[Sorry for my english. And sorry for the wall of text. If you manage to read, thanks!]
Well, I just need to get some many things from my chest. I hope somebody can give me any word that can help me to feel better. I'm a porn addicted and a chronic relapser. I'm 27, my first masturbation was at 14 to a picture.
I already lost the number of times that I relapsed. I started my tries to reboot on January/2013. Since then I reached the max number of 121 days porn free in that same year. That streak began on june 21 and the realpsed took place in october. In 2014, I manage to go two months (March and April) and August with no PMO. One thing that I absolute did was to reduce the number of times that I PMO. I remember that I had days with 3x or 4x at a single day.
It's just unfair that I came here to cry that I can't get over this addiction. But it's been very hard for me and I just thinking about trying to deal with this addiction, try to minimize it and go on with my life carrying this burden. So many guys that relapses and try again. I'm like that. Relapse became a routine for me. I don't think that I will get any progress or get better relapsing like that.
JESUS, 2015 barely began and I akready relapse. I don't what else to think about myself: failure, lack of control... I signed for the 2015 porn free challenge, I relapse and was embarresed to go there and ask Gabe to take my name off it. I tought "I will let some days pass to do that". That's how I'm in this moment. In the end of 2014 I try to began a journal here. But I just felt ashamed of my relapses that I just didn't write anything there anymore.
I know all the evil that PMO can bring for a person. All the issues, sexual or social etc. I read the YBOP. I listen to Gary's radio show - back in 2013 that's how I know Gabe. I watched Gabe's videos to the point that I began to memorize some lines of that. I'm addicted because I know all the problem that this addiction can bring but I can't stop, or part of me don't want to stop.
I have some kind of girlfriend or SO (don't know when you guys use that term). She have the image of me like the guy that works out almost everyday, eat health, is very vey very disciplined. I'm not that guy. I can't see myself like that if I can't beat this addiction. She says that if I put something in my mind, like stop eating something, for example, I do. And if she know about my addiction how can she be able to see me? I have a secret side that nobody knows about. And that to hide that is turning to be so dificult. Sometimes I just want to stop on the street and scream for everybody my hidden side.
Me and my GF didn't went very sexual, like PIV. But in dezember I had a moment of intimacy with her. I was semi hard, or no hard at all in many moments. In some moment she asked to blow me a little, I just semi hard. What can I say? My GF do that and I can't get a decent erection. Well, I know that i have PIED. But after discovering about that, it was the first time that I was in a sexual context with somebody. After that, the following days I've been very reflexive, thinking about my situation. But after some days I was relapsing again. I mean, even THAT didn't make me have more control about all this porn use.
I don't what else has to happen to me stand up, face who I'm really and try to change this PMO addiction. My parents love me and want me to be successful, they give all their support. I don't know what happens to me, that I stuck. And I have so many things to achieve in life. So much to read, to study, people to meet, places to know.
I also would like to open my heart here and say that I had a foot fetish that grow so much power because of the porn use. Some years ago, I would secretly take pics of girl friends' feet. I would do that and when I got home I would MO seeing that pictures. I think that no one even notice anything. So I have done that in my past: MO to pictures of friends feet. I also get obsessed in doing that with pictures of friend's girlfriend. I just feel ashamed of all that. I would record the pictures in a DVD. Thank God I did destroyed everything like that I had.
Other thing, and back there I didn't know that I was with a problem. A few years ago I was in a long distant relationship. And sometimes I would go visit her. I remember that we both were virgins. I remeber that sometimes I couldn't get hard and I blame "the first time" etc. She was comprehensive. But recalling now, I remember that I couldn't get turned on and the girl cried a lot saying that it was she fault, that she was ugly and I thought she was ugly. I remember that even in days that sex "worked" I would wait all her family to go to sleep so I would get on the computer and PMO. HER FAMILY was sleeping in other room and I was PMO in a place that wasn't even my house. I don't know but looking back I think all this things disgusting, disrespectful. How I could finish sex and sometime later sit in front of pixel to masturbate?
I know a little how my life porn free can be. But even knowing that is not enough. It seems like nothing is enough for me to just take all even more serious and try to get PMO out of my life. What am I waiting to happen???
Before Christmas I was like 10 days porn free. I was doing well, but the "call of porn" that came all the time in my mind, like flashbacks or the voice saying "hey, you could check out a video with this and this". And when I saw I gave up and was PMOing. Maybe that is the point that I have to work. How to deal with the urge, the addicted voice asking por porn.
So I'd like to thanks. I hope I get my shit together somehow. I'd like to say thank you for the work of Gary and Gabe. And all that the other users where, rebooted or in their way to get there.
I'm sorry for the lack of meaning of this post. But I needed to put in other what I've been feeling. I hope that somebody can just say anything for me. Thanks anyway!
