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« Reply #25 on: April 06, 2017, 11:15:29 AM »
Thanks Dfletch07! I appreciate the motivation.

So I'm having a great day. I read a post on here that talked about the day to day ups and downs. Prior to this reboot a way out of frustration was to watch P. Now, there is no P and there will be no P. I am learning to cope with the constant fluctuation of day to day headaches differently. One of the best things I have done for myself is set up a once a month therapist session to discuss how I am feeling and where I am at in my progress. I often look forward to this because I leave there feeling happy and content with my progress. Sometimes hearing it from someone or someone noticing your getting better helps you push through the rough patches.

Another thing, I am seeing my urologist today to tell them what I have found out since my last visit. The last time I went was when I couldn't perform in bed almost 70 days ago. I look forward to telling them about YBOP.com and how this has changed my life. I want them to know that pills are not the answer and they need to start telling young men/ women to read through the website. I often think how my life could have been different without P.

On to bigger and better things ladies and gents. Hope you are all making great progress.

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« Reply #26 on: April 06, 2017, 10:00:59 PM »
Be mindful when you talk to the urologist and show them evidenced based research vs bragging about your clinical experience. That is their expertise and this is brand new material and issues for the matter. As a medical professional myself, I am bombarded everyday by "Dr. Googles" and a lot of the material is insignificant and applied wrongly.

We know this works, just tell them that things are going well and this is how it happened. Here is some evidence based research (YBOP.com has those) that I utilized and this is the cause and effect. Don't challenge, just leave it there, and check everything else that you are there for.

Glad to see things are well and keep up the grind!

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« Reply #27 on: April 07, 2017, 07:49:13 AM »
Seeing the Dr. yesterday and discussing my issue and how it has gotten better put a smile on her face. She was intrigued to understand my steps in getting better and actually asked how I did it. I was prepared with a printout of the (YBOP.com) website describing the issue of P. She was impressed and said she wanted to print some out for future use. She mentioned that she has had a lot of young men with very similar issues and wanted to help give them the information they needed to get better. That in return put a huge smile on my face knowing others can be cured of this unfortunate mental and physiological issue of P.

Dfletch07 - In no way did I want to go in there bragging about how I made myself better. They were a critical part in getting me to understand that this was not a medical issue. That I was perfectly healthy. It was a stepping stone in the direction of recovery. For that I am thankful.

Today I feel as if things are looking up. I have made immense progress both physical and mental. My Dr's were also very impressed with the progress I have made thus far. Emphasis on the "Thus Far!" This journey has a ways to go and I look forward to it.

Some things I am working on:
1) My confidence in approaching women in an open atmosphere
2) Patience, Patience, Patience. Time heals everything. Learning to trust this process
3) Learning to not overthink everything. I have found this puts me in a bad state of mind. So I will fix this by meditating, thinking of something and then just
    letting it go as if it wasn't there. Finding a way to release that thought is important!!

Have a great weekend all,

ImOnMyWay

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« Reply #28 on: April 10, 2017, 07:33:11 AM »
What day is it..... ah yes 72 today!!! WOOHOO!

Time seems to be just floating on by. Like I've said before, the day count really does nothing for me other than a reminded that I am on the right track to success.

Holy erections this weekend...... Something I've noticed over the last two weeks is the morning wood is lasting longer and longer. I'm often walking around the house fully up while cooking breakfast or just starting the day. I think it's my body telling me I am on the mend. I think I also experienced my first wet dream Saturday??? IDK. I'll just let it be until after the 90 days which will be celebrated while I am on vacation fishing, relaxing and enjoying my time off. This is a goal I set for myself, I need to stay the course until my vacation. A little extra incentive to keep up the good work. Plus, I have some friends where I am going with some really cute lady friends!!!  ;D Maybe my luck will change while away relaxing.

Off to Monday Funday!!!

Best of luck to everyone,

ImOnMyWay - to day 73!


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« Reply #29 on: April 11, 2017, 09:01:00 AM »
No new news today to report. Just making my way through day 73.

Keep up the good work ladies and gents!

