D is for F@#$ PMO

Hey guys, i just made this account just a few hours ago, as i've decided to quit pornography and masturbating for the #'th time. After 2+ years of fapping to porn whenever I'd have the slightest hint of horniness, it has destroyed my social life, and has left me with social anxiety, a broken spirit, and little to no confidence left in myself. I feel utterly worthless. For the past year, i've been making searches such as "porn and mind fog/memory", "porn and social anxiety", or "porn and depression", connections i began to suspect to be linked to porn after experiencing utter mental chaos that has been getting progressively worse for the past 2+ years (coincidence? I THINK NOT!)(reference from "The Incredibles"anyone?...).

Anyway, without getting too deep into it, I just wanted to make my presence known. Today is my first day without PMO. I will overcome this.

Welcome to the Nation! Watching porn isn't worth what you can gain in real life. How much you can improve yourself. How much you can care about love instead of lust.
I can only say that during your reboot you will suffer but it is because you are going through withdrawal. It's entirely normal to have depression, anxiety, brain fog, and dreams
involving wanting sex and waking up wanting sex. I wish you the best of luck while rebooting!

Thanks a lot man. Its great to have so many people to relate to. Hopefully I know I can go the full 90 days.

Welcome to the Nation bro! Just keep that strong mentality and don't let urges control who you are

Welcome to the forums!

Haha you made me lol with: (coincidence? I THINK NOT!)(reference from "The Incredibles"anyone?...).

The slightest urge... The slightest slip up in my mind.

I couldn't even get past a full day guys.

I feel like sh!t right now.
Am I really this hooked on p, or am I just not trying hard enough? damn dude. I feel like trash.

DisforDone said:

The slightest urge... The slightest slip up in my mind.

I couldn't even get past a full day guys.

I feel like sh!t right now.
Am I really this hooked on p, or am I just not trying hard enough? damn dude. I feel like trash.

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Don't get mad over your relapses, it's pointless. You have to remember that you are resisting a primal urge which is very difficult. You should try to set goals to hit 24 hours, then 48, then 3 days, then 6 days, then a week, then 2 weeks, then 4 weeks, etc until you hit 90 days. Remember this takes discipline so you have to decide that you really want to commit to this goal.

Yeah, I know you're right, it's just really frustrating feeling like you're kinda enslaved to porn, dude. The urge just creeps up outta nowhere, and one thing leads to another, ya know? Its aggravating. What do you do when you start feeling a bone coming on?

I am committed 100% though, even though my mind wants otherwise at times. Just hard... and aggravating.

DisforDone said:

Yeah, I know you're right, it's just really frustrating feeling like you're kinda enslaved to porn, dude. The urge just creeps up outta nowhere, and one thing leads to another, ya know? Its aggravating. What do you do when you start feeling a bone coming on?

I am committed 100% though, even though my mind wants otherwise at times. Just hard... and aggravating.

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Yeah I can definitely agree with that dude, I've begun to feel like these cravings I get are just interfering with what I really have to offer to myself and others/society.
I do feel like a slave to these urges. But you have to realize you can free yourself from these cravings with time, practice, and effort. The urges will always be present
when you're withdrawing from anything, even from biting your nails or chewing gum. So my advice is basically since you and I can't
stop the urges coming from withdrawal, we might as well change the way we look at them and react to them. It's all about perception and the way you see your
urges, even through serious doubt. The way I deal with urges is by treating each urge that passes me by like a wave, the stronger the urge the bigger the wave. I wait
10, 20, 30, or even 60 minutes for that wave to pass over and crash into the ocean where it disappears. Waiting for it to pass can be seen as surfing the wave. Don't
fight or resist the wave, just let it go through because it doesn't change your life whatsoever. At first you may think you could never resist certain urges to PMO, but
eventually once you keep practicing waiting and resisting these urges you eventually can conquer any urge that comes your way. I also should stress that you need to
learn to surf these waves no matter how you're feeling emotionally, because emotions are definitely going to affect how you respond to urges. Remember that all of us
here suffer with urges and cravings for PMO, but resisting those urges will lead us to the better path in life. Think about it. What could you accomplish if you could resist
nearly or all of your urges and have no vices?

P.S. Sorry about the spacing on this post

Hey man. Welcome to the forum. Sorry I'm a bit late lol Anyway, I know exactly how you feel. The urges just lurking and waiting to strike. It's hard, but you must fight it. Do not give in! Realize that you are strong enough to do this. Know in your mind that you can achieve geatness! Take this reboot step by step at a time man. There's no rush. Start with little goals. Maybe a week, then push for the 90. Celebrate your milestones by going out or something Create a new reward system that is Porn-Free. You got this man. We're all here with you every step of the way
-Rec101

Thanks man. Much appreciated. I want to try and go the full 90 though, because I feel like if I were to set my goal to just a week, once I achieve it, I would treat myself to a "well deserved" relapse for my hard work, know what I mean? Lol. I just don't think I've reached that level of discipline just yet.

No worries, man. Just don't let the idea of 90 days intimidate you, time stops for nobody. And I totally agree with Rec101 if that method helps bro, the first 2 weeks are usually the hardest with the most urges so make sure you bust through that barrier.

Keep fighting the good fight, man, stay strong