Hi,
Not my first go at removing P use from my life by any means, but I'm a newcomer to this or any other community devoted to honestly addressing it and working through it. It's extremely difficult to talk about and "publicly" acknowledge; like many users on this forum (which I've been sort of sifting through for the last few weeks), I too am a master of compartmentalization and repression, so hopefully by doing this I can start to take some power away from this force that's run my thoughts for so many years.
To introduce myself and explain where I'm at, I was P-free for 25 days earlier this month (a modern-era record for me), although still allowing MO. I slipped and looked, and then a couple days later I slipped again and did a bit more than look, but still managed to mostly keep a lid on things. I felt truly terrible both times. I am presently on day eight of no PM(O) (absolutely no P; doing my best not to M, have not in 8 days and intend to continue; and the O is parenthetical because I'm single, not sexually-active and not looking, but if by happenstance I meet a person, I'm allowing it). I feel very much like I'm white-knuckling right now, so here I am trying to tell on myself and talk about it instead of doing it. I feel very sensitive, thin-skinned, touchy, like my moods could be shifted to any extreme at the touch of a feather. It feels messy, but a "good mess", and even if I don't succeed, I'm interested in seeing where this goes and how it affects me, and think this hiccup in my usual nature of just indulging whenever I feel the tap on my shoulder can only be a positive change.
I'm also a member of a support group for a separate substance abuse issue, and I'm trying to apply some of the principles I appreciate most from that in this area of my life. First is progress, not perfection. I'm lucky in that a slip here doesn't necessarily threaten as much harm to my life as a slip in my other program would mean, but by addressing this at all and doing my best to engage with it, I'm taking positive, active steps toward living the life I want for myself, one day at a time. Another is a series of steps devoted to my recovery. Every day, I have to wake up and admit that I am powerless over P and my life is unmanageable. Just by being conscious of that, I know that P is not a force I have room for in my life anymore and is not something I can safely engage with without my life being negatively impacted to the point of unmanageability. A third is acknowledging that a power greater than myself can help restore my sanity. For me, that power is a community of my peers in these issues to support me and to whom I am accountable to return that support. Hopefully this is a place I can practice rigorous honesty and be someone whom others feel they can be honest with.
Hopefully I'm not getting too ahead of myself, but wanted to identify myself and discharge some of the tension and squirreliness I'm feeling right now.
Not my first go at removing P use from my life by any means, but I'm a newcomer to this or any other community devoted to honestly addressing it and working through it. It's extremely difficult to talk about and "publicly" acknowledge; like many users on this forum (which I've been sort of sifting through for the last few weeks), I too am a master of compartmentalization and repression, so hopefully by doing this I can start to take some power away from this force that's run my thoughts for so many years.
To introduce myself and explain where I'm at, I was P-free for 25 days earlier this month (a modern-era record for me), although still allowing MO. I slipped and looked, and then a couple days later I slipped again and did a bit more than look, but still managed to mostly keep a lid on things. I felt truly terrible both times. I am presently on day eight of no PM(O) (absolutely no P; doing my best not to M, have not in 8 days and intend to continue; and the O is parenthetical because I'm single, not sexually-active and not looking, but if by happenstance I meet a person, I'm allowing it). I feel very much like I'm white-knuckling right now, so here I am trying to tell on myself and talk about it instead of doing it. I feel very sensitive, thin-skinned, touchy, like my moods could be shifted to any extreme at the touch of a feather. It feels messy, but a "good mess", and even if I don't succeed, I'm interested in seeing where this goes and how it affects me, and think this hiccup in my usual nature of just indulging whenever I feel the tap on my shoulder can only be a positive change.
I'm also a member of a support group for a separate substance abuse issue, and I'm trying to apply some of the principles I appreciate most from that in this area of my life. First is progress, not perfection. I'm lucky in that a slip here doesn't necessarily threaten as much harm to my life as a slip in my other program would mean, but by addressing this at all and doing my best to engage with it, I'm taking positive, active steps toward living the life I want for myself, one day at a time. Another is a series of steps devoted to my recovery. Every day, I have to wake up and admit that I am powerless over P and my life is unmanageable. Just by being conscious of that, I know that P is not a force I have room for in my life anymore and is not something I can safely engage with without my life being negatively impacted to the point of unmanageability. A third is acknowledging that a power greater than myself can help restore my sanity. For me, that power is a community of my peers in these issues to support me and to whom I am accountable to return that support. Hopefully this is a place I can practice rigorous honesty and be someone whom others feel they can be honest with.
Hopefully I'm not getting too ahead of myself, but wanted to identify myself and discharge some of the tension and squirreliness I'm feeling right now.