I'm in my mid 30s. Got addicted to P and M from my teens. Got married in my mid 20s, divorced around 5 years later. Reading other posts it seems my issues are worse then most. I struggle to get an errection with a girl but have no issue getting an errection masturbating to P. I was dating a girl for a short time and she called it off because I couldn't perform. I've decided to NP, NF and got blood tests to see where my problem lie.
So my journey has started
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benb
Member
Hi batman (wow, first time i'm actually able to say that!),
As I understand it, you are just recently divorced. Do you think your mariage ended (in part) because of your P consumption?
Why do you say that your issues are worst? They certainly don't seem hopeless. I would say that PIED is quite common around here: as a rough estimation, an average of 1 addict out of 3 may have brought up PIED at one time or another. I would say that your problem has been encountered before, and can surely be resolve with motivation and all the resources available here
Safe journey!
As I understand it, you are just recently divorced. Do you think your mariage ended (in part) because of your P consumption?
Why do you say that your issues are worst? They certainly don't seem hopeless. I would say that PIED is quite common around here: as a rough estimation, an average of 1 addict out of 3 may have brought up PIED at one time or another. I would say that your problem has been encountered before, and can surely be resolve with motivation and all the resources available here
Safe journey!
Fappy
Respected Member
Hi! Jimminy Jilickers Batman!
No, but its great that youre here. And although porn has fucked you up to the point of impotence and crippling imasculinity, youve now found the cure! That is a cause for celebration because a lot of guys go through their lives without even knowing why theyve got the floppies and what to do about it! So relax, youll be fine now.
(PS. is your name a reference to wanking? Where Im from "bat" means "toss" or "wank". Eg, "HAving a bat." Please feel free to ignore this question...)
No, but its great that youre here. And although porn has fucked you up to the point of impotence and crippling imasculinity, youve now found the cure! That is a cause for celebration because a lot of guys go through their lives without even knowing why theyve got the floppies and what to do about it! So relax, youll be fine now.
(PS. is your name a reference to wanking? Where Im from "bat" means "toss" or "wank". Eg, "HAving a bat." Please feel free to ignore this question...)
ShadeTrenicin
Well-Known Member
Hey Dark Knight
Welcome to the forum. You've taken a very important (if not the most important) step in dealing with your addiction. You will find a great community here with likeminded people. Theres tons of tips, tricks and experiences to be found here in other peoples threads.
The question we know have to ask is; what is your current situation? How long have you been without PMO (Porn Masturbation Orgasm) and about the erectile problems; the bad news is that you've got erectile problems, the better news is that it will go away when you quit porn. It cannot be said with certainty how long it will take, but it will go away. More good news; you are not alone in having PIED (Porn Induced Erectile Disfunction) 1 in 3 people on here have had some form of it. If you scroll through the first two pages of the 30-39 section you will find at least one thread with PIED in the title.
At the moment it may seem that it seems worse, but one must not compare your situation with others. You are here to help yourself and we are here to provide support and if you're open for it, tips and tricks. Watch this nice video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU and just get familiar with rebooting.
For the coming time it will be imporant to determine where you are at and what your triggers are to PMO. But the primary first short term goal is to do a hard reboot; this means NO Porn, NO masturbation at all for an X amount of days (mostly 30, 60, 90) days.
Good luck my friend
Welcome to the forum. You've taken a very important (if not the most important) step in dealing with your addiction. You will find a great community here with likeminded people. Theres tons of tips, tricks and experiences to be found here in other peoples threads.
The question we know have to ask is; what is your current situation? How long have you been without PMO (Porn Masturbation Orgasm) and about the erectile problems; the bad news is that you've got erectile problems, the better news is that it will go away when you quit porn. It cannot be said with certainty how long it will take, but it will go away. More good news; you are not alone in having PIED (Porn Induced Erectile Disfunction) 1 in 3 people on here have had some form of it. If you scroll through the first two pages of the 30-39 section you will find at least one thread with PIED in the title.
At the moment it may seem that it seems worse, but one must not compare your situation with others. You are here to help yourself and we are here to provide support and if you're open for it, tips and tricks. Watch this nice video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU and just get familiar with rebooting.
For the coming time it will be imporant to determine where you are at and what your triggers are to PMO. But the primary first short term goal is to do a hard reboot; this means NO Porn, NO masturbation at all for an X amount of days (mostly 30, 60, 90) days.
Good luck my friend
Hey Batman,
I know it was something I hid for a very long time and now that it has been exposed, I didn't admit it. My stress level is actually a lot less. I know it was terrifying for me to speak to someone in person about this, but I have had a few meetings with someone that is in my life now to help. It has been incredibly hard to start the conversation with someone, but the start is the only hard part. It has helped me to just talk to an actual person, but writing here helps too. I also find that occupying the time I would normally look at P with something else is helpful to me as well, keeps me distracted so I don't fall as easily as I could. Best of luck to you!
I know it was something I hid for a very long time and now that it has been exposed, I didn't admit it. My stress level is actually a lot less. I know it was terrifying for me to speak to someone in person about this, but I have had a few meetings with someone that is in my life now to help. It has been incredibly hard to start the conversation with someone, but the start is the only hard part. It has helped me to just talk to an actual person, but writing here helps too. I also find that occupying the time I would normally look at P with something else is helpful to me as well, keeps me distracted so I don't fall as easily as I could. Best of luck to you!
