I have been addicted to porn since my early teens. I am 45 years old and have come to realize about three or four years ago that porn is a problem. In 2016 I seek counselling about the addiction and and came across this site and started my reboot. I believe my first reboot lasted about a month or so before I relapsed, anyway my longest streak was 200 days and then I had relapsed. Currently my day streak is at 139 days.
A little bit about myself. I am married with kids and been married for 12 years. About three or four years ago I had an affair on my wife and she found out. We are still together and we are working on this together. She is aware of my porn addiction and is supportive. We have been in counselling for the last three years. We have not been intimate in about five years. Everything is good currently in our marriage right now, we get along, we talk, we spend time together, there?s just no intimacy. She is having troubles with this due to the affair, which I completely understand. At times she blames the affair on her self, and I reassured her every time it was not her fault and it was mine.
My situation now is I do not want to relapse again. I?m at about 140 days now and I can?t help myself but I am very horny, I do not want to go back to porn and get off. Any suggestions on what to do. I have spoken to other people on different group pages about this and they tell me to talk to my wife about it, and I have recently. I?m not sure if I should masturbate in front of her or do it alone or have her do it for me or none of them. I?m afraid if I do nothing I will end up back on the computer and on the porn.
A little bit about myself. I am married with kids and been married for 12 years. About three or four years ago I had an affair on my wife and she found out. We are still together and we are working on this together. She is aware of my porn addiction and is supportive. We have been in counselling for the last three years. We have not been intimate in about five years. Everything is good currently in our marriage right now, we get along, we talk, we spend time together, there?s just no intimacy. She is having troubles with this due to the affair, which I completely understand. At times she blames the affair on her self, and I reassured her every time it was not her fault and it was mine.
My situation now is I do not want to relapse again. I?m at about 140 days now and I can?t help myself but I am very horny, I do not want to go back to porn and get off. Any suggestions on what to do. I have spoken to other people on different group pages about this and they tell me to talk to my wife about it, and I have recently. I?m not sure if I should masturbate in front of her or do it alone or have her do it for me or none of them. I?m afraid if I do nothing I will end up back on the computer and on the porn.