ruuddejong
Active Member
I am now almost 2 months into my reboot and I am starting to have questions if/when this will ever result in me having normal libido and desire to have sex with my wife. If you haven't read my thread or one of my other threads about feeling numb towards wife, the problem is that, I have no desire to have sex with my wife at all. When I force myself to get naked and just do it, I can do it, though not 100%.
And after doing lots of reading, it was kind of clear that porn was the reason so I quit porn with the hope that normal libido will come back.
Last night, my wife asked can we have sex? And I immediately felt no desire at all and told her I was tired and cut it off before it even started. Then this question came to my mind:
Two months into my reboot, should I make myself have sex with my wife even when I don't really have any libido or desire (which is always the case) to rewire my brain or should I just continue my reboot and wait for it to come naturally (will it?) and then focus on rewiring?
And after doing lots of reading, it was kind of clear that porn was the reason so I quit porn with the hope that normal libido will come back.
Last night, my wife asked can we have sex? And I immediately felt no desire at all and told her I was tired and cut it off before it even started. Then this question came to my mind:
Two months into my reboot, should I make myself have sex with my wife even when I don't really have any libido or desire (which is always the case) to rewire my brain or should I just continue my reboot and wait for it to come naturally (will it?) and then focus on rewiring?