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« Reply #30 on: April 11, 2017, 10:23:29 AM »
As I sit here working, something did come to mind to talk about, CONFIDENCE! I know that I am feeling better and things are progressing as I feel they should at this point in my reboot. I also find that thoughts of past GF's and potential GF's get me a bit aroused. Quite the contrary to the old thoughts of P!! Thumbs up in that category. It's when I'm in public around some really pretty women that I start to doubt myself again or become nervous. I almost look for a reaction down South to tell me "You're good, you're good." Maybe it's my mind playing tricks because I have been in this horrible mindset for far too long.

Anyone have any pointers on this matter?

Appreciate the help!

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« Reply #31 on: April 11, 2017, 02:31:03 PM »
Sounds more along the lines of insecurity and doubt, but that can be fixed with exposure, confidence, and time to the situation. I did that with Jane upon returning when we had our encounters that I could not get erect and pleasure her. When I returned back in a few weeks for our next date I was worried as all could be about failing and even stressed about the self-fulfilling prophecy thought that I was causing. Thankfully conversation and attraction distracted me and I was able to relax and just tell myself...you are fine, she desires it, give yourself permission to bed her, and if unable today..IT IS OK! Worry is a B$%^& in this issue and only makes us doubt every move or thought we have instead of going with it.

You are well along in your recovery and more to go, but have seen great signs so far. Trust the plan and most of all utilize the little things seen to encourage the bigger picture of it all.

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« Reply #32 on: April 12, 2017, 02:08:29 PM »
You are correct on all terms! My new focus needs to be my exposure to a newer group of people, thus building my confidence in meeting new woman. I am wrapped up in the same group and the same people which doesn't allow me to branch out and meet others. Potentially a GF with intentions of commitment!! Or someone who is willing to have a bit of fun. :D Maybe a yoga class will do....nothing wrong with a little relaxation and a 90 to 1 women to men ratio!!!
I appreciate the feedback Dfletch07!

Today I've had no real urges what so ever and no thoughts of any P. Strong morning wood, but nothing throughout the day. I have been very focused at work due to several large bids going out the door. It's a bit of a distraction from the reboot, which is good. I am going to take this as a sign that my mind is becoming more focused on my day to day workload allowing me to get more done efficiently.

As for Sarah, I am learning to move past her. I am realizing we had many differences and that she really had no interest in helping me get through this reboot. It's a shame that I wasn't important enough for her to stick around and see what could have become of the situation. But, I am seeing the bigger picture; be with someone who would do anything to make you a part of their life. It's important!

On to bigger and better things.

ImOnMyWay - To my fishing trip soon!!



 

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« Reply #33 on: April 13, 2017, 11:14:32 AM »
I've been reading and following your story for a while now because I truly recognize myself in your situation. I'm 26 years old and started watching P around the same age you did. My first sexual experiences weren't completely like yours, because I've never had sex where I had no problems at all. But at the beginning of my problem I was able to have penetration and came a few times and really enjoying it with a girl. Because the sex wasn't 100% ok, I kept watching porn and I worsened my problem.

Eventually, just like you, I went to a doctor and urologist who both prescribed me Viagra pills. I managed to have sex with no problems with them pills but the feeling was completely gone. I did not enjoy that at all. I continued masturbating to porn and just about half a year ago I discovered this website. I started a reboot before and lasted 1 month. When I failed I masturbated but didn't watch porn. I kept masturbating for about 1 month without porn until I decided to stop that too about 45 days ago. This means I al now 45 days masturbating-free and about 3 months porn-free.

I like your story because it's similar to mine, and because I love to read the progress you make. That way I kinda know what's coming to me and what to expect. I think I've been in a flatline for quite a long time now so it should end soon, but it doesn't have to end for me because right now I feel no urge to masturbate at all. During my first reboot I remember the morning woods coming back. That's something I didn"t experience much during this reboot (it happened a few times) but I'm kinda hoping they come back soon, even if it means my flatline is over.

I wish you the best of luck in your recovery and I'm sure one day we will be able to have a normal sex life again and just feel beter in general.

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« Reply #34 on: April 13, 2017, 05:58:01 PM »
Sandler9: Thanks for following!! I am really happy my journal can be of some help to you. It means a lot. Keep on trucking with your reboot and don't hesitate to reach out and ask a question. You are on the right path and soon the light at the end of the tunnel will be here. Remember, don't focus too much on your package and it's reactions to things. Focus on how you are bettering yourself through this process. Positive thinking and being honest with yourself goes a long way.

