Emerald Blue
Well-Known Member
Too often we find, it's one rule for our men, another rule for us. We see this throughout our partners porn/sex addiction.
I will give an example to begin with. I used to plan for romantic/sexy weekends at home, but these plans were inevitably derailed because he'd be on the porn sites first thing and then he'd have no interest in sex. One morning I knew he'd been up very early and using porn and I knew the chances of us having sex was zero, yet again. During the years of his addiction I masturbated occasionally but never when he was at home, but on this one occasion I did. He must have been aware of it although I remember trying to be quiet and not make the bedsprings creak etc, but somehow he knew. When I got up, I was immediately on the receiving end of an angry outburst, along the lines of me not needing him for anything. Excuse me?! This is the man who masturbates to internet porn when I'm asleep, when I'm out, when I say I'll be late, and yes, many many times when I'm at home. Most of the times he used porn, I'd be at home. Yes, I have walked in on him and caught him in the act, and walked in to see his dirty pile of used tissues, or frantically closing down his browser windows. And yes, I did catch the odd glimpse of what was obviously porn. But my one occasion of masturbation when he was at home ? no porn or anything else required ? he was so fucking angry. And boy, did he take it as a personal reflection on him. Quite obviously, he was entitled to his secret porn and masturbation sessions. I wasn't supposed to be sexual at all. Talk about double standards....
I will give an example to begin with. I used to plan for romantic/sexy weekends at home, but these plans were inevitably derailed because he'd be on the porn sites first thing and then he'd have no interest in sex. One morning I knew he'd been up very early and using porn and I knew the chances of us having sex was zero, yet again. During the years of his addiction I masturbated occasionally but never when he was at home, but on this one occasion I did. He must have been aware of it although I remember trying to be quiet and not make the bedsprings creak etc, but somehow he knew. When I got up, I was immediately on the receiving end of an angry outburst, along the lines of me not needing him for anything. Excuse me?! This is the man who masturbates to internet porn when I'm asleep, when I'm out, when I say I'll be late, and yes, many many times when I'm at home. Most of the times he used porn, I'd be at home. Yes, I have walked in on him and caught him in the act, and walked in to see his dirty pile of used tissues, or frantically closing down his browser windows. And yes, I did catch the odd glimpse of what was obviously porn. But my one occasion of masturbation when he was at home ? no porn or anything else required ? he was so fucking angry. And boy, did he take it as a personal reflection on him. Quite obviously, he was entitled to his secret porn and masturbation sessions. I wasn't supposed to be sexual at all. Talk about double standards....