I wonder if maybe part of the process of kicking porn addiction is letting go of distinguishing other types of sex from more conventional types of sex. Sex is sex. And it's good to appreciate all kinds, not just the kinkier stuff.
Sometimes, vanilla is the best choice because it's great all by itself. That's why it's been around for so long and has never gone out of style. It's a classic because it's simple and great. So is basic sex. From a woman's perspective, the ideal man is a guy who is great at and loves vanilla sex just as much as "Everything But The..."
I think guys tend to get bored easily and it's on to the next thing, even with sex. I think that's why women really appreciate a guy who takes pleasure in vanilla sex. It shows a lack of anxiety, an appreciation for the basic and the classic; a guy who doesn't need anything crazy because he already feels like what he's getting is "enough" and is "special."
That's why a lot of women feel so betrayed when we find out our boyfriends or husbands are relying on porn to get off behind our backs. We feel unappreciated, that our guys don't like what we like anymore, and that we're not enough.
I think the longer you work on your reboot and think about these things, the more you'll start to see the bigger picture and that urge for Everything But The will fade and you'll be jonesing more for vanilla than ever. That's been my bf's experience so far and we're both so much happier already. I hope the same happens for you.