Dutch Courage
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Hello Everybody,
I?m a 35 year old male, working in financial services (trading) and living and enjoying my life in the Netherlands. Everything is going well except ED, probably PIED. Have been working around in various cities in the world for the last 12 years. In that period had no relationship (had no desire to be frank) no any intercourse with a female. During that time my life was centered solely around my career ? working long days (70 to 80 hours per week on average). Last year moved back to the Netherlands and started dating to get a lovely girlfriend. When I got intimate I noticed that I got very week erections and it took me ages to orgasm (most of the time I didn?t succeed). I also lose my erection standing up, etc. Went on the internet and found YBOP and this site and I think most of the symptoms apply to me very strongly.
Some background ? during my teens was quite interested in girls, lost virginity quite early on, got into masturbation probably when I was like 16 or so. I got introduced into porn probably at the age of 20. When I was working abroad I used porn 3-4 x a week, did not edge, and did not seek extreme forms of porn. What also did not help was my masturbation technique and I think I suffer from the death grip as well.
I experimented with some periods of abstinence to see what was wrong with me ? so I already did two successful NOFAP periods of 21 days and 28 days respectively. In both I suffered periods of flatline, horniness but also some physical recovery of my penis. Including some improvements in terms of sensitivity. But the biggest effect was that I don?t crave for porn, nor do I have flashbacks or thinking about old scenes yet I notice that erections (although week) are coming when just seeing a very attractive lady or girl. Also thoughts about these girls are not sexual ? rather about kissing/cuddling/romantic.
I think it is now time start a proper challenge ? 90 day streak. Hard mode! I registered here on the forum to keep a daily journal but also to get some advice and learn from other members.
Going through the forum my plan of attack will be:
- Use Man1Man oil daily to increase sensitivity.
- Plan my days full with either work, sports, family, friends and will try to take some hobbies.
- Daily journal.
I still travel quite a bit for my work so it might be possible that I skip a day or two sometimes.
Some other information ? Sports have become a big part of my life nowadays. Working abroad long days and nights was not very good for my health. So exactly I year ago I decided to lose weight and live and eat healthy. Ever since, I?ve lost 38kg?s and haven?t felt good in years. When I was young I was an avid cycler and I have taken up that hobby again and have set the goal that next year I want to ride a number of Tour de France stages (Alpe d Huez for example) in a proper time frame. So proper training for me. 3 times a week cycle training and 3 times a week powerlifting/cross fit training. Still in the process of losing weight ? another 18.6kg to go!
I will keep you updated on this as well.
Any more advice for me? Would really appreciate it!
I?m a 35 year old male, working in financial services (trading) and living and enjoying my life in the Netherlands. Everything is going well except ED, probably PIED. Have been working around in various cities in the world for the last 12 years. In that period had no relationship (had no desire to be frank) no any intercourse with a female. During that time my life was centered solely around my career ? working long days (70 to 80 hours per week on average). Last year moved back to the Netherlands and started dating to get a lovely girlfriend. When I got intimate I noticed that I got very week erections and it took me ages to orgasm (most of the time I didn?t succeed). I also lose my erection standing up, etc. Went on the internet and found YBOP and this site and I think most of the symptoms apply to me very strongly.
Some background ? during my teens was quite interested in girls, lost virginity quite early on, got into masturbation probably when I was like 16 or so. I got introduced into porn probably at the age of 20. When I was working abroad I used porn 3-4 x a week, did not edge, and did not seek extreme forms of porn. What also did not help was my masturbation technique and I think I suffer from the death grip as well.
I experimented with some periods of abstinence to see what was wrong with me ? so I already did two successful NOFAP periods of 21 days and 28 days respectively. In both I suffered periods of flatline, horniness but also some physical recovery of my penis. Including some improvements in terms of sensitivity. But the biggest effect was that I don?t crave for porn, nor do I have flashbacks or thinking about old scenes yet I notice that erections (although week) are coming when just seeing a very attractive lady or girl. Also thoughts about these girls are not sexual ? rather about kissing/cuddling/romantic.
I think it is now time start a proper challenge ? 90 day streak. Hard mode! I registered here on the forum to keep a daily journal but also to get some advice and learn from other members.
Going through the forum my plan of attack will be:
- Use Man1Man oil daily to increase sensitivity.
- Plan my days full with either work, sports, family, friends and will try to take some hobbies.
- Daily journal.
I still travel quite a bit for my work so it might be possible that I skip a day or two sometimes.
Some other information ? Sports have become a big part of my life nowadays. Working abroad long days and nights was not very good for my health. So exactly I year ago I decided to lose weight and live and eat healthy. Ever since, I?ve lost 38kg?s and haven?t felt good in years. When I was young I was an avid cycler and I have taken up that hobby again and have set the goal that next year I want to ride a number of Tour de France stages (Alpe d Huez for example) in a proper time frame. So proper training for me. 3 times a week cycle training and 3 times a week powerlifting/cross fit training. Still in the process of losing weight ? another 18.6kg to go!
I will keep you updated on this as well.
Any more advice for me? Would really appreciate it!