Porn Caused ED!!! (need help/advice)

I'm 17years old, healthy young man and I've suffered porn caused ED for over a half a year now and I seek for help. It all started after a blood test where the doctors filled 12 of those blood tubes and middle of taking the blood I fainted. For the first 3-4 months I blamed the cause of my ED because of the problem started straight after the blood test(+ when and if I got an erection couldn't maintain/keep it up if I started to stand). After many doctor visits and blood tests I found out that it wasn't caused by the blood test, hormones or anything health wise. Doctors didn't know what to do so I started to find answers from the internet of the same problem. I couldn't get an erection by using my imagination or even by touching. Only way I got it up was by using porn. I've done couple tests to make shure that this is the problem and red from many websites that I should stop the use of porn. The thing is that i've trying to do this for nearly 2 months now, but already I've have had to restart many times because of my old habit to watch porn. I have been soon of porn for an week now and im scared that I will fail again and start all over again. The habit is not the only problem... I've had this problem for too long and my depression is been worse than ever before (+couple suicide attempts behind). Also I'm a ok looking guy and a couple girls beeing interested of me, but how I suposed to respond/to do if I take it any further and end up to having sex. I cant say "sorry my penis doesn't work" worst case scenario they will tell that to they friends or such. I know this will take more than a day or two, but I'd like some idea of how long I might take on my quest. Also I'd like to hear tips or anything what might help me out. Only positive sides of this is that I will try to giveup/ quit porn for ever and to learn/understand from this stressful experience.

Why don't you read around the forum a bit, along with yourbrainonporn?

When you watched porn before your reboot can you get erected with porn without phisical stimulation?

Marksanchez said:

When you watched porn before your reboot can you get erected with porn without phisical stimulation?

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I could not get an erection without porn not even by stimulation alone, but I do sometimes wake up with a morning boner...

I mean if you can get an erection WITH porn only by visual stimulation?

Death Trap said:

Why don't you read around the forum a bit, along with yourbrainonporn?

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I've already been. Its just that some of the cases sound worse than mine and some of them scares me of (those were some have been without porn for over 6 months or so and still have the problem without any good results) but still thanks for the advice and I'll go and check out that website!

Marksanchez said:

I mean if you can get an erection WITH porn only by visual stimulation?

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Yes thats the only way I can get an erection. I can't get an erection just only by masturbating / using my mind.

But with porn do you need also phisical stimuly or only watching porn you get erected without touching yourself?

Marksanchez said:

But with porn do you need also phisical stimuly or only watching porn you get erected without touching yourself?

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I don't need any stimulation when watching porn to get hard, but when I try to do it without porn it's nearly impossible to get hard or even upkeep the erection.

Start be curing your depression. You won't get aroused if you feel dead inside. Stop testing yourself. Even if your ED is not fixed tomorrow, a life without porn is better. It's something that doesn't allow you to move ahead with your life.

qcRebooter said:

Start be curing your depression. You won't get aroused if you feel dead inside. Stop testing yourself. Even if your ED is not fixed tomorrow, a life without porn is better. It's something that doesn't allow you to move ahead with your life.

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Thanks for the advice! Does anyone have an advice to stop the depression. I've red from a lot off websites just to not think about it and stuff like that, but I see this as a pretty big problem and thats something what is hard to forget/ not to think about it. The worst part is that I some times start to think/stress/worrie about it even when im doing other stuff like in hobbies, school or even when I'm hanging out with my friends. One of the reasons I think is that I've had a hard time on quiting porn. I've barelly even been a week without porn because of me falling back to my old habits. Worst part is that when I do that it makes me even more desparate (because knowing that it will make the process longer and reading from others that how long its taken even with poor results) and I start to stress about it even more. But as you have sugested me to keep reading from other users and websites of the problem and learn about it. Atleast I know that it will be a reward when/if I get my problems fixed. By the way do you mean by testing my self as me testing can I get an erection?

He means stop touching your dick.

Also, you're going to have to go see a therapist if you have depression, or try to cure yourself by reading the relevant books (Albert Ellis, etc.). No one here is a trained medical professional and, even if they were, they wouldn't have the time or the inclination to counsel you in a PMO forum.

I've been reading a lot from other people, books and websites about solutions for my problems, (porn caused ed and depression) but I keep failling by loosing hope and ruining the start by going to the old habits. Yes I've read a lot of ways to stop watching porn, but the reason why I keep failling is because of depression and social anxiety (havent found a effective habit or way to deal with it). Reading about these things haven't helped me and the closest therapist is like over 50km from where I live + dont have the money to get there/ or pay for such things. I will keep searching ways to to fight depression, but if someone knows a good site, book or way/habit i would like to hear it! (And yes I understand you may not be professionals to answer these kind questions, but I still will because havent found anything that is worked out with me + dont know anyone else who could because the fucking doctors do not know anything and have tried to avoid me because either not believing in my problem or not knowing what to do and the closest urologist is also near to 50km = cant get there or even pay to go there) And sorry for my horrible english!

And thank you who have been kind to answer my questions and giving good advice! I understand that there is lot of people asking the similar questions and I will keep reading at their answers to they problems!