I am noticing that I am paying less and less attention on my men down South throughout the day. I have been extremely focused and hard working at work that is doesn't really cross my mind what they are doing or how they are reacting. I work construction, so there are no ladies around to test how I am doing HAHA. My urges the last couple of days have been off though. Maybe this is a good sign, that I only need them to react when "REQUIRED!"

The loneliness seems to be subsiding a bit too. I am going home and being quite productive. It's amazing what a couple extra hours a day will do for you rather than watching P.

As the days get closer and closer to the almighty 90 day reboot, I try not to focus on it as much. Like I and many others have talked about before, we are not all going to be cured by 90 days. I for one know that through experience, I take a bit longer than most to do anything. But I am persistent and strive for the best. I will relate this to the reboot and be patient.  All I know is I have the day off tomorrow and will be looking forward to a day on the stream with my dad and uncle. A well needed break from the week of stress and work.

Keep up the hard work folks.

ImOnMyWay - To finding myself an awesome lady

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« Reply #35 on: April 17, 2017, 09:54:35 AM »
Day 79!!!! :)

Learned a few things this weekend:

1) I am learning that urges/ libido come and go as they please. I need to accept this and understand that I am prepping myself to use my men only when needed. Not to focus on the reaction of them to something and more on the actual progress in "all" aspects. This seems to be a reoccurring thought and discussion.... I'm sure a lot of people are going through the same thing.

2) Overthinking causes stress. I am learning through meditation that if a thought comes to mind, it is okay to think about it and then let it go. Basically replacing a bad thought with something else and just "letting it go." Allowing that thought to have no effect on my mental state.

3) I am learning to feel. What do I mean by feel.... Learning to take in several different things when feeling aroused. Sounds, smells, feelings, touch and thought. I had an experience like no other yesterday. As I meditated I went into this floating sense of calm. I allowed myself to fully feel what was going on in my body. Then...BOOM a full on erection. I was taught in a session with my therapist to write a list of qualities I wanted in a woman. Most of them qualities that made the perfect relationship for me then focusing on them in my meditation. Communication, honesty, caring, nurturing, beautiful inside and out....etc. Well when I came out of the meditation I was shaking and I now know what a full body O feels like with no touch or thought of P. I am not ashamed to say I MO'ed after that. I am not condoning this, but wanted to share my experience. I was comfortable with myself, my reboot, my mental state and the fact that no P was involved. I became one with myself and rolled with it. Never felt anything quite like it and I am happy. You see, this whole process is for us to find ourselves and to understand what makes us happy. Learning to want and feel for the real thing. I truly believe in this process and will continue to move forward bettering myself. I look forward to applying this to a relationship.

A song by Gregory Alan Isakov rings true to this - "Time Will Tell!"

I hope this sheds some light on others situations. It's all about being comfortable with ourselves and our refocus.

Best of luck to all,

ImOnMyWay

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« Reply #36 on: April 18, 2017, 07:09:04 AM »
Day 80!

What a great day! Sun is out and only 4 days to go until I am on vacation! It's funny how different of a mood I can be in from week to week or day to day for that matter. I would have to think this is the reboot working. Basically I am realizing the ups and downs throughout the week and finding a way to overcome them without P. I'll keep it at that.

Last night I caught up with a past GF of mine. We chatted for quite some time..... 4 hours or better. She's the kind of person every guy could ever ask for really. Down to earth, funny, caring, smart, pretty. She really has it all. But, for some reason I am still holding back from things. I am almost afraid to open up. Whether it be I have been let down so many times and I don't need that hurt right now or I that am afraid that I am not quite there yet in my reboot or I don't want to hurt the other person because I am not ready. It's a song and dance I feel. I just need to find a way to relax and let the moments happen as they do. To stop putting pressure on myself and my situation.

My goal the next two weeks is to open up, feel, be free, experience and let things happen as they should.

On to the next folks. Keep up the good work and strive for that light at the end of the tunnel.

ImOnMyWay - To fishing SOON!

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« Reply #37 on: April 21, 2017, 07:03:43 AM »
Day 83

Time is just floating on by. Happy to say that today I depart for my vacation into an area that can really speak to ones soul. It's a perfect opportunity for me to focus on what I am striving for in my reboot, for my want of a successful relationship and successful sex!! Although I am a bit nervous as to how I will perform if the occasion did come up. I feel as if I am in and out of libido constantly. Some days I am off the wall aroused and other days I am just okay or nothing at all.

