Hello everyone,
First of all, I'm not a native english speaker. Sorry for any mispelling.
First diary, not first attempt to reboot, (i think it's the 3rd, I don't know, I was not counting properly with lots of relapses, I wasn't sure I could pass the first week ). But now it's definitly the first time in my life since I started PMO that I'm 15 days without It and still counting. I wanted so bad to relapse today, so I'm here writing to not do it.
I'll be 30 in june. I PMO since 13 or 14. I live with my girlfriend for 3 years now, but we are together for 11 years. She is the only girl I ever had sex, and for some years I thought that maybe porn had something to do with that. I acknowledge now that porn is a much previous problem and that I never had sex with her without fantasizing with porn, and even when I didn't want it I couldn't stop. Only now with YBOP I know why. I felt so relieved that I found this site, relieved to understand my problem as an addiction shared by so many people, and to know that my ED is PIED, and that it can be reversed!
I told my girlfriend about my addiction. She is very suportive for me to stop. Finally I don't have something to hide from her. Specially now, that we are going through a hell of problems that are not going to settle soon, and they rocketed my anxiety and PMO to the limit.
I will put then in a list, because its better to articulate:
1- Her mother have an advanced esophagus cancer. We are dealing with it, but there is no hope of recovery.
2- My girlfriend is fighting a moderate depression for 4 years now, before her mother's illness. She had a tough job for 10 years as a teacher in a very poor and dangerous community, she had to travel everyday in very precarious public transportation, with lots of traffic and accidents every week on the road, she also lived in many places when trying to finish college, some places with shooting. She brokedown and spent the last years unemployed and even incapable of getting out of home. She had some improvements with a psychiatrist, and she even started an online course.
3- I'm in the middle of my doctorate, and I have to overcome my brainfog, I can't delay to write my thesis anymore. We are living with my scholarship and with my father's suport. And I want/need to find a job before the last year of scholarship finishes.
4- I have my share of family problems. Both my mother and my brother have bypolar affective disorder. My mother doesn't manifest it for many years now. But my brother started to have crises by the end of highschool.
5 ? I owe some money to the bank. I'm trying to re-organize my finances, actually, all my life.
6 ? I have a compulsion for videogame too. I've not played it for over a month. It's anoying, but not near so hard to stop as PMO.
Even so, I think I have some good resorces to deal with those problems :
1- I (and all my family) had psycological care for half of my life. So I think I have some emotional resorces to deal with suffering. I'm not panicking, and I don't want to preocupy any reader more than usual. I'm telling those things to give you information about me, and because they are triggers for my PMO.
2 ? I started to workout everyday. (for two months now)
3 ? I have two suportive friends that I can talk about those things.
I think it covers all for today. I imagine that this craving got worse because friday, 29/05 was the first time we had sex during my reboot atempt. (Actually, it was the first time for a long time) It was better than previously. My ED and anxiety had some improvement, but sensitiviness was not so great. I didn't got O, but she did, and it was nice.
At least, now that i finished this text I'm not craving so much anymore. Trying to write in English is a good way to distract me. I'm taking one day at a time.
Thank you for your reading and I wish we all have improvements with our lives.
First of all, I'm not a native english speaker. Sorry for any mispelling.
First diary, not first attempt to reboot, (i think it's the 3rd, I don't know, I was not counting properly with lots of relapses, I wasn't sure I could pass the first week ). But now it's definitly the first time in my life since I started PMO that I'm 15 days without It and still counting. I wanted so bad to relapse today, so I'm here writing to not do it.
I'll be 30 in june. I PMO since 13 or 14. I live with my girlfriend for 3 years now, but we are together for 11 years. She is the only girl I ever had sex, and for some years I thought that maybe porn had something to do with that. I acknowledge now that porn is a much previous problem and that I never had sex with her without fantasizing with porn, and even when I didn't want it I couldn't stop. Only now with YBOP I know why. I felt so relieved that I found this site, relieved to understand my problem as an addiction shared by so many people, and to know that my ED is PIED, and that it can be reversed!
I told my girlfriend about my addiction. She is very suportive for me to stop. Finally I don't have something to hide from her. Specially now, that we are going through a hell of problems that are not going to settle soon, and they rocketed my anxiety and PMO to the limit.
I will put then in a list, because its better to articulate:
1- Her mother have an advanced esophagus cancer. We are dealing with it, but there is no hope of recovery.
2- My girlfriend is fighting a moderate depression for 4 years now, before her mother's illness. She had a tough job for 10 years as a teacher in a very poor and dangerous community, she had to travel everyday in very precarious public transportation, with lots of traffic and accidents every week on the road, she also lived in many places when trying to finish college, some places with shooting. She brokedown and spent the last years unemployed and even incapable of getting out of home. She had some improvements with a psychiatrist, and she even started an online course.
3- I'm in the middle of my doctorate, and I have to overcome my brainfog, I can't delay to write my thesis anymore. We are living with my scholarship and with my father's suport. And I want/need to find a job before the last year of scholarship finishes.
4- I have my share of family problems. Both my mother and my brother have bypolar affective disorder. My mother doesn't manifest it for many years now. But my brother started to have crises by the end of highschool.
5 ? I owe some money to the bank. I'm trying to re-organize my finances, actually, all my life.
6 ? I have a compulsion for videogame too. I've not played it for over a month. It's anoying, but not near so hard to stop as PMO.
Even so, I think I have some good resorces to deal with those problems :
1- I (and all my family) had psycological care for half of my life. So I think I have some emotional resorces to deal with suffering. I'm not panicking, and I don't want to preocupy any reader more than usual. I'm telling those things to give you information about me, and because they are triggers for my PMO.
2 ? I started to workout everyday. (for two months now)
3 ? I have two suportive friends that I can talk about those things.
I think it covers all for today. I imagine that this craving got worse because friday, 29/05 was the first time we had sex during my reboot atempt. (Actually, it was the first time for a long time) It was better than previously. My ED and anxiety had some improvement, but sensitiviness was not so great. I didn't got O, but she did, and it was nice.
At least, now that i finished this text I'm not craving so much anymore. Trying to write in English is a good way to distract me. I'm taking one day at a time.
Thank you for your reading and I wish we all have improvements with our lives.