Reinventing routines. Your routines may lead up to your porn use sometimes in the strangest ways. Normally watch TV at 8:00? Read a book instead. Check your email first thing in the morning? Let it wait until the afternoon. If you start with your relapses and walk your way backwards through your routine, you'll have a clue which ones to change. Sometimes they make sense and are no brainers (looking at social media), sometimes they make a little sense (having a beer or three), and sometimes they make no sense at all, and are sheer Pavlovian.
If you have anxieties or moments of depression that stew before a relapse, explore those. Simply bringing them to light through some journaling or otherwise can work wonders. It doesn't need to be an online journal... I think we're more honest when we're 100% private. Heck, I wrote in a paper journal that I intended to throw away, and I still used coded language. Stewing over past relationships? Anxieties about your "manhood" (in quotes because it means different things to different people)? Family problems? Boredom?
If you have those dark moments before a relapse, think about those moments and learn to recognize them. If you like watching that one youtube channel because it has great content, but that one woman on there looks like your ex and you get that odd sinking feeling, stop watching the youtube channel. You'll be able to sniff stuff out pretty well.
Finding really good productive things to do are good, like hitting the gym, playing the violin, learning a language or reading Moby Dick. But, we're most susceptible to relapses at those times of brain fry at the end of a long day, when we aren't feeling up to all of those things. It is good to find things to fill those times. Meditation, easy reading (short stories, comics, humor, pulpy pop fiction, maybe young adult or children's stuff if you can get into it), and for some, video games can be harmless. I love retro games, so zoning out to a game I have 80% memorized can be a very calming experience when I might otherwise be white knuckling my way through something. Puzzles, coloring books... there are all sorts of things out there that will never appeal to everyone, but everyone probably has a couple of those things that could work for them.
