Realization

Hello Reboot Nation,

The first time this idea of having ED was when I got limp with my girlfriend for about the fourth time? The first few times I shrugged it off as maybe i was tired or was not in the mood. I would also (most of the time) lose my erection if we were to change positions.  I honestly thought I may have ED at the age of 21, but after speaking with my doctor he told me it could be performance anxiety or me not doing enough exercises. I even bought Horny Goat Weed, which apparently was suppose to boost your sex drive ( did not work ).  Not being able to sexually pleasure my girlfriend really bothered me so I decided to look into Viagra, which I stumbled upon the /nofap reddit sub and found it this could possible be the reason why I would go limp.

About my porn history: Started watching porn and fapping at around the 7th grade and havent stopped since then, I would try to stop but would always end up doing, obviously not everyday but when I have the urge to I would probably find a way to watch porn and ejaculate.

Would love to learn more about this REBOOT and similar experiences others have had and how you over came time.

The thing that has helped me the most is to learn all I can about porn addiction, PMO, rebooting, re-wiring, etc.

Check out yourbrainonporn.com and this site (rebootnation.org) for some fantastic information. Watch all the videos and read the inspiring success stories.

The general thinking is that if you can get an erection to porn, but not with a real person, you probably have porn induced ED.  The suggestion is to give up porn, masturbation and orgasm (PMO) for as long as it takes for the issue to resolve.  Might take 3, 6, 9, or even 12 months or longer, but it will be worth it!

I would suggest to decide on a goal. Then set some strict rules that you think will get you there.

For me, the goal is to be cured of porn-induced sexual problems. (ED, DE)

My rules are simple:

I will not look at porn for the rest of my life. Period.
I will not masturbate, as I want to be cured. Period.
I will not O until I am able to O inside my wife. Period.

If I were to do any of those three, even for one second, I would reset my counter and start over at zero. (But that's not going to happen.)


So educate yourself, set a goal, set rules, stay strong, NO PMO, follow your rules and DO NOT RELAPSE.

Also, find other things to do: Meditate, Exercise, Go for walks in nature.

Anything to keep your eyes off the pixels and your hands off your junk.

Best of luck to you!!

Thanks for answering!

Quick question, did you mention this to your wife? Another question is did you not O with your wife? or is physical interactions fine

1800helpme said:

Thanks for answering!

Quick question, did you mention this to your wife? Another question is did you not O with your wife? or is physical interactions fine

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I thought about trying to do a reboot without telling her, but quickly realized that was insane.

When I told her she was really upset, but she's calmed down and now she's quite understanding and supportive.

We do fool around a lot, but it's mostly me doing stuff to her.  She O's a lot, but neither one of us touches my penis.

I'm doing hardmode (no PMO) so I'm not going to masturbate or orgasm until my issues are resolved and I can get an erection just with her.

47yrold had a great reply!  I'm 14 months into my reboot and things are still not perfect, definitely better, but I wouldn't say cured.  As difficult as it will be, telling your girlfriend about what's going on (I think) is only fair to her.  That way she will know that a) you're being honest with her and b) she isn't the reason you're having erection problems.  That can damage a woman's confidence in herself if she thinks she isn't good enough for her man to keep it up.  Getting through all the initial stress and heartache sucks, but keep your eyes on the end goal and that's to be freed from this addiction and it's affects.  I hope your girl sticks with you, stay strong!!

Ray83 said:

47yrold had a great reply! 

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Ha!  I just got 10 years younger!

;-)

. Sorry for the typo 57! Lol