Need continuous stimulation for erection

Hi, I am new here. I hope I m posting in the right section.
I have been MOing for long long time. Probably from the age of 8. (Don't need porn for masturbation. I can masturbate on any girl/ picture/ video/ erotic book).
Now when I m thinking to start a relationship with a girl I like, I decided to test myself. And bang, No matter how erotic my thoughts are or how erotic video/ picture i m having at my desktop, I can?t get a hard on. I would only get hard via physical stimulation. Once I get hard, if I stop the physical stimulation, my erection goes away in around 15 seconds. Also, I always used my left hand while masturbation, may be thats why my penis has bent towards left. (This is just my guess. If I try to get hard without physical touch, I feel really aroused but won?t get any erection. Instead my penis would just bend in left direction.) I used to start masturbation without getting hard on. (This could be another reason but again its just my guess)

I get morning wood daily (80% erection). Never felt pain while masturbation or ejaculating. My age is 31 and BMI is normal. No heart related issues. But I have poor digestion system. I am a virgin.

I have met a well known urologist. He said don?t bother about the bend, if u r getting morning wood then there is no physical problem. He asked me a lot of questions about my medical history, routine and arousals. He seemed pretty confident but didn?t do any tests.

To summarize:

1. MOing for around 23 years. Don?t need porn for that. Always used left hand.

2. Used to masturbate without getting hard on.

3. Masturbation frequency: 3-4 times a day

4. Need physical stimulation to get a hard on.

5. Can?t maintain erection for more than 15 seconds without continuous stimulation.

6. No injury on penis or surroundings. No serious illness or medication history.

7. Can get arousal easily just by few thoughts or visuals but no erection. Penis would bend in left.

8. If anyone has experienced this scenario, is it possible to have sex with this 15 seconds erection?

I am thinking to start 90 days hard mode. But can anyone advise if they know whats going on with me. I want to believe my urologist but does daily morning wood confirms there is no physical problem? Any advise would be a great help.

Please excuse the long post but I am a bit confused and hoping for some help.

You're going to need to just relax yourself, and have sex with someone. This isn't that complicated.

Death Trap said:

You're going to need to just relax yourself, and have sex with someone. This isn't that complicated.

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Thanks @Death Trap. I would still want to be able to get and maintain an erection without touch. So I am going to try hard mode. I have made few changes in my diet also. i know there are many other guys who are facing far more serious problems than me. I don't wanna cry about my situation but I was hoping if someone could give any advise on this getting and maintaining erection problem. I have tried kegels also. Didn't help much.

Hey guys....I am a bit confused about hard mode. Can anybody advise: Does hard mode say no P M and O only? I mean is it ok if you fool around with your girlfriend and may be make out or that is also supposed to be avoided?

What they all "karezza" is basically fooling around with a woman (or man), with O not being the objective (for you, at least. I recommend you give her an O or two.). Hard mode, as they seem to call it here, I believe would advise you to go this route; personally, I'd say it's cool if you want to try to have an orgasm yourself, so long as it's with her. 

Death Trap said:

What they all "karezza" is basically fooling around with a woman (or man), with O not being the objective (for you, at least. I recommend you give her an O or two.). Hard mode, as they seem to call it here, I believe would advise you to go this route; personally, I'd say it's cool if you want to try to have an orgasm yourself, so long as it's with her.

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Thanks a lot @Death Trap for again coming up with help.

You're welcome. Please keep us posted with how it goes.

Hey guys....I met my gf yesterday. We cuddled, kissed did all the stuff except sex. I could get semi erect (60-70%) without touching my dick. I think i m making some progress as I didn't need physical stimulation to get erection. But then again it went away too quickly. I mean the minute I stop touching or kissing her I start losing erection and in few seconds my guy goes down.

Any thoughts?

P.S: I felt terribly stressed and had a relapse a day before I met my gf and masturbated on actress images. (I think it counts as porn sub). It was after 22 days of no PMO.

I know how you feel. For male it's most unpleasant feeling. I can give you one advise - all this stuff about erectile dysfunction force to learn one thing: don't relate to life and idea of yourself very serious. Try to enjoy every fail - it could be funny, I swear. After 10 unsuccessful attempts you don't care. You have erection or you don't. Girl can make you happy even without erection. Just try to don't give a ...