tiredofthe struggle
Active Member
Wanted to post as i believe i have found the best possible solution to my addiction to pornography which afflicted me for around 20 years, and almost cost me my wife and children who i love infinately.
For 15 years i was addicted to porn and sex without ever realising until being caught by my wife, and entering counselling for CBT which helped for a while, only to slip back in to the cycle time and time again without my wife's knowledge.
My addiction made me depressed and socially introverted, and financially cost me tens of thousands of pounds in lost income and made me feel helpless and worthless.
My problem i realised was that i was a self employed consultant, sat alone for hours at the computer like an alchololic with a bottle of whiskey relying only on will power, which never worked.
My solution was simple, i took employment in an office full of people on less pay where use of pornography just isnt possible, then in the evenings and weekends i spend time with my family, in essence i had to change my circumstances to avoid sitting alone with only will power to protect me.
For me complete avoidance is the only way, i now feel happy, totally blessed and healthier as a result, and whilst less important my financial issues are fixing themselves as my theoretical pay cut results in me earning more as i usually just sat alone edging whilst watching porn.
I am not cured, i get urges, and have probably looked at porn 3 or 4 times in the last month but it no longer controls and affects my life.
ED was never a major issue for me, however despite a healthy sex life, i did have occasional fails which i beleive were linked to porn. My sex drive since however has improved and have not had any erection failures for months. Sex now feels more about a real physical and emotional connection with my wife, rather than acting out some kind of porn fantasy and is 1000 times better.
My message is, if possible no matter how drastic change your circumstances, be around people 100% of the time!!!!!!!
Best wishes to you all.
For 15 years i was addicted to porn and sex without ever realising until being caught by my wife, and entering counselling for CBT which helped for a while, only to slip back in to the cycle time and time again without my wife's knowledge.
My addiction made me depressed and socially introverted, and financially cost me tens of thousands of pounds in lost income and made me feel helpless and worthless.
My problem i realised was that i was a self employed consultant, sat alone for hours at the computer like an alchololic with a bottle of whiskey relying only on will power, which never worked.
My solution was simple, i took employment in an office full of people on less pay where use of pornography just isnt possible, then in the evenings and weekends i spend time with my family, in essence i had to change my circumstances to avoid sitting alone with only will power to protect me.
For me complete avoidance is the only way, i now feel happy, totally blessed and healthier as a result, and whilst less important my financial issues are fixing themselves as my theoretical pay cut results in me earning more as i usually just sat alone edging whilst watching porn.
I am not cured, i get urges, and have probably looked at porn 3 or 4 times in the last month but it no longer controls and affects my life.
ED was never a major issue for me, however despite a healthy sex life, i did have occasional fails which i beleive were linked to porn. My sex drive since however has improved and have not had any erection failures for months. Sex now feels more about a real physical and emotional connection with my wife, rather than acting out some kind of porn fantasy and is 1000 times better.
My message is, if possible no matter how drastic change your circumstances, be around people 100% of the time!!!!!!!
Best wishes to you all.