I think this brings up a good point; and that is we cannot amount our success within this reboot to the performance of our "men". We have been brainwashed in thinking that P was reality in which it is not. So it will take some time. My 90 days is coming up next week and no P for about 120 days or better. This is a huge accomplishment. From watching P about 3-4 times a week to nothing is a pretty significant step I feel and I'm proud of that. I just look forward to the day that I am better.

Couple of things I have noticed the last week:

1) I have found ways to refocus bad thoughts into good ones. Some days better than others, but overall a lot better.

2) The constant up and down swing of emotions...I need to just deal with them and move on.

3) Through this reboot I have found I am more direct in my daily decisions. I used to say yes to everything. Now I think about the decision/ task and if it doesn't work for me or the situation I am in or someone else is in, I find a better solution.

4) A repetitive thought, but one with immense importance: Reach out to anyone and everyone you can to discuss this issue. It helps you and potentially the other person you are talking to.

I will be in touch through the weekend and next week. Keep up the good work everyone.

ImOnMyWay - To the promise land of fishing!!!

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« Reply #38 on: April 22, 2017, 04:01:08 PM »
Doing awesome buddy, go enjoy nature. This weekend is beautiful in a lot of areas. I was supposed to be down south in Arkansas for outdoor rock climbing, but it was drenched with rain and has a high of upper 40s today. Stayed back home and enjoyed the warmer weather here.

Appreciate the honest and feedback you have provided in this adventure. I look forward to bridging that 90 day myself. For now I'll smack that half way marker and look at it happily.

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« Reply #39 on: April 28, 2017, 07:36:45 AM »
90 DAYS!!!!!!

Sorry it's been so long since my last post. I have been enjoying the streams and the outdoors under some beautiful mountains with limited service as you can imagine while being in the woods. I can't believe it's been 90 days already. I almost forgot honestly. It has been a long journey and I have a lot to still go. I am not 100% where I want to be so I'll keep on trucking.

DFletch07: You are welcome!! And the same to you. It is nice to have a support group like this to get us through this reboot. It means a lot!

Couple things I wanted to focus on on this trip:

-Confidence
-Feeling
-What I want in a relationship

I will say I have done a lot of thinking and a lot of self improving while on this trip. For one my confidence in who I am has improved substantially. I am feeling good, looking good and in better shape. My first night here we went into town for some drinks and the only two girls in the bar (WHO WERE SMOKING HOT) asked for my number!!! Been talking to the one ever since. SCORE!!! Huge confidence boost.

I am still working on my in and out feelings (Libido/ arousal). I feel we have been so brainwashed of P that it is going to take a bit longer for me to come out of this mindset that I should be horny all the time or horny for just P and not the real thing. I am also nervous about the what if factor of having sex with a woman I may bring home. Kind of freaks me out a bit, but I know that I will get better with time. As I spoke to my therapist a week ago, woman don't all want to be taken home and bedded. They want real guys with real emotions and feelings. People in this day in age have been wrapped into thinking this is the new norm to go to a bar and take a woman home. I am learning to realize I am a guy who needs the emotional connection to be good in bed and I am okay with that. That leads me into what I want in a relationship. I am focusing on my wants in a woman both physical and emotional. I am not jumping into a relationship to just be in one because of loneliness. Loneliness fades when you become happy with yourself. Trust me!! The right girl will come and by then I will be refocused and ready for it!!!

Ladies and Gentleman if I can say anything at all it is to not focus on the time of your reboot. We are all not the same people. Some will take less time and some will take more time. Focus on who you are and what you want in life by setting small goals through the weeks. Better yourself in and out. It helps you be the better you. Then the better sex will follow. :)))  I can't wait for that to happen for me.

Off to fish a stream for the day!

Best to all of you,

ImOnMyWay - To catching a big one!

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« Reply #40 on: May 02, 2017, 04:06:24 PM »
94 days

I am finding that I am loosing count of days. I keep having to go back and count haha. So where am I in my reboot?? Well, the night I came home from vacation I had a girl over for a relaxed wine and movie night. We cuddled on the couch and I will say for once I wasn't nervous about anything. I could tell I was getting aroused and I know she was too. I didn't react though.... It's okay. I am learning to not let the thought of performing scare me from enjoying the moment. I was relaxed and just let the night go as it chose to. I will have a chance next time I am sure of it.

