Anothertry
Active Member
Hi All,
Think I'll keep this post short and sweet. I've been on this forum a couple of times before, and have used several other things in my journey to get free of P, icluding recovery groups, 12 step and otherwise, and therapy.
I have definitely made progress- I would say I was a real chronic addict. If I had an internet connected screen in front of me, I would find it almost impossible not to look at P. I would look at it in public libraries, where I am writing this now. In cafes. At work. I am lucky - very lucky, frankly, - not to have lost my job because of it. I PMO'd at work many times. These days, I have good enough boundaries never to look at P in a public place, and only very infrequently do my other worst P related habit, which is to stay up all night watching it, even when I have work the next day. it is still a regular part of my week however - I might watch it two or three times a week. This can sometimes be for hours at a time, which leaves me feeling just awful afterwards.
The reason I am back now, however, is that I have just moved in with my girlfriend. She is great by the way - she knows about my problem, is understanding about it, and gently encouraging of my efforts to change it. She uses kind humour rather than anger and shame in talking about it, which actually really helps. So it feels, frankly like this new situation is an opportunity to kick the old habit for good.
My commitment at the moment is to come to this site for around 30 minutes whenever I am on the computer by myself this week, to reflect on my habits, patterns and triggers and see how I can change them.
Be great to have companionship on the journey, and feedback, but I won't promise to respond to every suggestion people make. Hope you won't take offence at that, but bear in mind I have been round the block on this issue a few times. I don't really see the point of rehashing conversations I have had dozens of times about what I have tried/not-tried and what 'The One and True Path of All Spiritually-Enlightened Non-PMO'ers' is....I basically want this blog to be a true non-bullshit account of what is happening for me on this issue day to day, so that I can work out how to deal with triggers, and I also want this journal to be a source of both giving and recieving encouragement from others.
I think I have made a good start in deciding to come to the library to do computer work today. Last week I got really triggered working at home on my own, and PMo'd three times in a day. So this is progress! Onwards and upwards!
Think I'll keep this post short and sweet. I've been on this forum a couple of times before, and have used several other things in my journey to get free of P, icluding recovery groups, 12 step and otherwise, and therapy.
I have definitely made progress- I would say I was a real chronic addict. If I had an internet connected screen in front of me, I would find it almost impossible not to look at P. I would look at it in public libraries, where I am writing this now. In cafes. At work. I am lucky - very lucky, frankly, - not to have lost my job because of it. I PMO'd at work many times. These days, I have good enough boundaries never to look at P in a public place, and only very infrequently do my other worst P related habit, which is to stay up all night watching it, even when I have work the next day. it is still a regular part of my week however - I might watch it two or three times a week. This can sometimes be for hours at a time, which leaves me feeling just awful afterwards.
The reason I am back now, however, is that I have just moved in with my girlfriend. She is great by the way - she knows about my problem, is understanding about it, and gently encouraging of my efforts to change it. She uses kind humour rather than anger and shame in talking about it, which actually really helps. So it feels, frankly like this new situation is an opportunity to kick the old habit for good.
My commitment at the moment is to come to this site for around 30 minutes whenever I am on the computer by myself this week, to reflect on my habits, patterns and triggers and see how I can change them.
Be great to have companionship on the journey, and feedback, but I won't promise to respond to every suggestion people make. Hope you won't take offence at that, but bear in mind I have been round the block on this issue a few times. I don't really see the point of rehashing conversations I have had dozens of times about what I have tried/not-tried and what 'The One and True Path of All Spiritually-Enlightened Non-PMO'ers' is....I basically want this blog to be a true non-bullshit account of what is happening for me on this issue day to day, so that I can work out how to deal with triggers, and I also want this journal to be a source of both giving and recieving encouragement from others.
I think I have made a good start in deciding to come to the library to do computer work today. Last week I got really triggered working at home on my own, and PMo'd three times in a day. So this is progress! Onwards and upwards!