Hello all,
I have been a frequent reader over the past year of RN, YBOP but never actually posted anything. My history is similar to pretty much all of you who are in their early 40s (I am 43) so I will skip that part. One thing that might be different that a lot of the journal's entry I am reading here is I don't have any physical issues (eg ED...). I have been with my wife for 15 years and we have 3 kids, our sex life is very frequent & satisfying for both of us. But for some reason I always end up going back to the computer.
Now even though I do not have any physical issues and can confirm that my head is definitely messed up because of those +/- 30 years of porn. The fact that I don't have any issues physically I think plays against me because I don't have the "urgency" to do something about it. I have tried over the last year to reboot more or less seriously at times without any form of actual success. The longer I have gone without porn during that time was 13 days. Depending of what's going on in my life, sometimes I PMO once a day for a week and then go 3 weeks where I PMO 2 times each week. So the usage is sometimes more heavy than other times. But then again how do you really quantify when 1 time is 1 time too many.
There are 2 things that bothers me about this site that hopefully that will change by starting my own journal:
1) I sometime feel that when I come on this site and do some reading it actually act as a trigger which is kind of weird to say. I recall a few times where I went directly from RN to my usual porn sites and just started..... Again I am fully aware that (as I mentioned above) the seriousness of my reboot was not always there and didn't have the right "mindset".
2) I sometime feel not motivated when I see journal entries that were started 2 years ago and when you look at the counter it says PMO free since 2 days! I know it's a hard and winding road and relapses occur and you have to get back up on the saddle and all the clich? that goes with that.....but sometimes it can get depressing if you read anything else than the success stories section.
These are the 2 things that I am currently worried about and I hope that the exercise of writing in my journal will help me out. I have been working on my mindset for a few days now and, like when I successfully quit smoking 10 years ago, I smoked my last cigarette this morning....that's it!
Regards,
I have been a frequent reader over the past year of RN, YBOP but never actually posted anything. My history is similar to pretty much all of you who are in their early 40s (I am 43) so I will skip that part. One thing that might be different that a lot of the journal's entry I am reading here is I don't have any physical issues (eg ED...). I have been with my wife for 15 years and we have 3 kids, our sex life is very frequent & satisfying for both of us. But for some reason I always end up going back to the computer.
Now even though I do not have any physical issues and can confirm that my head is definitely messed up because of those +/- 30 years of porn. The fact that I don't have any issues physically I think plays against me because I don't have the "urgency" to do something about it. I have tried over the last year to reboot more or less seriously at times without any form of actual success. The longer I have gone without porn during that time was 13 days. Depending of what's going on in my life, sometimes I PMO once a day for a week and then go 3 weeks where I PMO 2 times each week. So the usage is sometimes more heavy than other times. But then again how do you really quantify when 1 time is 1 time too many.
There are 2 things that bothers me about this site that hopefully that will change by starting my own journal:
1) I sometime feel that when I come on this site and do some reading it actually act as a trigger which is kind of weird to say. I recall a few times where I went directly from RN to my usual porn sites and just started..... Again I am fully aware that (as I mentioned above) the seriousness of my reboot was not always there and didn't have the right "mindset".
2) I sometime feel not motivated when I see journal entries that were started 2 years ago and when you look at the counter it says PMO free since 2 days! I know it's a hard and winding road and relapses occur and you have to get back up on the saddle and all the clich? that goes with that.....but sometimes it can get depressing if you read anything else than the success stories section.
These are the 2 things that I am currently worried about and I hope that the exercise of writing in my journal will help me out. I have been working on my mindset for a few days now and, like when I successfully quit smoking 10 years ago, I smoked my last cigarette this morning....that's it!
Regards,