Confidence is way up as I wanted to work on while on vacation. My feelings are up and down, but I'll take that as just life being life. A friend and I discussed relationships and he helped me to understand that I should be able to hang and have sex with a woman without the pressure of a relationship. He said if you and her both want to have fun, then a relationship is clearly not on her mind.

I will say that I am feeling a bit more up these days in terms of my "Men". Morning wood is great which is a huge plus from when I started this journey. I will say I MO'ed on the 90th day to sensation and to no fantasizing as a pat on the back and it felt okay. I was more sensitive than before the 90 days which is an improvement. Not really what I expected it to be. This is good though. I haven't thought about doing it since then. My focus is on landing my lady friend.

Goals this week are as follows:

1) Maintain my workout and improve on my lifting

2) Become more comfortable about being in a situation with a woman and not putting so much pressure on a relationship and more on the sex

3) Incorporate more thought and feeling into my meditation.

As you can see my focus is less and less on my men performing and more on ways to improve myself in many other ways. Forgetting about them allows you to live a little without that pressure of "OH WILL THEY WORK".

I'll keep you posted on my lady friend.

ImOnMyWay - to successful sex!!

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« Reply #41 on: May 08, 2017, 07:02:33 AM »
Morning all!!!

I'm going to start out by saying I am not keeping track of days anymore. I am more so keeping track of my progress and I will share that. Sorry I have been away awhile. I have been swamped at work coming off of my vacation. And having no internet or TV at home has made it hard to respond on here. Yes, I specifically didn't get internet or TV while going through this reboot to completely refocus. It has helped tremendously.

So, where am I in my reboot...... I am great!!! I have been more focused then ever. Focused at work, my life, my house, my business and how I am socializing with others. I am also more direct in my conversations. I make decisions quicker and more accurate. It is amazing what a couple extra hours in your day will do for productivity and self bettering instead of watching P. On to that note....P..... the thought of watching has become so non-existent and it feels awesome. I feel P no longer has a hold on me like it did in the past. My thoughts are consumed with real woman. Woman I have met, talked to, have had past relations with etc... I am looking forward to the time where my progress will work in bed!!! Just yesterday I was in line at the grocery store and as I made my way to the cashier I noticed she was really cute. I think she thought the same of me because I instantly felt that mutual eye contact shes cute/ she thinks I'm cute look! Then the blood started pumping as I spoke to her. You know what I mean guys/ gals?? Anyway, I'll pursue that at some point. My point on this is, I am noticing signs of my confidence building and the though of real woman building. Huge step for me in the right direction.

One thing I am still struggling with is; I feel as if my libido/ arousal is not where it should be yet. Maybe this is because I am constantly thinking about it?? I think there is room for improvement in this category. Something I am just going to have to be patient with. Can't have it all this early on.

Focus for the week:

1) Keep building the confidence (Working out and meditating helps with this).

2) Socialize with new groups, thus opening a door to a potential new lady. :)))

3) Keep focusing on bettering myself. I've been thinking about getting my real estate licence! We shall see.

Keep up the good work all,

ImOnMyWay


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« Reply #42 on: May 10, 2017, 07:12:09 AM »
It's been a great couple of days. I have been really focused on my daily work and my activities outside of work. Takes your mind off of things for a bit. After discussing on Monday how I didn't feel my libido coming back the way I thought it would, I had these sudden spurts of arousal through the day and that night. I went to bed extremely horny thinking of a girl I may have the opportunity to date..... We shall see how this pans out. The next day I was just as aroused haha. Funny how the body works. If you just let it do what it needs to do and you take care of it, things work out fine. Also, the sun has been out for three days straight. Let's just say the weather here has been a complete drag for months. Finally feeling that sense of Summer. This puts me in an even better state of mind knowing I am in shape, meditating, focused and ready to enjoy the Summer months worry free about my past/ not so much present issue.

Something I also wanted to share is that there are a lot of men and woman going through similar problems as us that have no clue the problem even exists. I encourage everyone to talk about their issue to anyone they can. Not only does it help you, it educates others of an issue that is so abstruse.  Also, educate yourself. Learn what this reboot is all about. Understand the issue at hand. When you can educate yourself you can educate others. Thus, making a full circle.

