40 and up seems like kids - I'm 72. I have a wife 20 years my junior and a 13 year old daughter. We've been married 24 years and together for 28. I started most everything late in life except porn. At 13 I found a fake plastic camera in my dad's jacket with pictures of naked women - ugly ones at that. Then came girly mags, then cheap erotic literature, then more explicit girly mags, then videos, then DVDs and finally internet, which had the benefit of saving me lots of money. Sounds like a long career.
My wife and I haven't engaged in sex, for a loooong time. I can't recall when my ED began but I seem to have many potential causes. Have been taking statins and blood pressure meds for many years and I read they can contribute to ED. We raised our daughter with "attachment" parenting which means she shared our bed for 10 years. That doesn't exactly make for a sexual playground and puts the wife on the Madonna platform.
My wife discovered my extensive collection of DVDs about 8 years ago and tried to tell me that that was the cause of my ed. I didn't listen.
About three years ago, realizing she needed sexual fulfillment, I told her I'd agree to DADT. She told me she didn't feel she could get laid if she showed up naked in a bar. About 3 months ago she shared that she was having two affairs and that in fact all her life she has been polyamorous but sublimated that lifestyle for our marriage. But she was now "out" and willing to engage in a loving/sexual relationship if it should happen - and two are. It was a wake up call for me that I had neglected a beautiful women who loved me enough to remain with me in spite of my failings (so to speak) and who again insisted that porn was the cause of my ED. She did the research and pointed me to this forum. So now as a monogamous man I'm struggling with polyamory as well as ED. Don't know what will happen with our relationship around polyamory but I do know I want to beat this ED problem. In spite of my age, I am in good shape and most people think I'm fiftyish and obviously I am still interested in sex.
I'm grateful for this forum. I see that many of you guys have been POM free for much longer than 90 days but I don't see much regarding whether your ED has been conquered.
I look forward to hearing from my brothers, being responsive, supportive and as helpful as I can. Thanks!!
BTW - my wife just shared with me her extensive library of erotic literature. Guess she has had her own addiction? I skimmed a few of the books but didn't really get into any as "any" stimulation like that is out, right? Wonder if I'd stayed addicted to literature instead of visuals if ED would have happened? Any thoughts?
My wife and I haven't engaged in sex, for a loooong time. I can't recall when my ED began but I seem to have many potential causes. Have been taking statins and blood pressure meds for many years and I read they can contribute to ED. We raised our daughter with "attachment" parenting which means she shared our bed for 10 years. That doesn't exactly make for a sexual playground and puts the wife on the Madonna platform.
My wife discovered my extensive collection of DVDs about 8 years ago and tried to tell me that that was the cause of my ed. I didn't listen.
About three years ago, realizing she needed sexual fulfillment, I told her I'd agree to DADT. She told me she didn't feel she could get laid if she showed up naked in a bar. About 3 months ago she shared that she was having two affairs and that in fact all her life she has been polyamorous but sublimated that lifestyle for our marriage. But she was now "out" and willing to engage in a loving/sexual relationship if it should happen - and two are. It was a wake up call for me that I had neglected a beautiful women who loved me enough to remain with me in spite of my failings (so to speak) and who again insisted that porn was the cause of my ED. She did the research and pointed me to this forum. So now as a monogamous man I'm struggling with polyamory as well as ED. Don't know what will happen with our relationship around polyamory but I do know I want to beat this ED problem. In spite of my age, I am in good shape and most people think I'm fiftyish and obviously I am still interested in sex.
I'm grateful for this forum. I see that many of you guys have been POM free for much longer than 90 days but I don't see much regarding whether your ED has been conquered.
I look forward to hearing from my brothers, being responsive, supportive and as helpful as I can. Thanks!!
BTW - my wife just shared with me her extensive library of erotic literature. Guess she has had her own addiction? I skimmed a few of the books but didn't really get into any as "any" stimulation like that is out, right? Wonder if I'd stayed addicted to literature instead of visuals if ED would have happened? Any thoughts?