Quercus
Member
Had sex with my wife this morning and, once again, didn't orgasm although I enjoyed it immensely. Came back to my private office (separate building behind our house) and did a search on the effects of porn on "normal" sex lives... and here I am!
About 11 years ago, my wife was taken off the pill (she's a bit older than me) and WHAMMO... menopause and no more libido. Overnight. She was only on the pill to control her periods. We've tried many things over the years - she's missed sex, too - but none of them worked. Seriously, we had sex three times in 10 years... and I remember everyone of them. I still love(d) her very much during all that time and would never leave her because I don't blame her, she wanted her sex life back, too. As a result, I turned to internet porn. Over the 10 years + it was a pretty regular thing, multiple times a week and had progressed into some dark areas.
We had spoken to our PCP and other doctors about the sex problem but nobody seemed to take it seriously. My wife had HRT for a short time but didn't seem to help. It's like, it's "normal" for these old people to just not have sex anymore so don't worry about it. Then about three months our PCP got interested in hormone pellets and we both had them inserted into our butts. HOLY CRAP I didn't feel much difference but my wife made a 180 degree turnaround! I could barely keep up with her in the bedroom. It wasn't until then that the effects of too much porn stimulation became apparent. I literally enjoy her multiple orgasms enough to call it good but I recognized pretty early on that I had retrained my brain and wasn't functioning properly anymore. This was confirmed by watching a couple of the videos, one from this website and one from TED. I could masturbate with her or by myself but no orgasm through normal sex as before.
Just this morning, after learning all this new info, I've deleted my porn sites and swore off porn! I'm so thankful to have found this information although I was kinda suspecting this was the case already.
Not sure what benefits there are for no masturbation but we'll see. That's a practice that I've had somewhere in the neighborhood of 50 years so not sure about that one.
Thanks!
About 11 years ago, my wife was taken off the pill (she's a bit older than me) and WHAMMO... menopause and no more libido. Overnight. She was only on the pill to control her periods. We've tried many things over the years - she's missed sex, too - but none of them worked. Seriously, we had sex three times in 10 years... and I remember everyone of them. I still love(d) her very much during all that time and would never leave her because I don't blame her, she wanted her sex life back, too. As a result, I turned to internet porn. Over the 10 years + it was a pretty regular thing, multiple times a week and had progressed into some dark areas.
We had spoken to our PCP and other doctors about the sex problem but nobody seemed to take it seriously. My wife had HRT for a short time but didn't seem to help. It's like, it's "normal" for these old people to just not have sex anymore so don't worry about it. Then about three months our PCP got interested in hormone pellets and we both had them inserted into our butts. HOLY CRAP I didn't feel much difference but my wife made a 180 degree turnaround! I could barely keep up with her in the bedroom. It wasn't until then that the effects of too much porn stimulation became apparent. I literally enjoy her multiple orgasms enough to call it good but I recognized pretty early on that I had retrained my brain and wasn't functioning properly anymore. This was confirmed by watching a couple of the videos, one from this website and one from TED. I could masturbate with her or by myself but no orgasm through normal sex as before.
Just this morning, after learning all this new info, I've deleted my porn sites and swore off porn! I'm so thankful to have found this information although I was kinda suspecting this was the case already.
Not sure what benefits there are for no masturbation but we'll see. That's a practice that I've had somewhere in the neighborhood of 50 years so not sure about that one.
Thanks!