Z
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Hey everyone, first off: English is not my native language. There might be some mistakes or weird diction.
Classic: It's new year's eve, outside the firecrackers and rockets are banging and exploding and I'm at home. Alone. But I neither feel lonely nor unhappy. I want it to be like that.
I'm a student at university, 22 years old, at first glance good-looking, fit, confident and determined. Competent in social interaction, very good grades. But for 2 1/4 years I isolated myself completely from other people. How much? Disregarding one family gathering, I didn't have a conversation that lasted longer than 2 minutes for half a year. Since graduating from high school 3 1/2 years ago, I lost interest in interactions with other humans. The reason is no fear, I just don't feel any need inside myself to do it. It is as if I was decoupled from an invisible connection between every other human that raises the need to get together over and over again inside of them.
The clock just went to 00:00, outside the firework is bursting but that doesn't move me a single bit. I'm not depressed, I'm just living inside my own world, go for my own goals and hobbys with daily energy and feel good doing that. What unsettles me is the observation that the invisible wall between me and all other people is slowly but steadily growing. My goals give me temporary meaning, but target a social reintegration at a later point. If this reintegration won't succeed, if the interest in social interaction doesn't come back, I'm running into a dead end street.
The last few months it dawned on me: This invisible connection between humans that I feel decoupled from could just be their sexdrive. After all it is one of the main underlying forces in social interaction. Not only lusting sex in itself but also the permanent positioning in sexual hierarchies, validation of one's own attractiveness through others and so on.
The strange thing is: I'm not interested at all in sexual interaction at this point, even though I'm healthy and fit. At a point in the future I am though and then I will be richer, better-looking and even more confident and because of that able to attract women that look like my favourite pornstars, I fantazise sometimes ???.
In the past I always had different girls in my head that I considered to be "sweet". But I always way so shy, that even a conversation in person was miles away. By now I found out about personal development and gained much confidence, but instead of different girls, I have different pornstars in my head that I'm dreaming of.
Thus I'm a virgin at 22, didn't even have my first kiss. But I don't really care, there is no inner pressure as "my brain is on porn".
For quite some time I'm aware of the fact that watching porn has negative consequences. Still, I just can't stop. I'm just watching it over and over again. Not daily, but 1-3 times a week I get lost in sessions of several hours whose length not I, but my phone battery or an ejaculation define (which also ruins my sleep rhythm). This is unusual for me as I'm generally no sensualist and pretty disciplined in other areas of my life.
Therefore I think I am addicted to porn.
In 2020 I want to live without watching porn and by that I want to regain my interest in other people, particularly in real women. This withdrawal also includes images from "instagram models".
The hardest part will be to lose these images of certain pornstars in my head. Over the years I defined my brain to only get attracted by a certain look that only 8-10 porn actresses have. All other actresses are not interesting for me anyways, but I nearly know every movie from the ones I chose.
I hope that my brain can reset back to a natural state that includes real women.
This journal is supossed to assist me on that journey. I do it primarily for myself but of course am happy about any comments.
I want to add notes on a regular basis that should document my temptations. I'll still masturbate in a healthy frequency (only in the evening 2-3 times a week, long-term goal: 1-2 times a week). Here I want to have a libido as high as possible but only as long as I can still concentrate on mental work.
Happy new year if anyone read until here! Let's have a porn-free 2020!
Z
Classic: It's new year's eve, outside the firecrackers and rockets are banging and exploding and I'm at home. Alone. But I neither feel lonely nor unhappy. I want it to be like that.
I'm a student at university, 22 years old, at first glance good-looking, fit, confident and determined. Competent in social interaction, very good grades. But for 2 1/4 years I isolated myself completely from other people. How much? Disregarding one family gathering, I didn't have a conversation that lasted longer than 2 minutes for half a year. Since graduating from high school 3 1/2 years ago, I lost interest in interactions with other humans. The reason is no fear, I just don't feel any need inside myself to do it. It is as if I was decoupled from an invisible connection between every other human that raises the need to get together over and over again inside of them.
The clock just went to 00:00, outside the firework is bursting but that doesn't move me a single bit. I'm not depressed, I'm just living inside my own world, go for my own goals and hobbys with daily energy and feel good doing that. What unsettles me is the observation that the invisible wall between me and all other people is slowly but steadily growing. My goals give me temporary meaning, but target a social reintegration at a later point. If this reintegration won't succeed, if the interest in social interaction doesn't come back, I'm running into a dead end street.
The last few months it dawned on me: This invisible connection between humans that I feel decoupled from could just be their sexdrive. After all it is one of the main underlying forces in social interaction. Not only lusting sex in itself but also the permanent positioning in sexual hierarchies, validation of one's own attractiveness through others and so on.
The strange thing is: I'm not interested at all in sexual interaction at this point, even though I'm healthy and fit. At a point in the future I am though and then I will be richer, better-looking and even more confident and because of that able to attract women that look like my favourite pornstars, I fantazise sometimes ???.
In the past I always had different girls in my head that I considered to be "sweet". But I always way so shy, that even a conversation in person was miles away. By now I found out about personal development and gained much confidence, but instead of different girls, I have different pornstars in my head that I'm dreaming of.
Thus I'm a virgin at 22, didn't even have my first kiss. But I don't really care, there is no inner pressure as "my brain is on porn".
For quite some time I'm aware of the fact that watching porn has negative consequences. Still, I just can't stop. I'm just watching it over and over again. Not daily, but 1-3 times a week I get lost in sessions of several hours whose length not I, but my phone battery or an ejaculation define (which also ruins my sleep rhythm). This is unusual for me as I'm generally no sensualist and pretty disciplined in other areas of my life.
Therefore I think I am addicted to porn.
In 2020 I want to live without watching porn and by that I want to regain my interest in other people, particularly in real women. This withdrawal also includes images from "instagram models".
The hardest part will be to lose these images of certain pornstars in my head. Over the years I defined my brain to only get attracted by a certain look that only 8-10 porn actresses have. All other actresses are not interesting for me anyways, but I nearly know every movie from the ones I chose.
I hope that my brain can reset back to a natural state that includes real women.
This journal is supossed to assist me on that journey. I do it primarily for myself but of course am happy about any comments.
I want to add notes on a regular basis that should document my temptations. I'll still masturbate in a healthy frequency (only in the evening 2-3 times a week, long-term goal: 1-2 times a week). Here I want to have a libido as high as possible but only as long as I can still concentrate on mental work.
Happy new year if anyone read until here! Let's have a porn-free 2020!
Z