For dealing with depression itself, I think there's two schools of thought that are the best:

1. Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy (or Cognitive Behavior Therapy)--this is the dominant form of therapy in the United States and Europe. The central insight is that depression is the result of irrational thoughts, and when the patient can see the illogical nature of them, they will lose their power over him. For example, the depressive might say to himself "I'll never be any good", which is an irrational thought, since no human has the ability to predict the future with certainty. Read Albert Ellis "Guide to Rational Living", or David Burns "The Feeling Good Handbook".

2. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (or ACT)--argues that negative psychological states are the result of internal conflict, and that the depressive, anxious, etc., person is better off recognizing that these states are just thoughts, and then moving forward with life, instead of struggling against them. For example, a depressive says to himself "I'm no good"; ACT teaches techniques for seeing this as just a thought, like the myriad other thoughts our brains produce for no apparent reason throughout the day. I recommend Russ Harris' "The Happiness Trap" as a good introduction to this approach, but Steven Hayes has also written some great stuff on this. For the record, I prefer this approach.

Now, if you're genuinely clinically depressed, I would advise you to see a medical professional, since I'm just a self-taught person on this subject. If your insurance doesn't cover it, try to scrape together some money for at least an initial consultation, just to make sure that you don't have something serious going on. Take a train or bus to go see him or her; if you're broke see if you can't reach some sort of agreement, since there's no harm in asking. This is your fucking life, man.

In my case, quitting porn has been of immense help to me in dealing with depressive and anxious thoughts. I'm so fucking happy that I don't use it anymore.

Im just about to hang my self. I've beeing without PMO max a week and keep failling all this time. Got a lot of help from here, books and articles, but just the fact that everyone else my age has they life perfect, girlfriend, job/money, etc. One stage I really got my depression away, but after every relapse it gets worse. I dont realy have a reason to live anymore now when i think about it (not able to do anything what my friends/my aged guys are doing, not keen on anything, cant get a job), but i rly dont want to stop living because not having an other chance to do so... I know many many other people ask the same, but i realy dont know what to do. I keep relapsing, started to tell this shit to others in the internet/bithcing, hoping it to go away, max week without pmo then relapse. I fucking hate to complain, but everything what ive tried hasnt worked out and would like to want to do something in life without worrying of my Pied, the constant depression and should i just stop living. If there is/was anything what helped you to start a perfect pmo fithout relapse i would like to hear it. Or is it that ive havent tried enough? Right now i dont have much free time/ do lots of sports and hangin out with friends when compared to my friends/same aged guys but still no will to keep going to try fix up my problems what ive started, depression or anything else. I will leave this as my last post because you probably tired to listen to this shit from me and everyone else here complaining but i just cant live like this and cant get help from anywhere else (besides books and these reboot chanels) although i still end up in the same spot then when i first got this problem. And yes sorry for my horrible english again.

Also the problem is more of cant stick to the routine than the knollege or the stuff i should do... It feels like ive red and know everything what i should and should not do.

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props for marksanchez for keep trying to get the answer  ;D

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PIED and depression, anxiety, no purpose in life etc. are connected. they generally go together and porn use ties them all up. it means if you quit porn, you will drop a lot of depression, anxiety etc. porn literally fucks up your brain physically. your brain is different to those around you who never watched porn and fucked up brain can cause some depression and what not. it can take 1-2 years to reverse this. you cant be truly happy and addicted to porn at the same time so focusing only on the symptom (depression) is not going to get you the result that you are wanting. porn addiction is comparable to cocaine and heroin addictions and you know those guys are not able to live really happy lives no matter the counseling or therapy they take to cure their depression. as long as they keep using the drug, they are fucked. it may help a little, but its shit and with time it gets worse.

your thinking is typical to porn addiction. sounds like you are pretty much fucked up mentally just as much as sexually (PIED). i had hard time getting determined to quit and breaking 1 week max cycle too. i think the problem is that you are not quite aware of the porn problems. your wanting advice for depression and isolating depression from porn addiction shows it. erections may got your attention but are the last thing to worry about right now. your brain is similar to the brain of a heroin addict. my brain too. recently when i think of how actually big effects porn is having on my life, my determination grows because sex and girls are the last of my concerns. if i want to live life i need to quit just as much as hardcore drug addict needs to quit if he needs to live his life.

its about having clearer mind and knowing what to do in life, following your passion, enjoying human interactions, achieving goals, having new experiences, having energy and being fulfilled with simple things, waking up excited for the day ahead, being brave and courageous, being generous and helpful because you feel like it not because its right thing to do..................... i feel like i forgot to mention something..... oh yeah sex, girls and erections xD  ;D

and the last thing, this is more for others than it is for you but still i feel compelled to mention it. you will have problems in life even if you quit porn. even recovered addicts or people who have perfectly healthy brains are having problems in life. they just have easier time with them, they dont get as stuck with them, they are more motivated, they solve them more easily, they even see them as fun challenges and find happiness in them.. people just love to tell you that quitting porn will not solve all your problems forever so i must mention it too, no matter how obvious it is.

I swear there are hotlines run by charities to help with this sort of thing. anyways. IF you have porn addiction do not think that you will never recover from depression. There is good chance it is causing it. If you look into the science of it... abusing porn fucks up your pleasure chemicals.. and if like me you rarely get a feeling of enjoyment or fulfillment... yes it is going to get to your head and your going to sometimes feel suicidal. But there is hope. Read as much as you can about PIED and learn it.