DO I HAVE PORN ED??

Hi folks,

I'm new here. I get straight down to business, Im 28 and I had a pretty hot gf i've been dating for about a 2 years. The last 6 months of the relationship, I started watching porn heavily again. I started making excuses that "I'm too tired" or "I have a headache" for sex, and waited for her to fall asleep to go watch P. Then natrually I stop having sex with my gf cause I wasn't turned on and would always go soft    Anyways we broke up, and I was still heavily watching p every night.

2 weeks ago, I was at a bachelor party and saw this super gorgeous girl with a smoking body. I was so mesmerizesd and had to have her. Fast forward 2 hours after talking and drinking, we were grinding it up on the dance floor. I was horny..or at least thought I was, she dragged me into the girls washroom stall and starts getting bucked naked. We made out in the stall..no erection, I fingered her..still no erection..started sucking her breasts..still no erection. She got frustrated and bailed on me. After that night was over, I went home to the good ol' laptop and found paradise again.

I check out girls all the time, and I have the fear of having no erection. Now i don't attempt to pick up girls after the incident at the club.

So after much research, do I have the porn ed??


Hope to hear a response,

Thanks

Sounds like it to me.  But, if so, you need to study your problem.  You probably don't "have" ED.  ED is just a symptom of porn addiction.  Don't freak out!  A lot of guys have it and don't know it.  A lot of guys who have it and do not know they can suffer from porn addiction, that porn addiction is even possible.  Curing ED is the number one reasons guys quit porn.  Yep, I said it. "Quit."  If you have ED and cannot imagine quitting porn, if that concept is alien to you, you may be addicted.  Why don't you try this, make a promise to your self not to watch porn for one week.  If you have difficulty watching porn for more than three days, if you feel compelled to watch porn in that time, if you feel you must watch porn in that time, if you get to the place in that time where you feel you will crawl up the wall unless you PMO, you may have unwittingly become addicted to porn.  A couple things--porn addiction is just a problem.  It has a solution, and the solution is one that while difficult, is doable.  A lot of guys report overcoming it in 90 days.  It is a process than involved re-sensitizing your brain's sexual reward pathways to reward reality over pixels.  I have compared it to learning how to shoot a free throw.  You may suck at first, but after a few months of practice shots you will be able to hit it with your eyes closed.  Last, if you do have PIED (porn induced erectile dysfunction) it goes away after you quit your porn habit.  First and foremost you must understand your problem is in your brain, above the belt, not below it.  Here is the link you need to hit.  Watch it, take notes, watch it again. 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c_RIm9ZMN1I

That is the education.  Next, get tools.  Don't use will power alone.  Install K9 porn blocker.  It will not keep you from accessing porn but it will slow you down, give you pause, give you time to remind yourself about the problem and how you are fixing it. 

I mentioned the "crawling up the walls" thing.  You might want to understand what withdrawals are.  Here is a good link.

http://yourbrainonporn.com/what-does-withdrawal-from-porn-look-like

About 25% down on the above link you will see a section that starts "Withdrawals suck."  I wrote it, so, yes, I am partial. 

Feel free to PM me if I can give you any information.  Recovered porn addict here.  Over a year free and clear.  My symptoms are all gone and have been for almost 8 months I guess. 

If you would like to give my thread a read, it is here.

http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=1256.0

Would love to see any positive, helpful, comments you might choose to leave at the end of it.

Peace. 

Hi,
imo that thing in the bathroom stall could have been anything. Starting with whiskey dick to anxiety to stress or a one time event. Are you or have you usually been able to get hard under cirumstances like this, assuming it wasn't the first and only time you had casual sex like that?

Then if you are not turned on by your steady partner, it is not unusual to go soft. Relationship problems can cause ED on their own.

Of course there is always a possibility, that it is porn related as well. Though it sounds you were fine the first 18 months of your relationship. I am not sure, if P.I.ED develops so fast, I always thought it was a process that develops over many years.

Hi guys,

Thanks a lot for the responses. It means a lot! 

Its already been only one day and I already crave to watch at least one video. But I haven't, cause I'm trying to stay determined. Thanks William for the great insight, helps me stay motivated. So before when you were addicted, you had erection problems too? I'm happy for you that you are staying strong 1 year +

I know withdrawals are probably coming soon, I'm ok with it I think, I just try to stay busy with work and going out with friends.

As for my bathroom stall incident, that was the first time something like that happened to me. I had pretty gf's in the past, but a quickie in the stall like that had put me in shock. Plus i was pretty buzzed from alcohol. I tried to flow with it but man was it hard as f*** to get an erection. She was so smoking hot compared to the girls I usually interact with. I figured I had erection problems since I couldn't even have sex with my past girlfriend anymore. She would even try to get into kinky stuff, but still I couldn't get into it. 

I have been watching P since out of high school, but never had erection problems still about 6-7 months ago  :-\. I'd test myself to look at hot girls and see if I could feel anything. Now my brain is messing with me, making me think to my self "look all you want, your not gonna get a hard on" It suckssss.

Im glad I found forums like these to share our incidents. I have much to learn in order carry on and move forward in life. I wish everyone here with similar issues the best of luck as well. I'll repost back on here when my next interaction goes well or not with a female.