Good luck all,

ImOnMyWay

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« Reply #43 on: May 15, 2017, 07:17:48 AM »
Good morning/ afternoon depending on where you are.

Couple of things to quickly touch on that I experienced over the weekend. Something that I am learning is that my arousal state/ libido is constantly up and down. Wondering when this will be a bit more balanced..... I notice I am very horny in the AM, not so much in the day and an okay level at night. This fluctuates constantly. When I am out with friends and I see a woman I am interested in I am almost looking for a sudden reaction down below which I need to stop doing. It's a mind game really. It almost deters me from striking a conversation with someone. Is anyone else experiencing weird in and out libido/ arousal?

(Trigger warning)
I have introduced MO'ing again. Once a week maybe if that with light touch and only when I feel horny. I do not force myself to MO like I did prior to my reboot. Before it was almost a routine. Now it's only when I feel good. I have found when I am most relaxed and comfortable it feels better (usually after meditating). It's just nowhere near the feeling of a real woman. So I am trying to stay away from doing it so when I do experience the real thing again it will feel amazing.

One thing I have been really happy with is my physical shape. I have been working out steady and trying to eat better. A few people have noticed over the weekend and mentioned that I looked good. Puts a smile on my face that people are noticing.

Another thing that I am happy with is that I am completely P free with no thoughts of looking and no urges what so ever. From looking at P 5 times a week to nothing cold turkey is an accomplishment for me and I am beyond thrilled with it.

Hope everyone is on the right track.

Best,

ImOnMyWay


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« Reply #44 on: May 18, 2017, 09:29:25 AM »
In need of some advice! I feel as if I have been going through a small flat-line which is odd after being P free for a very good length of time. My sex drive just seems to be off and oddly low. I have MO'ed 3 times since my 90 day refocus and feel this may be the issue. I have also been very stressed at work which could have a huge impact on how I am feeling. I am going to abstain from any MO'ing and see if that helps.

Has anyone else experienced this? Any thought on this matter would be greatly appreciated.

I'll try not to focus on it for the time being and see if it passes.

Thanks All,

ImOnMyWay

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« Reply #45 on: May 19, 2017, 11:44:04 AM »
I'm still reading and following your story everyday hoping for you to post something new. Remember me? I am the guy who thinks my story is very similar to yours.

I am currently on day 80 (I wrote down the starting date and had to use a day-calculator to find out how many days I've stopped using porn and masturbation. I think you are like 10-15 days ahead of me.

Like I said, I haven't MO'd since the 28th of february and haven't watched porn since the end of january somewhere. I think you should really stop MO'ing. Without using scientific proof whatsoever, I believe your body needs some kind of rest. In my opinion, a reset works by giving your body the rest it deserves after using it wrongly for such a long time. I'm 100% sure after some time we will start to receive some signs we are ready for the next step.

For me personally, the situation hasn't changed much. I remember at the beginning of my reboot (after 2-3 weeks) I had a few morning woods, but I rarely wake up with any anymore. I don't get spontanious erections during the day and it's not like I have alot of trouble staying away from P/MO. But I'm not worrying at all. I've started swimming a few weeks ago to work on my body (not fat at all, just a little tummy I'd like to get rid off). I'm convinced one day I will start seeing small changes that will boost my confidence. One thing I'm convinced that has changed, is my mental state. I used to feel really bad at times and that's completely gone. I am happy, I laugh and I rarely have a day where I'm feeling bad or sad.

It would be pretty cool if the both of us made it to the end of our reboot. Stop M'ing. Give yourself atleast a couple more months before you start touching yourself. Keep posting updates and any differences you notice. Any progress you make is a step in the right direction. Even a day without MO and P can be seen as progress. Good luck to you!


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« Reply #46 on: May 19, 2017, 01:32:04 PM »
Sandler9,

I absolutely remember you! Congrats on the 80 days too. Well done. Such a good feeling to be P free I will say. I appreciate you commenting and giving some advice. I think you are correct and I like your positive thinking. I need to just let this whole thing pan out and to stop worrying about it. I actually have not MO'ed since last weekend as I explained in the last post. So that is good. I am gong to refrain from doing it from here out. One of the other forums talks about Monk mode and I think I need to stay with that. I was happier before when I just stopped and let things happen. We get so caught up on the when and stop focusing on the now.

