Question about fantasizing

I think I read that fantasizing about porn is bad.  I believe it reinforces the same pathways that porn itself does.

However, what if I'm with my wife and I'm fantasizing about what I want to do to her?

yeah fantasizing porn is bad and porn is artificial stimulation. no artificial stimulation during reboot.. so it does not matter if you fantasy about dogs or your wife, magazines, facebook, sexting etc. if it is artificial, avoid it. only real partners allowed, preferably bonding behavior, less mating. less orgasms and edging and more slow sex without edging and massages, kissing, eye gazing, smiling whatever..

Nikola Numez said:

yeah fantasizing porn is bad and porn is artificial stimulation. no artificial stimulation during reboot.. so it does not matter if you fantasy about dogs or your wife, magazines, facebook, sexting etc. if it is artificial, avoid it. only real partners allowed, preferably bonding behavior, less mating. less orgasms and edging and more slow sex without edging and massages, kissing, eye gazing, smiling whatever..

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Thanks so much for the quick response.

My wife and I do so much kissing, cuddling, touching, smelling, etc.  I just love her so much, and I want to be close to her.  We do fool around, but it's mostly me doing stuff to her.  I make her O a lot, but I'm doing hardmode so no M and no O for me.

Sometimes when I wake up before her and I don't want to wake her, I'll start thinking about what I want to do to her. 

The other day I started thinking about that, and I think you're correct.  I'm just laying there fantasizing about sex, so I need to knock that shit off.  I'll either wake her, or get up out of bed and do something else.

Thanks again.  I appreciate the advice!!