Emerald Blue
Well-Known Member
Porn Free Radio episode 144
Your Relationship Is Not Your Recovery
http://www.podbean.com/podcast-detail/43txf-388e1/Pornfree-Radio
orn-Addiction-%7C-Recovery-%7C-Help-%7C-Pornography-Freedom
Also available on iTunes and Apple podcast app
This is a podcast for porn addicts in recovery rather than for partners but it?s still worth listening to, especially those episodes that deal with partners and relationships. Episode 144 is one that I?d really recommend for addicts and partners who are in a relationship affected by porn addiction.
The most important concept discussed in this podcast is the difference between the addict?s recovery and the recovery of the relationship. That these are two entirely different strands of recovery. I?d also like to add that the partner?s healing is a third strand to recovery but this isn?t touched upon in this podcast, but we do draw this distinction from time to time on this forum.
I feel that it?s very important for addicts and partners to recognise that the recovery of the relationship is not the same thing as the addict successfully quitting porn, nor is it necessarily dependent on the addict quitting porn. I sometimes sense that some partners, when they first face up to the reality of their husband?s porn addiction fall into the very understandable mindset of ?if he quits porn and doesn?t relapse, all will be well between us?.
This podcast explains to addicts (not partners) the distinction between the addict?s recovery and the relationship, and very importantly, that acting out with porn is neither a consequence of a partner?s sexual availability/unavailability nor is it a substitute for a sexual relationship. Also, that fixing the porn habit alone doesn?t actually address the issues in the relationship. Both need work. In fact, I would say that the partner?s healing is the third element that needs its own TLC too.
Hope this helps some people here.
Your Relationship Is Not Your Recovery
http://www.podbean.com/podcast-detail/43txf-388e1/Pornfree-Radio
orn-Addiction-%7C-Recovery-%7C-Help-%7C-Pornography-FreedomAlso available on iTunes and Apple podcast app
This is a podcast for porn addicts in recovery rather than for partners but it?s still worth listening to, especially those episodes that deal with partners and relationships. Episode 144 is one that I?d really recommend for addicts and partners who are in a relationship affected by porn addiction.
The most important concept discussed in this podcast is the difference between the addict?s recovery and the recovery of the relationship. That these are two entirely different strands of recovery. I?d also like to add that the partner?s healing is a third strand to recovery but this isn?t touched upon in this podcast, but we do draw this distinction from time to time on this forum.
I feel that it?s very important for addicts and partners to recognise that the recovery of the relationship is not the same thing as the addict successfully quitting porn, nor is it necessarily dependent on the addict quitting porn. I sometimes sense that some partners, when they first face up to the reality of their husband?s porn addiction fall into the very understandable mindset of ?if he quits porn and doesn?t relapse, all will be well between us?.
This podcast explains to addicts (not partners) the distinction between the addict?s recovery and the relationship, and very importantly, that acting out with porn is neither a consequence of a partner?s sexual availability/unavailability nor is it a substitute for a sexual relationship. Also, that fixing the porn habit alone doesn?t actually address the issues in the relationship. Both need work. In fact, I would say that the partner?s healing is the third element that needs its own TLC too.
Hope this helps some people here.
