I am a 61 married man, atheist, and not fundamentally opposed to porn. I am also 100% sure I have PIED. Like a lot of other posts here I had an escalating porn addiction. It was somewhat manageable until I retired 4 years ago, after which I had a lot of free time to allocate to pixel pleasures. Edging etc. for hours on end. I stumbled upon these forums about 3 weeks ago. Reading the posts it was like someone was writing my story. Not sure if I even wanted to stop PMO but everything I read pointed to an addiction which I didn't like. I decided to try to stop PM and let the O part be from interactions with my wife. I also continued to read extensively about this addiction. The first 2 weeks were not a lot of fun as this was the first time in 50 years that I had not had an Orgasm every 1-4 days. Every time I got an urge I would read about this addiction which helped. Fortunately we travelled on holidays (last minute) during week 3. I still have some PIED but things are getting much better. Erection did not fail me and I was able to orgasm without a phone. Yeah!! During the 2 weeks I also read about Tantric/Karezza sex. Read about female orgasms and stimulation time etc. I was basically in a happy sexless marriage 2/year and I thought it was her problem. Looking back I realize I was not willing to put in the effort as I had a much easier, and always available sexual outlet. Only 3 weeks in and I know that future alone time will be difficult but I am determined to beat this. Committing that porn will not be in my future and MO will have to be reviewed from a more stable position. I had to post this (never posted anything ever) but I had to share this with others, specifically in my age group. Reading about younger PIED issues, change requires a lot a commitment, support etc. to get through this. For us older guys the road may not be as daunting as it appears. My wife loves the change in our relationship but I have not shared (future maybe) where I was. I will post in the near future and advise how things are going. Good luck to anyone who chooses to break their addiction.
2 WEEK NOFAP HELPS
- Thread starter Boom1
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Now 4 weeks no Porn. Lots of O's with wife. I have had some very mild discomfort in my groin so I MO (no porn /erotic stimulation) to get visual reference if any issues. No visual changes so will see if this gets better on its own. It was interesting MO as I typically edge with only electrical stimulation. Without porn edging was not entirely successful. It was like Porn is the fuel to sustain the edging. Without the constant fuel source, ie dopamine rush, edging was not sustainable. After 4 weeks of no porn I can honestly say that I don't have a craving for. Its helps that I have a willing sex partner so my sexual outlet is now her. Of course that was the point of this change in the first place. I will continue to keep you updated.
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J01
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Glad to hear of your improving relationship with your wife-a worthy goal indeed, just as you stated. Best wishes as you continue onwards.
Just wanted to give you an update. 47 days porn free. 1MO and a good sex life with my wife. Groin discomfort went away on its own so probably my body's natural readjustment. Not totally cured of my ED but each week it gets better. When I started this process I read about cuddling and to be honest I thought it was quite lame. About 3 weeks ago we started to sleep nude which is something we should have done years ago Now we cuddle mornings and night regardless if anything else is going to happen. I have to say it is very pleasurable on its own so I guess my brain is readjusting where it gets its dopamine from. I also want to amend my opening statement about not being fundamentally opposed to porn. I think when you have been using porn for so long you tend to normalize it. Honestly I think this industry is fueled by addicts like me and does not beneficially serve society.
maladaptive daydreamer
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Amazing, 47 days! Good job. I just barely survived my 5th day. Lol