope this is rec'd as intended. Brothers (& sisters) ---> THIS CAN BE DONE