Work has been extra stressful, so I can blame some of my lack there of on that. Need to keep meditating to relieve that stress.

Something new to share, I have started an online talk show with my therapist. Basically it's like an online discussion of the reboot/ refocus where people call in to discuss their issues and how we can help. It's rewarding knowing that I can help others with similar problems as I. I will get the information so anyone can call in for advice. Stay tuned for that!!!

I am going to start posting again on my progress. It's been extremely hectic at work and I have not found the time to get on here and post. And without internet at home, I can't post there.... My apologize to all.

My goal and focus for this upcoming week is to not really focus on the libido/ sex drive at all. To focus strictly on the meditation, the bettering of myself, my hobbies and my workouts. That's it.

Have a great weekend all,

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« Reply #47 on: May 22, 2017, 09:05:18 AM »
So after a rough week last week I refocused and got myself together. This past weekend was extremely productive. I have noticed my energy level and focus have been intense lately. I am more productive on my daily activities and in the business I am in "time is money!"

Something I've noticed, was while refocusing through my reboot, I was happier with life and the things I enjoy doing. I am going to continue this mentality and see the next stage of progression. I kind of stopped doing a couple things I had started at the beginning of the reboot. Almost right around the 90-100 day stride due to little time and my busy work schedule. I am learning that I need to keep doing the things I enjoy because that in turn reduces stress. Stress for me seems to be my biggest hindrance. I need to find a way to relieve this so I can be happy. It also plays a huge part on the lack of sex drive which I want to start working a bit better.

I will say this the morning woods are extremely strong and I am waking up pretty aroused and horny. HAHA. This fades as I get up for the day though.... Also, since the reboot I have some of the most vivid dreams. Most of them including someone I am attracted to. Something I am stopping is MO'ing. I tried a couple times after the 90 days and feel that it really wasn't all that great. I also felt bad the next day about it which brought me down. I'm sure there are a lot of people on here that can relate. I'm going to see how this pans out for a few weeks. Trial and error until success!


Things to focus on this week:

1) Meditating

2) Stress Relief

3) No MO'ing

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« Reply #48 on: May 24, 2017, 10:29:41 AM »
Feeling great the last couple of days. I've stayed focused and it's proving to work. Finding ways to decrease stress is difficult, but every little bit helps. My new stress relief is working around my house. I find myself thinking about projects constantly. When I check them off the list it's like this sudden sense of ease comes over me. Plus, I'll have a nice looking place when all said and done.

I noticed with the stress lowering I had some intense feelings yesterday to have one of my lady friends over because I was so in the mood. She has been texting me quite a bit about hanging out. She even brought up giving me a massage :D. HAHA. I'm all in. I feel we are on the same page too in terms of expectations. So I may test the boundaries on this one a bit. I'll keep you all posted.

Today is good. Hope to keep this streak going.

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« Reply #49 on: May 26, 2017, 09:26:05 AM »
Hello all,

I had a discussion the other night on my online talk show with my therapist about something I think can relate to a lot of people. And that is the transitional phase from what was a visual excitement/ arousal feeling (watching porn) to a now emotional more meaningful phase of excitement/ arousal (reality). We became so entrapped in a mindset where we became horny based on the thought of P and the visuals P provided. We are transitioning into a more normal state of mind. We are not supposed to be horny and aroused at all points of the day. Instead we are to focus on the things that really need to get done. When the time comes to enjoy sex, that is when we become fully aroused. It has taken me a bit of time to realize this since I am not with a partner while rebooting and not experiencing full arousal for the real thing yet. I kept thinking I was going to be horny all the time because I wasn't MO'ing daily or watching P daily. This is not true. I am understanding that I am transitioning into a more normal state of mind. I am a man of emotion and I am not afraid of stating this. I need to feel something with a woman to be fully aroused. It's just who I am. Some people are the opposite, but that is okay. In the end this journey is about finding myself. Starting a new me and not worrying about others.

I hope this brings some sense of ease to anyone experiencing the same thing.

Have a great weekend all.

ImOnMyWay - To a lonnnnggg relaxed weekend!