Moose said:
Can I have sex with the wife during a reboot?
It really depends on your own situation. Some guys need a break from everything - porn, fantasies, masturbation and sex - to start the recovery while others can have sex with their partner and still have a successful recovery. In which category you fall into, I do not know.
Personally, I have sex with my wife and I see that as a good thing. Having sex with a physical human being is the 'default brain setting' we want to achieve. That's what recovery is about, to reboot our brains to it's normal state where we are turned on by the touch of a woman, not a visual stimulation like porn. So if you can have sex with your wife, it can in some cases help your recovery because you are rewiring your brain towards your wife (normal state) instead of towards porn.
But as I said, it varies from person to person so it's very hard to advice you on this.