Sexual Roller coaster during Reboot normal?

Please give me a tip guys, I really dont know if my situation is normal.
Shorten, I`m 19, and once I discovered this website (after 1 and a half year not knowing the cause of my PIED), I already had a girlfriend (5 months dating) and told her about my situation when I saw the website, and she understood. From that moment up to 4 months, my progress was very good: never more pills to get erection (which usually didn`t work); great decrease on my "fails" with her; rarely needing to masturbate to get an erection and then have sex; no more imagining situations to get and erection and then have sex; could get some BJ from her; kissing, staying with her, having sex feels way up better. I would say I went from zero to 85-90% better erection.

However, after those 4 months, my progress was very, very low: I still have the "roller-coaster" effect (some weeks i`m ok, other weeks not. but now I almost always can have sex, the "low" part in the roller-coaster is weaker erection and ejaculate in less than 5 minutes, and when I am in the "up" part I can stay 30 min-1hour with steel erection); I still don`t get spontaneous erection and high libido when I am alone or in a normal day, normally I just get erection and want sex when I am with my girlfriend. Sometimes I have it when I am alone, but it is rare; Sometimes when I am having sex, from nowhere I loose the strength of the erection and then need to ejaculate (it`s like a loose the libido. I thought it was because I think on bad thing, such as "loosing erection", but there is some nights that I thing the same and my penis don`t give a damn for that and the libido and erection stay just as they are, and I stay for a long time with no ejaculation).
I am happy with the progress I made in the first 4 months, but I want to know if that low progress during those 6 months is normal, and if there is anything I can do to get 100% with my erection, or I just need to wait? It has been 10 months I`ve been following Gabe`s and yourbrainonporn instructions. I never had problems with porn addiction, just PIED.

I would also describe my situation as a roller coaster. I have been dating for 3 months, and sometimes I perform well with her, but other times not so much. I am struggling especially with low sensitivity and difficulty to orgasm. But sometimes I have trouble getting hard as well. I too have been rebooting for a long time (about a year) although I have had 4-5 relapses to M and 1-2 relapses to P during that one year. I was hoping that I would be cured by now, but I am not.

The advice I got from the other thread was to reduce the number of orgasms. Even the O's from sex. This makes sense to me in a way, because I do perform better after several days of abstinence... So far I have been unable to cut back on the O's because my gf wants to have sex quite often.

this is very normal. recovery process is gradual and non linear. your experience is matching that.

also listen to Camouflage's tip about reducing number of Os if that can apply to you. its not beneficial to O too often during reboot.

Sorry for the unknowledge, but what would be "M" and "P"?

I only orgasm from sex, because since I discovered my PIED I don't masturbate and avoid fantasizing (even with real girls). Anyway, I will consider your advice.

M is masturbation, P is porn

some other vocabulary: http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=21.0

Numez said:

also listen to Camouflage's tip about reducing number of Os if that can apply to you. its not beneficial to O too often during reboot.

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applies to O during sex.

Thank you guys. And what do you think about having sex with another girls (still dating one), during reboot? Could help? I want to, but I'm not sure if it could disturb the "reboot" process.

as long as you are having vanilla sex, not forcing erections and sticking to no more than 1 O per week, you are fine and rewiring.

sex with other girls but you are still dating one? sounds like you are planning to cheat but even "cheating sex" can slow things down a bit because possibility of getting caught creates some extra dopamine hit during sex and you dont need nothing extra if you want the best and quickest reboot. this is not time for affairs and "dangerous situations" that create dopamine spikes in the brain similar to those that come from porn use. break up and then have sex with as many girls as you want if that is what you are after.

some people reported PIED after over a 1 year of no porn and masturbation but they used prostitutes for the whole time. they could get it up with prostitutes but in real relationships they still had PIED because it is totally different set up. their brain was still too desensitized to vanilla regular free sex.

Yes I would cheat, but it`s not because I am sexually atracted for "cheating sex" (like some people fantasize with porn), actually I don`t really like the situation, it`s just because I am atracted and want to have sex with a few girls, such as 2 ou 3. And yes, it would be a vanilla sex.
Still not sure it it could disturb the "reboot" process :S

I love this site but SO much conflicting information.......So is it or is it NOT beneficial to reboot with a partner? I've been having sex with my GF 3-4x a week (not 100% there) and I can say first hand that having sex with a human has undoubtedly helped me in my recovery. I just don't PMO/MO at all and haven't in almost 14 months.

Now I'm reading that we should abstain from O's? I call 100% BS on that. 

Didn't mean to hijack your thread....I read similar posts on yourbrainrebalanced as well. :/

pearland71 said:

Now I'm reading that we should abstain from O's? I call 100% BS on that.

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Numez said:

also listen to Camouflage's tip about reducing number of Os if that can apply to you.

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you dont have to fully abstain and if its not applying to you, you are fine but many people including myself suffer from frequent O during sex (during reboot). also its beneficial to reboot with your partner.

what you mean by similar posts on brainrebalanced?

http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/

Sorry, was sitting in traffic when I typed that up.

i mean what kind of post is this when you find similar ones there? similar to what? conflicting?

Abstaining from O.

but nobody here in this thread mentioned that you should completely abstain from O during whole reboot. there is difference between reducing and abstaining.

a lot of guys (including myself) experience drawbacks if we O too frequently during reboot, thats why it helps to reduce it. 3-4x would not work for me very well but once per week im fine. if you are not having problems with it, you are fine, O as much as you want. I dont have HOCD problems but a LOT of people have it because of porn and i cant call BS on that. just apply what is applicable to you, not everyone is affected the same. 14 months you are doing fine, you should be definitely able to O more frequently without consequences. you are close to full recovery.

what's HOCD, Numez?

"Homosexual OCD (?HOCD?) is a specific subtype of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) that involves recurrent sexual obsessions and intrusive doubts about one's sexual orientation. Straight individuals with homosexual OCD experience obsessive fears about the possibility of being gay"

here is some talk and links about it on YBOP http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/ask-us-iam-attracted-to-gay-transsexual