Seeking support - PA says he can't give up P

I thought we were doing a soft mode reboot. Only O with each other,  no porn or masturbation. He recently relapsed again which is to be expected.  But when we were taking about what he thought led to the relapse and what to change.  He said he had been searching things and looking at the pictures on the first page.  He took it as a victory to not go further & said the words "I can't just quit cold turkey".

I feel like he isn't taking this seriously. I know he's been going to meetings,  and seeing a counselor.
We had discussed what was okay and not okay in a reboot and he's gone behind my back and has been looking and not being honest about it.

Is This normal in the recovery process? Am I wrong for being o upset?

Hi friend

Never and mean ever! Feel bad about your feelings they are there for a reason. I am currently in counseling and I realized that the only thing I can control is my feelings. His actions are out of your control.  His choice to lie is out of your control. You can only control yourself and what you will accept.

I'm not saying give up but set boundaries for yourself. If the situation becomes hostile, walk away. If the conversation leads to gaslighting or emotional abuse leave it. Set boundaries with yourself because that is the only person you can control.

Wish you well and hope you find peace. I'm here!

I am inclined to agree Set good boundaries and be consistent and firm on them. Seek support from here and anywhere you can, take care of yourself! If you feel like there is abuse/ gaslighting happening talk about it and if it doesn't improve then leave. Don't waste your life in a situation that will not get better, you deserve more than that. I would encourage you to get some counseling too. Porn addiction really impacts so much. I am constantly blown away by the many layers of my life that have been impacted.
Sending you love and prayers!