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Lero
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Hello, everyone!
BlueHeronFan said:Very true, willpower won't get us very far. For me, I really have to focus on taking care of myself emotionally and reacting in more healthy ways to triggers. It's not just about stopping PMO but about healing from mental and emotional habits that fuel addiction.
Keep it going: we're in this with you!
I used to think that PMO was just my uncontrolled appetite for nudity and sex
but I've started to learn that it always starts with me feeling down in the dumps about something. I always face the worst urges when I'm feeling sad or frustrated about something, so I've started paying way more attention to how I'm feeling and trying to take better care of myself.
Keep on going, and just focus on getting through one more day!
BlueHeronFan said:That's it, just keep learning about how the pieces fit together. I can't count the number of things that I thought were harmless because they weren't PMO but that were actually doing a lot of harm by contributing to my PMO problem. Recognizing the things that lead you to PMO is a huge step in the right direction
RebooterOne said:I have the same problem. I cannot drink alcohol not because I have problem with it but because it makes me relapse on PMO.
Try to stay away from alcohol but don't avoid socialising, meeting with friends or going to parties. You may stand out if everybody around is drinking and you are not but it isn't a bad thing.
Lero said:May 28
Urges: 1/10
Relapses: 0
I feel better than yesterday.
Thinking about quitting P is thinking about P. Thinking about urges is thinking about P. I'll try to take all those out of my mind and occupy it with what I have to do today.
BlueHeronFan said:Glad you're feeling better. And you're exactly right, focusing too much on quitting is still focusing on P. I've always done better when my schedule and mind are full of other good things. Since this isn't about just quitting but also about healing more generally, it's important to focus on building a quality life and not just willpowering through no more PMO.