aquarius25
Respected Member
I was thinking about this yesterday and then this morning in another forum I saw it come up again and I started to notice how manipulation is used so frequently in relationships. Why? When did it become perfectly ok to manipulate your partner? It removes so much from a relationship when this occurs. You rob your partner of real authenticity and openness. You start to create an unreal and frankly fake sense of reality that your partner has no idea they are living in. They are no longer choosing you but this skewed sense of reality that they are living in. They are not in relationship with the real you at all. Yet I see this in relationships all the time. Little things that build up to big things. Women withhold sex so they can get the honey do list done. Men withhold truth about how they really feel. Withholding is manipulating. Its dishonest. It kills relationships. Why do it? If you don't want to have sex then just say you don't. That way at the very least you have integrity if nothing else. If you have an issue with your partner talk about it. How can you work through things and improve and support each other if these things aren't brought up? I am learning how to forgive and rebuild trust with my husband but the dishonesty is by far the bigger and hardest thing to overcome. Why can't we as a society value integrity more? This cultural attitude of lies and dishonesty masked as personal space is ridiculous. If you need to have something for yourself then just say it? People hide behind justifications too much and its sad because they miss out on really living and having real relationships with people. Tragic.
Sorry for the rant, lol. It just really pisses me off.
Sorry for the rant, lol. It just really pisses me off.