Life keeps going...
Well, I just need to get some many things from my chest. I hope somebody can give me any word that can help me to feel better. I'm a porn addicted and a chronic relapser. I'm 27, my first masturbation was at 14 to a picture.
I already lost the number of times that I relapsed. I started my tries to reboot on January/2013. Since then I reached the max number of 121 days porn free in that same year. That streak began on june 21 and the realpsed took place in october. In 2014, I manage to go two months (March and April) and August with no PMO. One thing that I absolute did was to reduce the number of times that I PMO. I remember that I had days with 3x or 4x at a single day.
It's just unfair that I came here to cry that I can't get over this addiction. But it's been very hard for me and I just thinking about trying to deal with this addiction, try to minimize it and go on with my life carrying this burden. So many guys that relapses and try again. I'm like that. Relapse became a routine for me. I don't think that I will get any progress or get better relapsing like that.
JESUS, 2015 barely began and I akready relapse. I don't what else to think about myself: failure, lack of control... I signed for the 2015 porn free challenge, I relapse and was embarresed to go there and ask Gabe to take my name off it. I tought "I will let some days pass to do that". That's how I'm in this moment. In the end of 2014 I try to began a journal here. But I just felt ashamed of my relapses that I just didn't write anything there anymore.
I know all the evil that PMO can bring for a person. All the issues, sexual or social etc. I read the YBOP. I listen to Gary's radio show - back in 2013 that's how I know Gabe. I watched Gabe's videos to the point that I began to memorize some lines of that. I'm addicted because I know all the problem that this addiction can bring but I can't stop, or part of me don't want to stop.
I have some kind of girlfriend or SO (don't know when you guys use that term). She have the image of me like the guy that works out almost everyday, eat health, is very vey very disciplined. I'm not that guy. I can't see myself like that if I can't beat this addiction. She says that if I put something in my mind, like stop eating something, for example, I do. And if she know about my addiction how can she be able to see me? I have a secret side that nobody knows about. And that to hide that is turning to be so dificult. Sometimes I just want to stop on the street and scream for everybody my hidden side.
Me and my GF didn't went very sexual, like PIV. But in dezember I had a moment of intimacy with her. I was semi hard, or no hard at all in many moments. In some moment she asked to blow me a little, I just semi hard. What can I say? My GF do that and I can't get a decent erection. Well, I know that i have PIED. But after discovering about that, it was the first time that I was in a sexual context with somebody. After that, the following days I've been very reflexive, thinking about my situation. But after some days I was relapsing again. I mean, even THAT didn't make me have more control about all this porn use.
I don't what else has to happen to me stand up, face who I'm really and try to change this PMO addiction. My parents love me and want me to be successful, they give all their support. I don't know what happens to me, that I stuck. And I have so many things to achieve in life. So much to read, to study, people to meet, places to know.
I also would like to open my heart here and say that I had a foot fetish that grow so much power because of the porn use. Some years ago, I would secretly take pics of girl friends' feet. I would do that and when I got home I would MO seeing that pictures. I think that no one even notice anything. So I have done that in my past: MO to pictures of friends feet. I also get obsessed in doing that with pictures of friend's girlfriend. I just feel ashamed of all that. I would record the pictures in a DVD. Thank God I did destroyed everything like that I had.
Other thing, and back there I didn't know that I was with a problem. A few years ago I was in a long distant relationship. And sometimes I would go visit her. I remember that we both were virgins. I remeber that sometimes I couldn't get hard and I blame "the first time" etc. She was comprehensive. But recalling now, I remember that I couldn't get turned on and the girl cried a lot saying that it was she fault, that she was ugly and I thought she was ugly. I remember that even in days that sex "worked" I would wait all her family to go to sleep so I would get on the computer and PMO. HER FAMILY was sleeping in other room and I was PMO in a place that wasn't even my house. I don't know but looking back I think all this things disgusting, disrespectful. How I could finish sex and sometime later sit in front of pixel to masturbate?
I know a little how my life porn free can be. But even knowing that is not enough. It seems like nothing is enough for me to just take all even more serious and try to get PMO out of my life. What am I waiting to happen???
Before Christmas I was like 10 days porn free. I was doing well, but the "call of porn" that came all the time in my mind, like flashbacks or the voice saying "hey, you could check out a video with this and this". And when I saw I gave up and was PMOing. Maybe that is the point that I have to work. How to deal with the urge, the addicted voice asking por porn.
So I'd like to thanks. I hope I get my shit together somehow. I'd like to say thank you for the work of Gary and Gabe. And all that the other users where, rebooted or in their way to get there.
I'm sorry for the lack of meaning of this post. But I needed to put in other what I've been feeling. I hope that somebody can just say anything for me. Thanks anyway!
Life keeps going...