Thank you for your replies ShadeTrenicin and BuckeyeGuy -
I have not watched porn since the day I did research and decided to quit PMO - 13 days. I have been waking up with morning hardness that quickly dissipate. I have strong will power. I decided nearly 2 years to quit alcohol because I am prone to headaches. I can count on one hand the amount of times I've had an occasional drink.
I have not watched porn since the day I did research and decided to quit PMO - 13 days. I have been waking up with morning hardness that quickly dissipate. I have strong will power. I decided nearly 2 years to quit alcohol because I am prone to headaches. I can count on one hand the amount of times I've had an occasional drink.
lukeman3000
Member
Hey batman -
Just wanted to say I'm on day 13, myself. What kind of things have you noticed since quitting?
For me I've experienced mood swings, poor sleep (though this has been going on for awhile), and some pretty intense flashbacks.
Just wanted to say I'm on day 13, myself. What kind of things have you noticed since quitting?
For me I've experienced mood swings, poor sleep (though this has been going on for awhile), and some pretty intense flashbacks.
batman99 said:
Hi Batman, nice to meet you.
Good on you if you have the will power to quit this! But know that at the end of the day, it's not about will power- or at least you want to hang your hat on will power alone.
It's a matter mostly of habit change, and building your life around rearranging whatever habits typically led you to PMO.
Will power alone can lead to what we call 'white-knuckling', where you're gritting your teeth out of sheer will power. This approach may eventually fail. I don't doubt that you have a strong will, but be careful to build around that determination where you have to depend less on that, and more on shifting your focus.
Be well.
camilocastro97
New Member
soy camilo estoy a punto de cumplir 24 a?os , han pasado ya casi 10 a?os desde que vi mis primeras pel?culas porno en cd , realmente siento que poco a poco me fui llenando de adicciones en mi vida pasando por el cannabis y drogas farmacol?gicas que ya supere y no tengo ning?n problema con ellas en estos momentos ,ya puedo decir que despu?s de 3 a?os est?n superadas todas ellas.
pero mi mayor problema comparti?ndoles a todos ac? la adicci?n a la pornograf?a, siento que es la sombra que me ha perseguido durante todo mi ciclo de adolescencia y mi etapa de emancipaci?n , ahora me siento muy atrapado porque utilizo redes sociales para trabajar y medios electr?nicos para ello, y no he podido dejarla aun , apenas paso 2 o una semana cuando mucho y luego recaigo y con mayor fuerza ,realmente siento que me esta ganado la batalla. no he hablado con ninguna psic?loga ni con nadie acerca de este tema y me siento solo, siento que me estoy perdiendo de la mejor etapa de mi vida , adem?s que por decirlo as? estoy en bancarrota econ?mica. si podemos charlar en alg?n momento me gustar?a compartirles lo que he pasado y poder colaborarnos para buscar una soluci?n a este gran problema y esta terrible adicci?n.
pero mi mayor problema comparti?ndoles a todos ac? la adicci?n a la pornograf?a, siento que es la sombra que me ha perseguido durante todo mi ciclo de adolescencia y mi etapa de emancipaci?n , ahora me siento muy atrapado porque utilizo redes sociales para trabajar y medios electr?nicos para ello, y no he podido dejarla aun , apenas paso 2 o una semana cuando mucho y luego recaigo y con mayor fuerza ,realmente siento que me esta ganado la batalla. no he hablado con ninguna psic?loga ni con nadie acerca de este tema y me siento solo, siento que me estoy perdiendo de la mejor etapa de mi vida , adem?s que por decirlo as? estoy en bancarrota econ?mica. si podemos charlar en alg?n momento me gustar?a compartirles lo que he pasado y poder colaborarnos para buscar una soluci?n a este gran problema y esta terrible adicci?n.
lukeman3000
Member
camilocastro97 said:
Hola Camilo; Encantada de conocerte. Estoy usando el traductor de Google, as? que tenlo en cuenta jaja. Es genial saber que ya ha superado adicciones tan fuertes en su vida, eso demuestra que tiene un car?cter fuerte. He visto a mucha gente decir que para ellos es m?s dif?cil dejar la pornograf?a que cualquier otra sustancia, as? que no est?s solo en esta lucha. ?Has le?do "Your Brain on Porn" (Tu cerebro en la pornografia)? Te recomiendo mucho que lo leas. Cuanto m?s puedas informarte sobre esta adicci?n, m?s poder tendr?s sobre ella. Ser? m?s f?cil decir "no" cuando tenga una mayor comprensi?n de las muchas formas en que la pornograf?a afecta negativamente su cerebro y su bienestar general desde un nivel psicol?gico, f?sico y neurol?gico. El libro "Your Brain on Porn" cubre todo esto en detalle.
Does anyone know if there are Spanish-speaking forums for this stuff?
Good job in not giving in to the urges to MO, batman! The more you say 'No' to your urges, the more weak they become, and the stronger you become.
Enjoy your days off!
Enjoy your days off!
ShadeTrenicin
Well-Known Member
^Orbiter said:
Agree, BUT be weary of complacency. The first phase is difficult yes, BUT you have to stay on your guard still.
Other than that; great going Batman! Excellent job.
how are you feeling?
Take care, I am rooting for you
Day 36 - I felt lonely and quite down. I was browsing twitch (online streaming platform) and came across a female streamer who had very provocative pictures on her instagram and give in to MO so back to day 1. I have been getting morning wood very regularly - it's tough not been able to do something with it (if that makes sense).
so back to day 1. I have been getting morning wood very regularly - it's tough not been able to do something with it (if that makes sense).