Question about fooling around, but no PMO

Background:  ED and DE, so I stopped porn about 8 weeks ago. The first 3-4 weeks my wife and I didn't do anything, but then around week 4 we had three nights where we fooled around, but no intercourse.  She tried to make me O, but I couldn't so I had to finish myself.

I didn't like that, and decided to do NO PMO completely.  So I reset my counter, and now I'm at almost 4 weeks no PMO. 

My question is about fooling around with my wife.  We're doing it a lot.  Mostly, I'm doing stuff to her.  Kissing, touching, playing, oral, etc.

She O's every time, but neither of us touch my penis.  I don't MO at all.

I'm really into her body, and I'm loving being with her.  I get very excited.  Partial erections, but I just ignore it and pay attention to her.

It seems like this is perfect.  I'm totally removed from artificial stimulation, and completely involved with her physically.  I feel like I'm really re-wiring to her.

What are your thoughts about this?  Am I off base on my thinking?

Does a 90 day reboot mean nothing sexual at all?  Even with a real person? 

Thanks for your opinion.  I want to get my erections back, and I want to make sure I'm doing everything I can!

I?d say you?re doing it exactly right, just keep going, you?ll get there!

Thanks man.  I appreciate your support!

Good luck to you too!

wtf, you are just bragging about how well you are rewiring !!

Nikola Numez said:

wtf, you are just bragging about how well you are rewiring !!

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I have no idea what I'm doing.  I just want to get better, and whatever I need to do to get there, I'll do it.

My fear is that any sexual thoughts or sexual activity what so ever is going to be detrimental.  I wanted to get other guys opinion's on that.

actually your fear is partly justified because Oing too much while rebooting is somehow stalling the reboot even though the sexual activity is real (with your wife). i would recommend limiting O to once per week in the beginning. at some point try twice, see how it affects you and progress from there. just be aware of that part.

yeah 57, I feel similar to you. I'm doing this rewire while dating a really open and awesome girl. The relationship is only a month old at this point, and we have had sex several times. I feel like it makes the reboot much easier and less stressful because I have her to fall back on, although that won't always be the case I'm sure.

Nikola Numez said:

actually your fear is partly justified because Oing too much while rebooting is somehow stalling the reboot even though the sexual activity is real (with your wife). i would recommend limiting O to once per week in the beginning. at some point try twice, see how it affects you and progress from there. just be aware of that part.

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I don't think you read my original post.

I'm doing NO PMO.

No Orgasm at all.