Sudden loss of Libido and ED at 31? Questions and need for reassurance.

Hi guys. This is the first time I am posting on NoFap. I'm looking for some hope, comfort and to see if someone can relate to my experience. Thanks in advance for your help!

I'm 32 yo.

I started M approx 4 to 10 times a week since I'm 12 but NOT with P.

Started watching P at around 20 yo but I've NEVER been an addict. Sometimes I could PMO 3 times in a day and other times not open a P website for 2 weeks.

Started sleeping with girls when I was 18.

From 18 to 30 yo I NEVER had any sexual problem. Not even once. No ED, No PE. I slept with a fair amount of womens in my life and it went perfectly 100% of the time. I was in total control of my D*** and super confident.

However, 6 months ago, after a break up with my ex, I started watching P websites more intensely for about 3 months. Then I decied to stop P for a while and found out after 4/5 days without PMO that I wasn't horny like I usually am. A week after, I hooked up with a girl, that I found attractive, we went to her room and I got ED for the first time in my life at 31 yo.

It was one of the most embarassing moment of my life. The girl was very nice about it, we talked, joked about it and one hour later my D*** suddenly restarted working and we had successful sex.

Problem is I am a very ANXIOUS person by nature, and this first failure shocked me pretty bad... At the point that 2 months later, I spent the next date I had with another girl thinking "Will I get hard tonight? Maybe I'm never going to be able to make love to a woman again...". And of course when we came home, nothing worked... This girl didn't take it very well...

That's when my mind started spiralling "Do I have a physical problem ? Maybe I took a wrong gym supplement ? Could it be my BCAA ? I have Low Testosterone maybe..."

Since then (was two months ago), I spent my time on "checking" if my D*** works and putting more and more pressure on myself. If I watch P, I can get to 100% erection but I'm nowhere near as excited as I was before. If I only use my mind with no P, most of time I get to 80% and sometimes to 100% but I really have to focus and to overcome the anxiety.

What worries me the most is that I feel that my Libido completely crashed down suddenly. I know I don't have a physical problem (cause I got checked by a doctor and everything is in order) but I used to be horny ALL the time, just looking at girls and be turned on, but for the past few months, the sight of a gorgeous girl doesn't produce any physical response in me anymore and it's stressing me out like crazy!

Testosterone levels : Tests came back OK

Morning Woods : OK. But not a strong as 6 months ago

Random boners : Sometimes, but they are like 50% strong.

Wet dreams: Haven't had a wet or even a sexy dream since my problems started.

Psychological state : Very anxious but I've always been and it never had any impact on my sex life.

Libido : Zero. I feel romanticaly attracted to womens, but not physically. It's like I'm SEEING them, but I can't FEEL them. If I kiss a girl, I get a tingling sensation down there but that's it. If I have a naked girl in my bed, I KNOW she is beautiful but I don't FEEL like I want her.

Relationship to womens: I always had healthy relationships toward womens. Always respected them, never objectified them or had weird fetishes.

It almost feels like I started a FLATLINE before even starting NoFap... Is this possible? Could I have exhausted myself with too much M?

Can someone relate to this? Do you think that is "normal" and can be reversed?

Do you think only the 3 months of higher P consumption could have triggered this?

I started NoFap a week ago and I'm pretty much in the same state: zero urge to P or M or O.

Thanks so much for your help guys! I'm really freaking out right now. I really start to believe that my sex life is over for good...

I can relate, but after reading and watching all the success stories, I am 100 percent certain we can overcome

I find myself in the same problem. Started 3 days ago a no addiction change, went to the urologist spec and he said it is all mental.
Will let you know if something changes but in 3 days I see no progress whatsoever. I am in this flat line since months ago because after each intercorse the failures keep accumulating and the embarrassment riches all times highs.
I am also married so you can immagine.
The doctor said to me that because of anxiety my brain sends involuntarily messages to cut off the blood supply to the penis and it shut downs.
He suggested a period of "training" by making it hard and holding it longer and longer. Only after that period to prove insertion.
It is amazing to know how many people suffer from this thing. If you search it in different languages you find similar issues!
Take care

Dude I'm 10 years older than you and here's what I noticed.  I PMOed since I was about 12 years old and just about every day since the invention of the internet.  Been with to the same girl since I was 18 and have had incredible sex with her.  Even with the pmo habit my sex drive has always been really good.  Several months ago I discovered VR porn in it consumed all my free time.  I couldn't believe how good it made me feel.  Way better than regular porn.  After a couple months of it I noticed my orgasms weren't very intense.  Then I had my first experience with ED.  Thankfully my wife was very understanding.  It happened the next 4 or 5 times with my wife.  I was devastated.  I knew my dick worked because I could put on the vr glasses and binge for hours.  Went to the doc and I checked out fine.  I was desperate to fix myself so while doing my research I found out about the nofap benefits and YBOP.    Porn finally caught up with me so bad that I'd given myself PIED.    Doc gave me some dick pills.  I've been off PMO for 41 days now and I can feel my body returning  back to normal.  Hell, better really.
The wife and I have only been together twice since I quit PMO because our schedules are so different.  First time I needed the pill to perform.  She was cool with it because she got hers.  Second time I was good to go without the pill.  My orgasm the second time was crazy intense too.  I literally can't wait to get at her again.  She thinks it's performance anxiety.  She has no idea about my habbit.  Kind of a bummer something as satisfying as PMO can have such horrible consequences.  I'm 41 days clean now and because it's the cure to PIED, I'm not going back. 
I've read everyone recovers differently.  Some guys take a month.  Some guys take a year.  I don't think I'm completely out of the woods yet but I am seeing the results already